Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

Still nowt but a squinter MrsM :/
I do have very sore bbs though but I've been down this road before.
I'm going to leave it now til Weds and am gonna get dh to poas to make sure they are not sneaky little evaps x.

I hope it's a positive for you. There have been lots of bfp's on my usual thread this week and I'm feeling a bit displaced. I was kind of expecting to be joining them in PAL this month. I don't know why I had such a good feeling about my last couple of cycles.

Me too, MrsM, It's even worse when you have a chemical, that's the pitfall of early testing I suppose.
I suppsose it's just sheer desperation on our part and who can blame us. x

Nobody. A new lady on the other thread was apologising for sounding desperate. I told her that there is absolutely no shame in that, it's why we're all here.
I'm starting to get cold after cold now, and skin breakouts which is unusual for me. I think the stress of this is starting to get to me. I feel bad for Mark, and realised I hardly talk to him unless it's about our daughter or ttc. I have become mute, staring at my iPhone all the time talking on here. He must be a saint to put up with it.
I'm worried I'm focussing too much on what I don't have and losing sight of what I do, and I can't seem to pull myself out of it.

Wow take a weeks break an I had 15 pages to catch up son here goes I'll al Olivier in advance if I miss anyone xxx

So sorry for your your losses madrid, emptiyinside, acudoc, cobiforever, goodgirl35 & cb1 x

Beauts & tick hope your month off does you good I agree with mrs mig wish I was brave enough to do that would prob do me good x

Thanks for the lovely hope stories lamb, chezney an kemp x

Bumpy so glad everything progressing nicely for you congrats xx

Tasha so sorry for all your losses x the grave stone is gorgeous what a lovely tribute xxx

Annmarie what a lovely offer I wish I could up sticks an come for a wee while (I can dream) hope your doggy feeling better x well done on the weight loss x hope your fertility bracelet works lol there will be a massive surge in sales from us if you get your bfp x I would also love to be a midwife even my boss has told me I should go do it an it's not too late but I just can't fit 4 yrs of uni into my life esp if there go ing to hopefully be an addition x I was my friends birthing partner on Xmas eve it was the best experience ever x

Smiling 35 love your hair how easy will that be to maintain! Hope your tests go well x

Sunny welcome back to uk x so sorry about your results must be very hard knowing what your baby would have been big hugs to you xxx

Sara congrats on your wedding wishing you health wealth & happiness xxx

Justkeeptrying wow 2 wombs it is very technical I hope you get your sticky bean in one of them soon x is there a chance you could carry a baby in each at the same time? X

Never & heart hope you are both keeping well xxx

Lee so sorry you had more announcements to deal with but I'm glad to see you an oh are getting on better x I'm also praying your lines get darker an this is your sticky bean at long last xxx

Mrs mig gl at docs on thurs x I'm also in shock about ****** I can't believe someone could make up lies she was on a facebook group with us I feel cheated that I gave her my sympathy! Ive heard she's joined back under another alias but I'm sure it won't be long till shes caught out again x makes you wonder what makes some folk tick eh!

Amos hope your well x

Empty inside I have 3 daughters an of coure I'm so grateful for that but I'm also sick of People reminding me that! I know I'm lucky but I dont think that makes my losses any easier to deal with well maybe a little compared to those with none but it's still very hard x everyone seems to forget no one asks how I am anymore 4 losses in 7 months is something no one can understand unless they've been there but they seem to forget so easily or rather brush it under the carpet but hey ho I've got all you lovely ladies on here thankfully x

Phew!!! I know I've prob missed a few again I'm sorry x

Afm I was taking a break from here but there's so much to catch up on when I do that it's more stress than it's worth lol x I'm in my fertile wk I'm not sure if I've ov'd not noticed ewcm but we've had a nice sexy wk end lol just in case x I'm not holding out hope for this month so I'm fine with bfn an it'll give me another month of mental healing so I'm just gonna enjoy the practicing lol I know my hubby is! Feeling quite calm hope I still feel like this in a fortnight! I'm feeling more like myself again an my mc's not constantly on my mind like they were so time def a healer x I'm a bit scared though in my heart I totally believe next bfp will be "the one" but my head says it might not or it might not happen so right now I need to come to terms with all poss outcomes x my plan of action is to keep my self busy my youngest is 5 in April an I'm planning her party so that's helping keep my mind of things x I go back to work tomorrow so slowly but surely things going back to normal whatever normal is lol x

Mrs mig I too was at the stage I thought about nothing else I'm slowly trying to change that x I'm trying to take the what will be will be approach an it's working for now not sure if I'm still not pregnant in a couple of months if this will still be the case though x i think it's only normal to dwell on what you don't have esp in our situations x big hugs to you xxx

Oh I knew there was something I missed I think Madrid an cb1 both said they had scans an baby must have passed not long after with my recent mc I was same had scan at 8+5 everything fine then scan at 9+5 showed baby must have passed just after 1st scan x someone on another thread said this was happening a lot I've tried googling it but can find any connection anyone else got any input on this x

Originally Posted by heart tree

Just, are you a candidate for IUI? Can they choose which womb to put the sperm into? It might be a good option for you too.

