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Old Sep 28th, 2017, 14:01 PM   23311
xJessie91x
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Hey all!

I'm 26 from the UK and I have a beautiful 4 year old son. (I had minor bleeding with him but a fairly straight forward pregnancy) fast forward a few years and after a dramatic situation and a failed marriage with his father I am in another relationship. We've been together 2 years and decided to try for a very much wanted sibling for George. I had my implant removed and I seem to be able to fall pregnant very quickly. My issue is keeping baby safe. January we miscarried at 5 weeks. June we miscarried again at about 8 weeks and this month we lost a third baby at about 6 weeks. My doctors are doing some simple blood tests and a swab for bv in October and I've been referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic and my appointment is in November.
Feeling very nervous and just hope I can have more babies! It's been an emotional year. Hope you are all well and look forward to getting to know you all



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Old Oct 8th, 2017, 18:11 PM   23312
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Hello,

I'm saddened to hear of your loss and having loss a few in a similar way and at the same stage, I understand your pain and hope to be able to have another child. Thought I can't say that God will bless it to happen, I can say that He can, as I've had four children, two much later in age. And one of them I had after losing two in the early weeks of pregnancy. In addition to praying for peace and trusting God for the right time, what helped for me was that my gynecologist thought to do a sonogram (not just directly after the loss), but later on and he found a mass (which he then scheduled me for a curettage and removed) that was a remain from the last baby loss. The mass apparently was impeding another embryo from being able to properly form in my uterus. So, I thought I'd share that in case you haven't had a sonogram in a while after the loss of your last baby. My prayers will be with you.



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Old Jan 31st, 2018, 15:02 PM   23313
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Hello Girls,
I am new and I want to share my story of 2 losses (missed miscarriage) and here back form you if anyone has faced this type of issue.
Here is my 1st loss:
I was pregnant (unexpected), I came to know at 6 weeks and went to doctor for 1st Ultrasound at 8 weeks, by this time we see that little bean and heartbeat of 176BPM and everything was good till then and for me 2nd visit at 12 weeks they repeated the ultrasound and its a shock, baby's HB was gone at 8W 2days and it was declared as Missed Miscarriage (MMC).
I waited for 2 more weeks to see it comes out naturally but no luck and doctor recommended me D&C and it was done.

2nd Loss:
I was pregnant within 1 month (planned), I requested for my 1st doctor appointment and they did 1st Ultrasound at 8 weeks 1 day, by this time we again see that little bean and heartbeat of 153 BPM and everything was good, because of my previous MMC I was nervous all the time and wanted to have one more abdominal ultrasound at the end of 9th weeks and we see there is no heartbeat and baby is dead at 8weeks 2 days it repeated again and it was one more D&C for me because this time doctor wanted to test the tissue of the fetus and we got the results back :
It was mentioned the baby is a 'Girl' and abnormal chromosome (Monosomy X) (45, X)
and doctor recommended us today for High risk doctor for further.

Please Please anyone advice/ suggest / Let me know had heard or went through(sorry) this issue and please reply me back is there any success stories for this issue.

And again I am really sorry for all of our losses and I hope we will all get a beautiful baby soon



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Old Feb 6th, 2018, 11:01 AM   23314
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so sorry that this is happening to you flower52

Did you speak to a genetics counselor to see if this is something that might occur again? I know with IVF procedures, you can pay to have testing down on your embryos so that you can make sure only the healthiest embryo gets transferred. This might help overcome your obstacle. Sending hugs



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Old Apr 23rd, 2018, 13:54 PM   23315
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I have two healthy boys, ages 4 and 2. Two years ago in July, I was pregnant unexpectedly. For some reason, I wanted to get into the doctor before 10 weeks to make sure everything was ok. I went in around 7 weeks and there was no heartbeat. They set up an appointment a week and a half later to do another ultrasound, and there still was no heartbeat. I ended up having a d&c because my body would not naturally miscarry.

One year later exactly, I was pregnant again. This time, I miscarried naturally around 7 weeks. I just could not believe it. I was in shock.

