Did you keep pics?

StefNJunk · Nov 30th, 2012, 10:22 AM

I've got the ultrasound pics from 7w6d that show there was a heartbeat and that everything was going well. I also have the positive digi test pic and the weekly tummy pics I was taking to watch for when a proper bump appeared. Then I have the pics from Wednesday, when it was confirmed the baby had stopped growing within 2 days of our first ultrasound. I'm not sure why the tech gave me these, but it's painful knowing what I'm looking at in them.

After a miscarriage, if you had ultrasound, etc. pics, did you keep them? Part of me wants to keep the first ultrasound, but another part finds that painful. Then a huge part of me wants to throw away the ones from Wednesday, but I'm not sure how that would make me feel either... so for now, all of them are in their envelopes from the ultrasound techs, just sitting in my purse.

Zebra2023 · Nov 30th, 2012, 10:50 AM

I have kept mine, I have put them where I can't see them. I don't think I'd forgive myself if I threw them away. Sometimes I like to look through them when I go through hard times as it gives me a little boost. Pregnancy is something you can't get away from, when me and my partner go out it surrounds us, it gets easier.

I am sorry to hear about both of your miscarriages. I have had 4 in total, it is heartbreaking.

Topanga053 · Nov 30th, 2012, 11:00 AM

I never got any pics. I don't know if that makes it better or worse. In some ways, it's nice not to have any visual reminders. In others, it's awful not having anything concrete to look at to remind me that my baby was real.

I've thought that if I did have pics, I would bury them in a memorial to my angel baby, under a beautiful tree with an inscription or something. Just a thought.

Donna210369 · Nov 30th, 2012, 11:57 AM

I've kept all of mine except one from my 3rd mc when I came home after my ERPC and ripped it up in anger. Fortunately I had several more of her from other scans but deeply regretted what i'd done. Since then i've been very good at keeping them and will put all of them in a memory box along with my pg tests etc. Hugs

xx

StefNJunk · Nov 30th, 2012, 12:05 PM

Zebra, I'm at that point - I think I would regret throwing them away. Keeping the ones where the baby is already gone though... I'm still not sure if that would hurt more than help.

Topanga, I didn't have anything from my first pregnancy either, so I know the feeling, on both sides. I almost wish I did have something. I guess that answers my question as to whether or not I should keep the ones from this pregnancy, huh?

Donna, I don't want to have that regret, but I understand the anger. When the tech handed me the photos from Wednesday, when it was confirmed, I just shoved them in my purse without saying a word. I'm glad you still had other pictures.

bluebird · Nov 30th, 2012, 13:17 PM

Hi Stef,
I kept my pictures: 7 weeks, 9 weeks and 11 weeks (no HB). They are on my fridge and I look at them every day...it has actually helped me a lot. At first it was just painful seeing the pictures, it reminded me of what I had lost. But now I smile when I look at the ultrasounds, it reminds me how much I love that little baby still and how he is alive every day in my heart. And if he is an angel looking down on us I want him to know he is a part of our family forever- we will never forget about him.
I wouldn't get rid of the pics, but maybe put them away for a while until you're ready. I'm sorry this happened to you, big hugs.

nessaw · Nov 30th, 2012, 14:02 PM

I was so upset at the first scan at 9 wks that i forgot to ask for a picture.luvkily at the follow up a wk later i got one.I keep it in a drawer with all the info/books etc that I got.I got the folic acid out of there today reading to try again.I haven't looked at it since but i like knowing it's there.I passed the egg sac yest and we buried in a pot with some seeds.

vegasbaby · Nov 30th, 2012, 17:44 PM

I decided to keep mine. I only have the one from my scan at eight weeks, but that is when he/she was alive and that is a memory worth preserving. I did put the photos away in an album today as I don't want to see it often, but I want to know it is there when I want to remember. Regardless of the sad outcome we did create a life and I don't want to forget that. Big hugs to you.

angel2010 · Nov 30th, 2012, 17:50 PM

I am going to put my pics, my tests, a onsie that I wrapped the test in to tell dh, a pregnancy journal and a small stuffed animal that my son picked out in a keepsake box.

FeLynn · Nov 30th, 2012, 18:05 PM

Yes I have pics. I have an ultrasound pic that was take on 6-1-12 on this day I had found out that my baby's heart had stopped. I was 13.2 weeks specialist said baby had just died within the last 24 hours b/c my baby was measuring correctly. I am getting her picture framed as her due date gets near I can't help but feel so strong about my princess being heaven instead of with me. I wonder what I could have done to deserve this and it's heartbreaking. This was my 3rd loss and this was the furthest I have been with my baby dieing. I have ultrasounds of my 1st loss but my picture is from the early stages of my pregnancy it didn't make it to baby form. I look at all those pictures often. I hope to one day be healed and be okay with what has happened to me.