Hi Heart, glad things are going so well for you over in PAL. Well thats never been mentioned to me about IUI. But Im going to keeo that in mind if no success after more cycles.
Basically at my hysteroscopy in December the consultant told me that I have two normal sized wombs. The right side is definetely my dominant as it is straight ahead where it should be and has perfect endometrial lining.
My left womb is slightly off to the side and is the correct size and capable of holding a pregnancy but the lining was very minimal and the cervix to that one slightly underdeveloped. So thats why Im convinced that the left side is not good for implantation and I dont like the thought of teh cervix being underdeveloped as maybe it wouldnt hold.
I dont know which womb my first pregnancy was in but the second time it was definetely in the right womb.
We started ttc in November 2010 and had no success for 3 cycles but then I bought my CBFM and it worked first time. I assumed it was the monitor that worked a miracle but now looking back Im thinking that maybe those 3 unsuccessful cycles were the left side ovulating who knows!
We have only had two cycles without success this time around but if it continues this way I will ask about IUI. xx

Originally Posted by Mrskg

Justkeeptrying wow 2 wombs it is very technical I hope you get your sticky bean in one of them soon x is there a chance you could carry a baby in each at the same time? X



Afm I was taking a break from here but there's so much to catch up on when I do that it's more stress than it's worth lol x I'm in my fertile wk I'm not sure if I've ov'd not noticed ewcm but we've had a nice sexy wk end lol just in case x I'm not holding out hope for this month so I'm fine with bfn an it'll give me another month of mental healing so I'm just gonna enjoy the practicing lol I know my hubby is! Feeling quite calm hope I still feel like this in a fortnight! I'm feeling more like myself again an my mc's not constantly on my mind like they were so time def a healer x I'm a bit scared though in my heart I totally believe next bfp will be "the one" but my head says it might not or it might not happen so right now I need to come to terms with all poss outcomes x my plan of action is to keep my self busy my youngest is 5 in April an I'm planning her party so that's helping keep my mind of things x I go back to work tomorrow so slowly but surely things going back to normal whatever normal is lol x

Hi, yes that correct I could carry two babies at a time in seperate wombs. Or there has been occasions where a woman had triplets..one is a womb of its own and the other had twins in it, its bizarre. You can also conceive whilst already pregnant, there has been woman with babies that are at different gestational ages!
It is quite an amazing thing but also a worry as it places me at higher risk aswell.
I have two wombs each with their own cervix but only one vagina so never ever did I suspect that I was different. Some woman actually have a vaginal septum that runs all of the way down so that would be a give away sign early on I guess.
The consultant that I seen said that he had only seen one woman with this in 7 years, and then another woman just two weeks before I was referred to him which was strange. But he reassured me that this woman has 4 kids and that it has high success rates as its still full sized wombs.
It got discovered at my D&C so I then got referred for a kidney scan and sure enough I only have one kidney, apparently uterine anomalies and kidney problems go hand in hand. Although Ive never had any issues.
I love it when I find other woman on this forum that have didelphys/two wombs as its so rare. Ive spoke to several people on here and they more or less all have babies now.
The thing that stressed me with the last pregnancy was at 8 weeks when my period was due I started heavily bleeding with clots and told that Id miscarried. I cried my eyes out but the following day they gave me a scan and teh baby was still there and the bleeding was coming from the non pregnant womb trying to carry on as normal. Thats what I worry about happening again. So Ive pushed for progesterone next time around which the miscarriage consultant reluctantly agreed to.

You also asked me that Lee, whether Im on cyclogest. Im not and wont be until Im pregnant. The doctor that I seen at the miscarriage clinic really dosent agree with progesterone. He said that it can cause defects such as masculinising a female foetus. But Id never heard of that. I presented my case to him that my mum had 5 miscarriages and needed progesterone to have 3 of us. Also that I really suspect I have low progesterone. He ended up saying that he would let me have it if I want along with the heparin.

MrsKg, your right that its awful you've had 4 losses in 7 months, thats a lot to contend with despite the fact that you have your other children. Whenever I get a BFN I've had a good cry about it and then tell myself that its another month to get myself mentally stronger. I try to keep getting stronger whilst we're waiting for this. Good luck this month xx

Hi Lee, so your lines are still quite faint?, its like torture wondering whether it is evaps or not. I really thought that Id get my peak today on my monitor but still a high. DTD anyway last night, I like your moto that you make sure theres a weeks worth of good stuff in there just waiting, you need to cover all bases though dont you ! Will be interesting to see if your DH gets a line or not xx