Now, my husband and I are completing trying again. A family member of mine actually said maybe my body is telling me something and I should not try again. I know they are not coming from a cruel place, but I almost fee guilty if we would try again. It is just hard for me because we had two boys perfectly healthy and my pregnancies had no complications. I am only 27, so age really would not be a factor. I am mostly putting this out there so I feel I have a voice in a group where women know and feel my pain. If you have any thoughts or advice, I would love to hear it.



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Old Apr 23rd, 2018, 21:42 PM   23316
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I have two healthy boys, ages 4 and 2. Two years ago in July, I was pregnant unexpectedly. For some reason, I wanted to get into the doctor before 10 weeks to make sure everything was ok. I went in around 7 weeks and there was no heartbeat. They set up an appointment a week and a half later to do another ultrasound, and there still was no heartbeat. I ended up having a d&c because my body would not naturally miscarry.

One year later exactly, I was pregnant again. This time, I miscarried naturally around 7 weeks. I just could not believe it. I was in shock.

Now, my husband and I are completing trying again. A family member of mine actually said maybe my body is telling me something and I should not try again. I know they are not coming from a cruel place, but I almost fee guilty if we would try again. It is just hard for me because we had two boys perfectly healthy and my pregnancies had no complications. I am only 27, so age really would not be a factor. I am mostly putting this out there so I feel I have a voice in a group where women know and feel my pain. If you have any thoughts or advice, I would love to hear it.
Hi hon. Iím sorry for your losses. I donít have great advice but i went through a very similar situation, including age. Had 2 boys 16 months apart then a chemical followed by 3 miscarriages. I then had difficulty conceiving. Consulting an RE was the best decision I made and even though the road was so hard i did have a rainbow boy in Oct.
People told me the same things. Itís heartbreaking and ignorant but they donít mean to be cruel as youíve said. Having miscarriages isnít a message to be done always. Sending hugs.



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Old Jun 17th, 2018, 10:48 AM   23317
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Well, here I am graduating from the First Trimester page with a dead baby inside me for the second time. I have a healthy four year old. I miscarried in 2014; it's taken me 3 and a half years to conceive again just to go through it again. My last one was dubbed "no heartbeat" at 8w. Yesterday, at 8w5d I went to emergency for light bleeding and again was given the "no heartbeat" diagnosis.

With the first loss I started bleeding and didn't stop until everything was out. Everything passed within the day.
This time there was very light spotting and now I wait. It doesn't feel real. I'm actually hopeful their machines were wrong. Although the only symptom is that my heavy breast pain is now gone.

I just feel like I hate everything and everybody! My husband couldn't care less.



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Old Jun 18th, 2018, 09:27 AM   23318
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Well, here I am graduating from the First Trimester page with a dead baby inside me for the second time. I have a healthy four year old. I miscarried in 2014; it's taken me 3 and a half years to conceive again just to go through it again. My last one was dubbed "no heartbeat" at 8w. Yesterday, at 8w5d I went to emergency for light bleeding and again was given the "no heartbeat" diagnosis.

With the first loss I started bleeding and didn't stop until everything was out. Everything passed within the day.
This time there was very light spotting and now I wait. It doesn't feel real. I'm actually hopeful their machines were wrong. Although the only symptom is that my heavy breast pain is now gone.

I just feel like I hate everything and everybody! My husband couldn't care less.
Squig, not sure if you remember ms from 2014 but we were on several threads together. My heart breaks for you and I am here for you. I am so terribly sorry for the diagnosis but also pray that their machines were also wrong. I'm sending you loads of love, hugs and support. I'm sure your husband cares, men just process things differently than we'd like. It's OK to be angry, sad, etc. You're entitled. We are here for you though.



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Old Jun 19th, 2018, 17:09 PM   23319
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Well, here I am graduating from the First Trimester page with a dead baby inside me for the second time. I have a healthy four year old. I miscarried in 2014; it's taken me 3 and a half years to conceive again just to go through it again. My last one was dubbed "no heartbeat" at 8w. Yesterday, at 8w5d I went to emergency for light bleeding and again was given the "no heartbeat" diagnosis.

