Irishdad needs help

IrishDaddy. · Apr 8th, 2012, 08:41 AM

Hi my name is lee.

Im a bit confused on what am i going to have to do when my other half is having our son/daughter im not to sure on what to do in this situation
please help me....
Thanks for reading

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holly2234 · Apr 8th, 2012, 13:22 PM

Just be there for her, do whatever she says and try not to smother her.

The best thing my DH did was shut up! He was there and i twisted his thumb backwards and he didnt even say anything!

NuKe · Apr 8th, 2012, 13:25 PM

whatever she wants! it really helped me just having my husband in the room! ask if she wants you to rub her back, get her a drink etc every so often. im sure she'll let you know what she needs!

IrishDaddy. · Apr 8th, 2012, 13:37 PM

Thank you for your help and advice from both of you

And im always aking is she okay and does she want me to do anything for her. Im always there for her no matter what day or nite.

I love being with her it means the world to me i try my best for her but im not sure if ts enough i want to do m ore and try harder...
Thanks.

holly2234 · Apr 8th, 2012, 14:09 PM

Sounds like youre on the right track

When is the baby due?

lozzy21 · Apr 8th, 2012, 14:21 PM

You could learn some simple massage techniques, hand, foot and back ones.

IrishDaddy. · Apr 8th, 2012, 14:31 PM

well im being told i am anyway and im giving messages already ha

and my lil jelly bean is due in october

thanks

MrsKB 82 · Apr 8th, 2012, 15:51 PM

Talk to her beforehand and ask her what she wants you to do. Then bear in mind this may all change on the day, lol!
I've told my hubby I don't want him "coaching" me (we watched One Born Every Minute this week where the husband was telling his wife to "breathe" while the midwife was telling her to hold her breath while pushing). I don't want there to be any confusion, so will leave the instructions to the midwives, but my Hubby's encouragement and support will be invaluable. He's also been instructed to stay at the "top end" if you know what I mean!
Your partner will just be glad to have you there.
xxx

IrishDaddy. · Apr 8th, 2012, 15:59 PM

Well i want to hold her hand and be there but i reall wana see my child beig born but i dunno if i wil faint or not ha but we s far both agreed that since im the dad il be cutting the cord

which makes me so happy and il be there for her no matter whatand ill do what ever she wants whenever she wants...

xx

jillypoop · Apr 8th, 2012, 16:24 PM

Don't get upset at her if she says anything hurtful as she doesn't mean it. If she does what I did and spends most of the labour screaming "I cant do it!" just keep on telling her she can and tell her how much she means to you, my OH did that and it gave me that lift that I needed when I just wanted to give up.

The fact that you've come on here shows how supportive you are being and shows that you're going to be a great dad

Oh and if she poops during labour don't tell all your mates once you're back home from hospital!

Remember to look after yourself too, the last thing your girlfriend needs is to be worrying about you

Good luck! x

Lozzy has a great idea, my contractions were all in my back so OH spent the whole labour rubbing my back and it calmed me down and helped a bit with the pain.

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IrishDaddy. Father to be Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: ireland Posts: 22	Irishdad needs help Hi my name is lee. Im a bit confused on what am i going to have to do when my other half is having our son/daughter im not to sure on what to do in this situation please help me.... Thanks for reading .

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holly2234 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: New York Posts: 5,605	Just be there for her, do whatever she says and try not to smother her. The best thing my DH did was shut up! He was there and i twisted his thumb backwards and he didnt even say anything!

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NuKe Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: N. Ireland Posts: 13,888	whatever she wants! it really helped me just having my husband in the room! ask if she wants you to rub her back, get her a drink etc every so often. im sure she'll let you know what she needs!

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IrishDaddy. Father to be Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: ireland Posts: 22	Thank you for your help and advice from both of you And im always aking is she okay and does she want me to do anything for her. Im always there for her no matter what day or nite. I love being with her it means the world to me i try my best for her but im not sure if ts enough i want to do m ore and try harder... Thanks.

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holly2234 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: New York Posts: 5,605	Sounds like youre on the right track When is the baby due?

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lozzy21 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Teesside, Posts: 23,618	You could learn some simple massage techniques, hand, foot and back ones.

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Apr 8th, 2012, 14:31 PM	#7
IrishDaddy. Father to be Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: ireland Posts: 22	well im being told i am anyway and im giving messages already ha and my lil jelly bean is due in october thanks

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Apr 8th, 2012, 15:51 PM	#8
MrsKB 82 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Essex, England Posts: 502	Talk to her beforehand and ask her what she wants you to do. Then bear in mind this may all change on the day, lol! I've told my hubby I don't want him "coaching" me (we watched One Born Every Minute this week where the husband was telling his wife to "breathe" while the midwife was telling her to hold her breath while pushing). I don't want there to be any confusion, so will leave the instructions to the midwives, but my Hubby's encouragement and support will be invaluable. He's also been instructed to stay at the "top end" if you know what I mean! Your partner will just be glad to have you there. xxx

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Apr 8th, 2012, 15:59 PM	#9
IrishDaddy. Father to be Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: ireland Posts: 22	Well i want to hold her hand and be there but i reall wana see my child beig born but i dunno if i wil faint or not ha but we s far both agreed that since im the dad il be cutting the cord which makes me so happy and il be there for her no matter whatand ill do what ever she wants whenever she wants... xx

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Apr 8th, 2012, 16:24 PM	#10
jillypoop Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Carlisle Posts: 864	Don't get upset at her if she says anything hurtful as she doesn't mean it. If she does what I did and spends most of the labour screaming "I cant do it!" just keep on telling her she can and tell her how much she means to you, my OH did that and it gave me that lift that I needed when I just wanted to give up. The fact that you've come on here shows how supportive you are being and shows that you're going to be a great dad Oh and if she poops during labour don't tell all your mates once you're back home from hospital! Remember to look after yourself too, the last thing your girlfriend needs is to be worrying about you Good luck! x Lozzy has a great idea, my contractions were all in my back so OH spent the whole labour rubbing my back and it calmed me down and helped a bit with the pain.

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