Labour without a husband/boyfriend or parents/family?
Has anyone gone through it? I know, although i'm really far away from delivering, i'm wondering how it will feel to be in the delivery room, basically without anyone present. I always dreamed of birth with a husband present, but things didn't quite turn out that way!
Has anyone experienced this? Any advice to prepare to cope with a lonely labour?
I was all alone with my youngest. All of the people we had lined up to watch our other two were unavailable so my husband had to just drop me off at the hospital. Luckily, I was only there for about an hour before he was born, so I didn't have time to stress over being alone. As the previous poster said, hire a doula or midwife. If I had known in advance I would have been alone, I would have gone that route.
I gave birth to my LO alone in my bathroom, so not exactly in a labour ward but similar. I must of laboured throughout the night (but was asleep and kept waking in pain) then woke up, felt the baby's head, got to the bathroom and delivered her and sorted her out myself.
It was lonely looking back, but instinct kicks in and you do what your body wants/needs in order to safely deliver your baby. You don't think about being alone etc, you just get on with it.
As a PP said, why not get a doula or maybe ask a friend along for support?
Can you ask FOB to be there? My DH helped me to remain calm and for some pain relief, plus help in getting things/ getting up when I needed to. You will probably need help after the birth going to the restroom as well. The pads they gave me required 2 people to be able to put them on.
Thank you all for your responses. The situation is that this was an unexpected pregnancy after 9 years of being infertile and I have decided, for the best, to stay away from FOB as he turned out to be quite abusive and don't see how he would be of any positive support during pregnancy or when labour comes.
I have a midwife and hopefully, there won't be any complications so I can keep working with her, but hiring a doula is out of the question as i can't afford that cost.
It would nice though if it was a quick labour like you described Lizzie. Won't have time to think of who's not there or going through it mostly in my sleep.
I have a sister who has a very very strong aversion to childbirth and newborn babies, so i know she won't be there. My mother is going through her own health challenges right now and is not too mobile. So I'm really trying to be prepare to do this on my own.
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