Im SO scared of giving birth! - Page 2

Cee108 · Apr 3rd, 2012, 08:02 AM

I agree with PP - trust your body.

I was so scared of what labour pains would be like, when I was fully dilated and ready to push, the midwives on duty commented on how exceptionally well I was dealing with the pain. The reason I was being so brave was... I kept on expecting it to get worse! LoL! Every time I'd have a pain wave, I'd think oh this is just a trailer, the next one will be awful and I'll scream uncontrollably. Er, no. Didn't happen

The pushing wasn't painful - it was SO HARD! Its like pooing a huge stone, LoL. Desperately uncomfortable and yes, the last part was painful... but I didn't care about the pain as long as it got rid of the awful pressure in my bottom. So, there. That's what it felt like to me - hope it makes you feel a bit better about the pain. And dont be afraid to ask your midwives lots of questions. They have seen it all and you're in experienced hands so try and trust their ability to get you through it okay.

RoxyRoo · Apr 3rd, 2012, 09:31 AM

Everybody else has given you such great advice so I don't have much to add. Just try to tell yourself that plenty of women do this everyday and the majority of labours are straightforward.

I had a pain relief free homebirth 6 months ago, I won't deny that it really hurt but it was also the most amazing experience of my life. Here's a link to my birth story if it might help? http://www.babyandbump.com/home-natu...mebirth-d.html

You can do this, believe in yourself

NaturalMomma · Apr 3rd, 2012, 20:43 PM

Don't read any more bad birth stories. For every bad birth story there are hundreds of good ones. Try to keep positive thoughts and don't stress yourself out, that's no good.

I was terrified too, but then I went into labor and that all went away as I knew I was going to meet my tiny new baby soon. After all that worry I had with my first pregnancy (I had trouble eating, kept making myself sick, couldn't sleep), I have another child who is almost 2 years old and I'm planning a third baby now

Lizzie K · Apr 3rd, 2012, 22:09 PM

I agree with what everyone else has said. Talk to your doctor about your worries. Make her listen to you. Quit reading bad birth stories. I have gone through it three times and am getting ready for a fourth. As far as the pain, I won't lie and say there's not really any, but it is manageable without medications. Or, if you choose to not have an epidural, but don't want to go totally drug-free, there are other things. With my second, I didn't have an epidural, but I got something in my IV that helped me relax and eased the pain enough for me to actually sleep between and even through some contractions. It did give me a bit of a "high" feeling, but that was part of the helping to relax.

XJessicaX · Apr 7th, 2012, 04:45 AM

You will get through it. You WILL be shit scared at first....but your body will do it all for you so you just need to chant to yourself (like I did) "I am going to meet my baby, its just one day of pain, I am going to meet my baby soon, its just ONE day of pain and then its all over"

goddess25 · Apr 7th, 2012, 11:27 AM

Wonder if the OP has had her baby, hope everything went fine!

If you are overdue you will be fine, labour and delivery while scary especially the first time can be a truly amazing empowering experience. My second birth was utterly perfect and I have never felt as strong and proud of myself....

aj74 · Apr 28th, 2012, 07:42 AM

Ive just been reading your post's.......im having my first around end of november, as its all new to me allsorts goes throught my head. The way i look at it you can read to much and it can be unhelpfull, you have to stay positive and think millions of women do this evey day. It may be easy for me to say as im only 9 and a half wks at the mo and when the time comes i may feel different but i jst think getting all panicky and worried will not do you any favours!! My friend has four wonderfull boys and she had epidurals with all of them so. Keep calm and I hope it all goes well for you, when is the baby due?

Bats11 · May 1st, 2012, 07:19 AM

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Originally Posted by aj74

Ive just been reading your post's.......im having my first around end of november, as its all new to me allsorts goes throught my head. The way i look at it you can read to much and it can be unhelpfull, you have to stay positive and think millions of women do this evey day. It may be easy for me to say as im only 9 and a half wks at the mo and when the time comes i may feel different but i jst think getting all panicky and worried will not do you any favours!! My friend has four wonderfull boys and she had epidurals with all of them so. Keep calm and I hope it all goes well for you, when is the baby due?

Yes true what your saying, but I wasnt scared first time either its the second time I was scared cause I know what Im in for & even though Im planning an epidural this time Im still scared, it all comes down to your own personal experience.

Ginag88 · May 1st, 2012, 11:22 AM

I'm sitting in the hospital right now after just giving birth. I was so scared I'd cry in the middle of the night. My experience is my own but I have to say reading all the horror stories doesn't help at all, it just makes you fear something that isn't going to happen and makes you miss out on the experience. My labor and birth was sooo pain free and surreal. I even got to record it. The worst part to me was when they had to change my epidural bag and I felt a real live contraction. Also recovery sucks a bit , my ass hurts alot but I'm fine, my baby is fine and I'm quite mad at myself for worrying. Good luck!!

