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Old Dec 9th, 2016, 06:01 AM   1181
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I just went through a loss at 29 weeks and 1 day on November 23, 2016 and ive heard so many of those lines plus some. Does make it hurt alot worse. Id rather silence, a hug or simply say im sorry for i dont know what your going through, or what a few have said to me.. "Ive never had your loss, for there are no words to say."
This has been very hard to cope with. I just dont know... i know nothing anymore.
I am sorry for your loss. Life is very cruel and unfair. I'm glad blue pointed you into the direction of the stillbirth and neonatal loss section, there and SANDS forum are the place that I couldn't have got through my first stillbirth without (I have had two and sixteen miscarriages but already had the support I needed for the second and miscarriages). Almost a decade on and they're still my closest friends. Surround yourself with people who "get it", no explanation needed.

There are support groups on Facebook too. SANDS also offer face to face support groups and a phone line. The hospital may have one too and a service at this time of year too.

Also I am here to talk to, as someone who has been there. Just message me any time xx



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Old Dec 10th, 2016, 05:19 AM   1182
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I just went through a loss at 29 weeks and 1 day on November 23, 2016 and ive heard so many of those lines plus some. Does make it hurt alot worse. Id rather silence, a hug or simply say im sorry for i dont know what your going through, or what a few have said to me.. "Ive never had your loss, for there are no words to say."
This has been very hard to cope with. I just dont know... i know nothing anymore.
Stemalia, so sorry to hear of your loss. I lost a son at 21 weeks last year after 5 first tri miscarriages. There's just no pain like it. I just agree with all Tasha's advice & I would particularly recommend seeing if there are any SANDS groups near you (or you can go online) - it was a lifeline for us. Eventually you will learn to cope with the grief & function again; it will always be there but not quite so raw. But there's no timescale on grief. Let yourself feel the pain & cry for your little one as much as you need. You're their mummy after all Was it a little boy or a girl & did you choose a name (if you're wanting to reveal that information on here)?



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Old Dec 11th, 2016, 14:26 PM   1183
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Was a girl, her name was Rowyn Kaye.



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Old Dec 11th, 2016, 18:45 PM   1184
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Rowyn is a lovely name.



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Old Dec 14th, 2016, 02:53 AM   1185
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Was a girl, her name was Rowyn Kaye.
What a beautiful name for a daughter who I'm sure was very beautiful too



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Old Dec 14th, 2016, 14:50 PM   1186
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That's a beautiful name x



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