With the first loss I started bleeding and didn't stop until everything was out. Everything passed within the day.
This time there was very light spotting and now I wait. It doesn't feel real. I'm actually hopeful their machines were wrong. Although the only symptom is that my heavy breast pain is now gone.

I just feel like I hate everything and everybody! My husband couldn't care less.
Squig, not sure if you remember ms from 2014 but we were on several threads together. My heart breaks for you and I am here for you. I am so terribly sorry for the diagnosis but also pray that their machines were also wrong. I'm sending you loads of love, hugs and support. I'm sure your husband cares, men just process things differently than we'd like. It's OK to be angry, sad, etc. You're entitled. We are here for you though.

I recognize your name, but you must have had a different avatar photo. Thank you for your support!

I'm definitely having all the emotions. My husband is glad. He pretended to be happy when I announced and he pretended to cry when I lost. He's resentful of the one child we have, he has not wanted anymore. I'm only with him at this point because I have nowhere to go.

I just don't understand life's plan. My whole life I wanted to be a mom. And now all it gives me is grief. I have one child and feel so alone with him. I wanted a family! My whole life all I wanted was a family! I'm not handling well. I thought going through it already would make me stronger this time but it's not. I'm feeling hateful and suicidal. I just don't get what life is. It's a punishment! Life is a punishment!!!

The worst part is sitting here waiting for all the pain and blood to start. Anticipating it. Knowing it's going to happen. But day after day: nothing still. I'm being downright cruel to everyone. I can't take this. God can take my babies but can't set up a situation for me to get away from a man I don't belong with???????????????????????????????



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Old Jun 19th, 2018, 23:03 PM   23320
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Well, here I am graduating from the First Trimester page with a dead baby inside me for the second time. I have a healthy four year old. I miscarried in 2014; it's taken me 3 and a half years to conceive again just to go through it again. My last one was dubbed "no heartbeat" at 8w. Yesterday, at 8w5d I went to emergency for light bleeding and again was given the "no heartbeat" diagnosis.

With the first loss I started bleeding and didn't stop until everything was out. Everything passed within the day.
This time there was very light spotting and now I wait. It doesn't feel real. I'm actually hopeful their machines were wrong. Although the only symptom is that my heavy breast pain is now gone.

I just feel like I hate everything and everybody! My husband couldn't care less.
Squig, not sure if you remember ms from 2014 but we were on several threads together. My heart breaks for you and I am here for you. I am so terribly sorry for the diagnosis but also pray that their machines were also wrong. I'm sending you loads of love, hugs and support. I'm sure your husband cares, men just process things differently than we'd like. It's OK to be angry, sad, etc. You're entitled. We are here for you though.

I recognize your name, but you must have had a different avatar photo. Thank you for your support!

I'm definitely having all the emotions. My husband is glad. He pretended to be happy when I announced and he pretended to cry when I lost. He's resentful of the one child we have, he has not wanted anymore. I'm only with him at this point because I have nowhere to go.

I just don't understand life's plan. My whole life I wanted to be a mom. And now all it gives me is grief. I have one child and feel so alone with him. I wanted a family! My whole life all I wanted was a family! I'm not handling well. I thought going through it already would make me stronger this time but it's not. I'm feeling hateful and suicidal. I just don't get what life is. It's a punishment! Life is a punishment!!!

The worst part is sitting here waiting for all the pain and blood to start. Anticipating it. Knowing it's going to happen. But day after day: nothing still. I'm being downright cruel to everyone. I can't take this. God can take my babies but can't set up a situation for me to get away from a man I don't belong with???????????????????????????????
Squig, nope same photo. But yes we used to converse a lot back then in 2014. I feel so awful the way you're feeling babe. Even more so worried about the suicidal thoughts. You really need to talk to someone, hell I'm here I would give you my number to call me if you need someone to talk to who understands. Or to listen. I got you. you have a precious baby that loves and adores you, imagine you not there for him. How awful would life be for him. Moms are our children's whole universe. Your heart beats. It has purpose. You have purpose. If its over with your hubby life goes on. Find resources in your area that will help with the transition. Wish you were in Florida. My home is big enough. I just wish o could be there for you. You've got a wealth of support here darling. I know it all seems grim right now but trust me there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You'll make it through.



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