00Melmel00 · May 4th, 2012, 05:49 AM

You need to speak to your midwife about this as soon as possible, its natural to worry a little bit as I'm sure most people do. But you poor thing shouldnt be this worried, try some relaxation techniques and try looking at the wonderful birth stories instead because its such a wonderful blessing and you will be fine and you will love it when you get to hold your baby in your arms for the first time

GoodLuck, chin up

x

Apr 3rd, 2012, 08:02 AM	#11
Cee108 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: London Posts: 729	I agree with PP - trust your body. I was so scared of what labour pains would be like, when I was fully dilated and ready to push, the midwives on duty commented on how exceptionally well I was dealing with the pain. The reason I was being so brave was... I kept on expecting it to get worse! LoL! Every time I'd have a pain wave, I'd think oh this is just a trailer, the next one will be awful and I'll scream uncontrollably. Er, no. Didn't happen The pushing wasn't painful - it was SO HARD! Its like pooing a huge stone, LoL. Desperately uncomfortable and yes, the last part was painful... but I didn't care about the pain as long as it got rid of the awful pressure in my bottom. So, there. That's what it felt like to me - hope it makes you feel a bit better about the pain. And dont be afraid to ask your midwives lots of questions. They have seen it all and you're in experienced hands so try and trust their ability to get you through it okay.

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 09:31 AM	#12
RoxyRoo Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Wales, UK Posts: 3,240	Everybody else has given you such great advice so I don't have much to add. Just try to tell yourself that plenty of women do this everyday and the majority of labours are straightforward. I had a pain relief free homebirth 6 months ago, I won't deny that it really hurt but it was also the most amazing experience of my life. Here's a link to my birth story if it might help? http://www.babyandbump.com/home-natu...mebirth-d.html You can do this, believe in yourself

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 20:43 PM	#13
NaturalMomma Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 2,592	Don't read any more bad birth stories. For every bad birth story there are hundreds of good ones. Try to keep positive thoughts and don't stress yourself out, that's no good. I was terrified too, but then I went into labor and that all went away as I knew I was going to meet my tiny new baby soon. After all that worry I had with my first pregnancy (I had trouble eating, kept making myself sick, couldn't sleep), I have another child who is almost 2 years old and I'm planning a third baby now

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 22:09 PM	#14
Lizzie K Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Louisville Posts: 487	I agree with what everyone else has said. Talk to your doctor about your worries. Make her listen to you. Quit reading bad birth stories. I have gone through it three times and am getting ready for a fourth. As far as the pain, I won't lie and say there's not really any, but it is manageable without medications. Or, if you choose to not have an epidural, but don't want to go totally drug-free, there are other things. With my second, I didn't have an epidural, but I got something in my IV that helped me relax and eased the pain enough for me to actually sleep between and even through some contractions. It did give me a bit of a "high" feeling, but that was part of the helping to relax.

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Apr 7th, 2012, 04:45 AM	#15
XJessicaX Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Cambridgshire UK Posts: 8,967	You will get through it. You WILL be shit scared at first....but your body will do it all for you so you just need to chant to yourself (like I did) "I am going to meet my baby, its just one day of pain, I am going to meet my baby soon, its just ONE day of pain and then its all over"

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Apr 7th, 2012, 11:27 AM	#16
goddess25 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: vancouver Posts: 9,268	Wonder if the OP has had her baby, hope everything went fine! If you are overdue you will be fine, labour and delivery while scary especially the first time can be a truly amazing empowering experience. My second birth was utterly perfect and I have never felt as strong and proud of myself....

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Apr 28th, 2012, 07:42 AM	#17
aj74 Pregnant (Expecting) New BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 5	Ive just been reading your post's.......im having my first around end of november, as its all new to me allsorts goes throught my head. The way i look at it you can read to much and it can be unhelpfull, you have to stay positive and think millions of women do this evey day. It may be easy for me to say as im only 9 and a half wks at the mo and when the time comes i may feel different but i jst think getting all panicky and worried will not do you any favours!! My friend has four wonderfull boys and she had epidurals with all of them so. Keep calm and I hope it all goes well for you, when is the baby due?

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May 1st, 2012, 11:22 AM	#19
Ginag88 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Brooklyn, New York Posts: 290	I'm sitting in the hospital right now after just giving birth. I was so scared I'd cry in the middle of the night. My experience is my own but I have to say reading all the horror stories doesn't help at all, it just makes you fear something that isn't going to happen and makes you miss out on the experience. My labor and birth was sooo pain free and surreal. I even got to record it. The worst part to me was when they had to change my epidural bag and I felt a real live contraction. Also recovery sucks a bit , my ass hurts alot but I'm fine, my baby is fine and I'm quite mad at myself for worrying. Good luck!!

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May 4th, 2012, 05:49 AM	#20
00Melmel00 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: England Posts: 102	You need to speak to your midwife about this as soon as possible, its natural to worry a little bit as I'm sure most people do. But you poor thing shouldnt be this worried, try some relaxation techniques and try looking at the wonderful birth stories instead because its such a wonderful blessing and you will be fine and you will love it when you get to hold your baby in your arms for the first time GoodLuck, chin up x

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