I am REALLY hoping for a natural birth (but I'm going in with an open mind) - and my OH doesn't seem strong enough.. he's my birth partner.. and I'm afraid he's going to let me cave into getting an epidural if I beg and plead enough.. and I'm sure I will, almost everybody does.
how do I get him to understand that he needs to be strong for me?
I second the doula option! DH really struggled first time round, and felt like a spare part. It took him a long time to get over the birth, and it was a calm waterbirth! We've employed our doula as much for him as for me.
Personally, I have a back-up birthing partner. This is also because OH might not be around when I go into labour since he is at collage all day, but my friend (who is going to school to be a midwife) knows my requests clearly and will be there in the first parts of labour unless I ask otherwise.
That's a rough situation...Then I would write out very clearly a simple birth plan, even if you are going in with an open mind. Give it to the nurses straight away (imo I'd even keep a copy in my hospital bag in case they misplace it), I'd imagine they would be considerate of your decisions. Hope they can make it though!
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