Nov 30th, 2012, 10:22 AM	#1
StefNJunk Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: St. Louis area Posts: 519	Did you keep pics? I've got the ultrasound pics from 7w6d that show there was a heartbeat and that everything was going well. I also have the positive digi test pic and the weekly tummy pics I was taking to watch for when a proper bump appeared. Then I have the pics from Wednesday, when it was confirmed the baby had stopped growing within 2 days of our first ultrasound. I'm not sure why the tech gave me these, but it's painful knowing what I'm looking at in them. After a miscarriage, if you had ultrasound, etc. pics, did you keep them? Part of me wants to keep the first ultrasound, but another part finds that painful. Then a huge part of me wants to throw away the ones from Wednesday, but I'm not sure how that would make me feel either... so for now, all of them are in their envelopes from the ultrasound techs, just sitting in my purse.

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Nov 30th, 2012, 10:50 AM	#2
Zebra2023 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: England Posts: 2,795	I have kept mine, I have put them where I can't see them. I don't think I'd forgive myself if I threw them away. Sometimes I like to look through them when I go through hard times as it gives me a little boost. Pregnancy is something you can't get away from, when me and my partner go out it surrounds us, it gets easier. I am sorry to hear about both of your miscarriages. I have had 4 in total, it is heartbreaking.

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Nov 30th, 2012, 11:00 AM	#3
Topanga053 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Posts: 666	I never got any pics. I don't know if that makes it better or worse. In some ways, it's nice not to have any visual reminders. In others, it's awful not having anything concrete to look at to remind me that my baby was real. I've thought that if I did have pics, I would bury them in a memorial to my angel baby, under a beautiful tree with an inscription or something. Just a thought.

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Nov 30th, 2012, 11:57 AM	#4
Donna210369 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Hampshire uk Posts: 839	I've kept all of mine except one from my 3rd mc when I came home after my ERPC and ripped it up in anger. Fortunately I had several more of her from other scans but deeply regretted what i'd done. Since then i've been very good at keeping them and will put all of them in a memory box along with my pg tests etc. Hugs xx

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Nov 30th, 2012, 12:05 PM	#5
StefNJunk Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: St. Louis area Posts: 519	Zebra, I'm at that point - I think I would regret throwing them away. Keeping the ones where the baby is already gone though... I'm still not sure if that would hurt more than help. Topanga, I didn't have anything from my first pregnancy either, so I know the feeling, on both sides. I almost wish I did have something. I guess that answers my question as to whether or not I should keep the ones from this pregnancy, huh? Donna, I don't want to have that regret, but I understand the anger. When the tech handed me the photos from Wednesday, when it was confirmed, I just shoved them in my purse without saying a word. I'm glad you still had other pictures.

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Nov 30th, 2012, 13:17 PM	#6
bluebird Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 401	Hi Stef, I kept my pictures: 7 weeks, 9 weeks and 11 weeks (no HB). They are on my fridge and I look at them every day...it has actually helped me a lot. At first it was just painful seeing the pictures, it reminded me of what I had lost. But now I smile when I look at the ultrasounds, it reminds me how much I love that little baby still and how he is alive every day in my heart. And if he is an angel looking down on us I want him to know he is a part of our family forever- we will never forget about him. I wouldn't get rid of the pics, but maybe put them away for a while until you're ready. I'm sorry this happened to you, big hugs.

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Nov 30th, 2012, 14:02 PM	#7
nessaw Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2012 Location: Herts, UK Posts: 803	I was so upset at the first scan at 9 wks that i forgot to ask for a picture.luvkily at the follow up a wk later i got one.I keep it in a drawer with all the info/books etc that I got.I got the folic acid out of there today reading to try again.I haven't looked at it since but i like knowing it's there.I passed the egg sac yest and we buried in a pot with some seeds.

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Nov 30th, 2012, 17:44 PM	#8
vegasbaby Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: las vegas& orlando Posts: 1,151	I decided to keep mine. I only have the one from my scan at eight weeks, but that is when he/she was alive and that is a memory worth preserving. I did put the photos away in an album today as I don't want to see it often, but I want to know it is there when I want to remember. Regardless of the sad outcome we did create a life and I don't want to forget that. Big hugs to you.

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Nov 30th, 2012, 17:50 PM	#9
angel2010 Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Elite Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Missouri Posts: 15,406	I am going to put my pics, my tests, a onsie that I wrapped the test in to tell dh, a pregnancy journal and a small stuffed animal that my son picked out in a keepsake box.

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Nov 30th, 2012, 18:05 PM	#10
FeLynn Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: PA Posts: 1,286	Yes I have pics. I have an ultrasound pic that was take on 6-1-12 on this day I had found out that my baby's heart had stopped. I was 13.2 weeks specialist said baby had just died within the last 24 hours b/c my baby was measuring correctly. I am getting her picture framed as her due date gets near I can't help but feel so strong about my princess being heaven instead of with me. I wonder what I could have done to deserve this and it's heartbreaking. This was my 3rd loss and this was the furthest I have been with my baby dieing. I have ultrasounds of my 1st loss but my picture is from the early stages of my pregnancy it didn't make it to baby form. I look at all those pictures often. I hope to one day be healed and be okay with what has happened to me.

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