hello sorry we all have to meet like this. Ile try and share my story breifly without going into TMI.
I m/c twice in the space of 6 months.. my 1st at 9 weeks and my 2nd at 16 weeks. I was offered no tests and was told to wait and if i have 3rd m/c they will then test me.
has anyone else had to wait till they have had 3?
Hi Zoe. So sorry for your losses. Unfortunately it is standard practice in the UK to not class you as having recurrent miscarriages until you have mc'd 3 times (2 times if you're over 35). I too have mc'd twice in 6 months. It is so distressing when you've lost a baby and the only question you want answering is "why?" They can't answer that question though, sometimes even with tests they can't answer it. I'm so sorry that you've lost 2 angels and I know how frustrated you must feel about them not testing. If you can afford it you can get the blood tests done privately. Alternatively you can opt for complimentary therapy like acupuncture and creative healing. There are some good books out there too that can help you.
to you hon. I hope you get some answers in some form soon.
i am heartbroken. many of you will know my story of 17 losses due to graves disease and then a successful pregnancy. well at 34 weeks my baby died yesterday from a true knot and having the umbilical cord around her neck and strangulation. i am so lost and do not know what to do.
i had a scan yesterday am and everything was fine but baby died at about 4.30pm. she had a seizure due to the lack of oxygen. i have been given a tablet to induce labour and sent home till tomorrow, although i so wanted a natural birth they refused and booked me in for a c-section on 6th august but now i am able to have one. it feels so cruel. i am now waiting for labour to start and do not know how i am meant to deliver her knowing she is not alive. are there any of you who have been through this and can help me get my head around this?
oh hunni i am so so sorry i am lost for words! all i can say is you will be in my thoughts and i hope that the labour goes quickly for you and you get to spend as much time as you can with your special little angel. life is so so cruel! huge coming your way.
Hedgewitch, and more . I can't offer any advice, but I can offer a listening ear, so please vent as you need to. I am so sorry and I wish you strength to endure this.
Zoe87- You definitly don't have to sensor your story here and i'm sorry for you losses. I had testing done after the 2nd, but its because the dr was a little nicer about it I guess. But everything did come back normal, which is great, but still sucks because I think its easier to have something wrong so we can fix it, if its fixable. At this point i'm still looking for answers. They do test the hormones/ progesterone, but for some reason you have to request it and push for it. Hopefully i'll be able to get that done soon, I have to wait 1 more cycle after this one.
Hi there - im on MC 3 but in 8 years and doc is sending me off for testing. Got first round of appointments in August, he was really considerate and just asked "how much do you want a baby" and then typed the referral, seems to be the good old postcode lottery sometimes.
Oh Hedgewitch I don't know what to say. I am so so sorry for your loss. I'm not sure what advice I can give you but know that everyone on here will be here for you. There is a forum for stillbirths, neo-natal loss and sids where some ladies on there may be able to help you further xx Thinking of you
Zoe - it all depends on where you live. In my area they offer tests after 2 mcs, although I have had 3 and all tests came back as fine... so sometimes you don't get the answer you want. Sorry for your losses x
Every hospital iv been in its 3 m/cs before testing, every specialist iv spoken to said they take 2 m/cs as normal.. as they say a woman can suffer two before a healthy one. i suppose if they tested everyone at 2 nobody would get seen half the time.. i refused to be seen untill 4 because i wouldnt accept it. alot of dr's are the same. some are quite rude...
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