Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

My brief story of the girls spoilered cos I understand there are pregnant women who read this

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Yes with Riley Rae they took me off at sixteen weeks, despite me saying she would die if they did. They also ignored the fact there was brain sparing (oxygen gets sent only to the brain so baby survives as long as possible this shows up on other organs), she was tiny (3rd centile then 1st) etc. Doctors have said there was never any research that said anyone should come off at 16 weeks. And with Honey my waters broke at 28 weeks + 6 I was left for eight weeks with no waters, guidelines say that she should of been delivered by 34 weeks at the latest given I had had an infection but they pushed and pushed, then they over measured her tummy by 10cm's six days before she died.

Sounds like you have a good care plan. I do need it for the whole pregnancy + 6-12 weeks after.

We are 19 minutes from Riley Rae's first birthday

Lots of love Tasha. Happy Birthday Riley Rae, precious angel.

Thinking about you Tasha. Much love.

Hugs tashaxxxx
Mrs kg, fx for a bfp, my cycles this month was only 25 days,never had a peak on cbfm, I bled for about 5 days so didn't bother doing a preg test, you git me thinking about testing....have no symptoms though,so I doubt it.
Those who take aspiring, do you take it from o, bfp or throughout? I take mine daily...
Amos,when's your scan?
Hi to everyone else..
Hope lee is doing ok, really miss her not being here....

Hi Mandy, I started taking aspirin before ttc. Ive read that it helps with implantation and it has for me. Although Ive read others say it can affect implantation. My first pregnancy without aspirin I spotted non stop and only ever got 1-2 weeks on a digital at about 16dpo as it obviously couldnt implant well. My 2nd pregnancy I started the aspirin whilst ttc and it obviously helped implantation as I had no spotting and got 2-3 weekst at 13dpo.
This time its worked aswell!

Hi girls...
I am taking aspirin this month, started yesterday as am now 4dpo so thought I should start now....I hope I haven't started too early and it mucks up the implantation! I have got really achy boobs....started yesterday! I never get sore boobs this early!! I miss Lee too! I hope she's ok.
I had a terrible time on friday night....me and OH had another massive row and again it turned a violent except this time he pushed me around! He hasn't apologised for it and hasn't tried to make it up. I went and stayed at my mums because I was so scared of what he would do! The problem I have is that I know he's going through alot with his Dad and I think the pressure he must be under is crazy! also he's just been laid off work too! I know it's no excuse I just wonder whether I should stick with him or just draw a line under it and move on? I hate it when we argue and we have alot recently, more bad days than good if you know what I mean...but I also think better the devil you know sometimes! Oh I don't know I just feel weak and exhausted by it all
I have been reading everyones updates on here every day just haven't had much to say recently....trying to get over the mc so haven't been great company, so sorry if I've been a bit aloof.

Hope everyone's doing ok, Mrs kg, how's things? xx

AnnMarie I'm so sorry you have been through this. I don't think being pushed around is acceptable. My ex husbands temper always used to frighten me and I was constantly wary. Leaving is a tough decision though.

Hi AnneMarie, sorry your going through a hard time. I agree being physically pushed around is unacceptable. I remember you posting before saying aswell that you were scared to show emotion or cry around him because of the response you would get. Its a really difficult one that only you can call. As you've said "better the devil you know" that seems the same as thinking better to be with him that noone at all and I dont think that is right. I think you deserve a lot better, and for him not to have apologised yet thats not a good sign. I think you do need to have time at your mums and have a long hard think about things. It must be the scariest thing is the world having to leave but what will the future hold otherwise!
I know what a strain this whole ttc and miscarrying business has on relationships but I dont think thats an excuse for being physical! Take care x

my kids dad used to push me around but because that was all he did I stuck by him until one day I caught him flirting with his boss over the phone an went to walk out he lost it threw me up against the front door an picked me up by my neck an strangled me I believe im lucky I had my phone in my hand my son who was 3 at the time was screaming dont kill my mommy its then I realized I had to leave I had to beat him off me with the phone in my hand an grab both kids age 3 and 9 months an run for it

Annmarie I lurk here mostly now and you might not know me, but I wanted to express my concern for you. As the others have said, being pushed is not acceptable nor is it normal behavior. Additionally if you are afraid to show emotions around him and you find yourself scared of him this is an indication of mental abuse as well. We often think of abuse as only physical, but it also can manifest as emotional, mental and spiritual abuse. They are all equally as bad. You mention that he's very stressed right now. That may be. But when are we ever stress free? If you got pregnant and had a baby with him, do you believe that would ease the stress or compound it? Only you can answer that.

Was this the first time he's been physical? Has his behavior escalated? It sounds to me like it has. It also sounds to me that you are afraid of further escalation. I have no doubt you care about him and are concerned for his emotions and needs. My worry is that he isn't thinking about yours and that you could find yourself in an even scarier situation. I applaud you for going to your moms. I also applaud you for being open about this. It's nothing to be ashamed about. You did nothing wrong. It begs to be discussed. Is there a professional you could talk to? There is a lot you need to sort out and decide. I know it's easier for someone like me to tell you to leave him, but I know it's not that simple. I think what is more simple is to seek out a counselor who can help you work this out and who can help formulate a plan if you find yourself in another situation like this.

I wish you the best. xoxo