I just turned 28 and had my first pregnancy, and first miscarriage (in the process of it..)
At 8 weeks based on my LMP, the ultrasound showed the size was 6 weeks 5 days, with a heartbeat of 128bpm. I was told perhaps my count was off, or I was a bit irregular.

I had another ultrasound on my 13th week and it showed the size was only 8 weeks 5 days, with no yolk sac anymore. There was no heartbeat. The doc said I should wait up to 2 more weeks to see if my body does a natural miscarriage before attempting a D&C.

I've been reading up on what its like to get a natural miscarriage, what symptoms I should look out for, etc, but most people's stories show that they start bleeding, which is why they found out they were miscarrying in the first place.

The reason I dont want to do a D&C right away is I'm scared I might get uterine tissue scarring (which I read a lot about online) so I'd rather see if it can come out naturally first.


Did anyone here have no symptoms (or just very mild random cramps, which was supposedly normal so I ignored it) and found no heartbeat, and waited for a natural miscarriage? How long did it take?


Also, they say that if its less than 9 weeks pregnant, the natural miscarriage wont hurt that much (just like a strong period with double the menstrual cramps). since I'm supposed to be 13+weeks based on LMP, but the dead baby is only 8weeks 5 days, does that mean I'm part of the "under 9 weeks" , or does it mean the other parts such as the placenta, etc grew to 13 weeks and i'll have extreme pain when it comes out?

Lastly, i've read other people are "induced" or take a tablet or something - do you need to do a D&C after that, or it just makes it come out faster than waiting around?

Thanks

I have just gone though a natural miscarriage and hopefully the worst is over.

Started bleeding at 1am on Wednesday and passed a golfball sized (sorry tmi) clot when I went to the toilet. At this stage my cramps were not that bad. This continued throughout the night and by 5.30am it was really painful. The so called 'cramps' were like contractions and came every 2 minutes. Please note that I was 10 weeks so there was quite a lot of tissue to come out. I did have a chemical pregnancy in January (5 weeks) and that was just like a heavy period.

At 8.30 am we phoned the local early pregnancy assessment unit (was weak and faint and needed medical attention) and they told me to come in straight away. I had a scan and they told me that the fetus has gone, but there was a lot of tissue etc in my womb. Afterwards I was examined to see if my cervix was open. It was and they were able to remove some tissue (again sorry TMI) in order to make me more comfortable. I was bleeding a lot at this time with clots and tissue. Blood test taken and sent home.

I felt okay on the Friday (physically but mentally was very low), but yesterday morning I had very painful cramps again and was very faint. I stayed in bed and after a couple of hours the pain went. Again this is just the contractions where the body is trying to remove the tissue etc. For me it was really painful and I think people should be aware of this as it can be frightening. BUT EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT.

I am feeling much better today and the bleeding is reducing (and no cramps!).

I have another scan in 10 days to make sure everything has gone (and blood test).

Its a really horrible time and my heart goes out to all those out there who are going through this. I have cried so much but we are looking foward to when we can start trying again........

Hopefully third time lucky....

Hugs to everyone - keep smiling and we are not alone!

Milliesun x

M/c are the worst thing a woman can possibly go through, Going through one myself 3 and a a half months ago, i know how you ladies are feeling. xxx

sorry for your loss... personally i havent had a natural mc i decided to have the d&c as having a natural miscarriage can take a while and a week later after being told the pregnancy wasnt going to continue there wasnt any progress so i opted to be put asleep.

sometimes when you have a natural mc you may still need to have a d&c anyway if all the tissue hasnt passed. its your decision in the end hun xx

Hi honey,

When I miscarried at 8 weeks, I started spotting a week and a half after I found out there was no h/b. It was friday afternoon @ work when I first noticed the bleeding, it gradually got worse & the pains started in the evening, I passed the sack the following morning.

Everyone differs, thinking of you
xx

Thanks for the input...
I havent had any bad cramps yet - just some very minor ones, sometimes I cant even tell if its a real cramp or just minor gas pain from drinking milk (haha!)
..still waiting...

Sorry for your loss sweetie. Hopes things happen soon for you.

I had natural miscarriage @ 8weeks, and started with light spotting, that progressed to light bleeding, then haevy bleeding & clots & cramps, (needed painkillers), had scan @ hospital to confirm loss & that everything had passed. Thankfully it had as having discussed D&C wasn't too keen on the idea, like you.

Hope you don't have to wait too long

Has anyone here had experience with the medication/pill thing that makes your body pass it faster?

yes i had it and it was very good for me

i didnt want all the risks and invasion of surgery (including scarring, infection and fertility risks), neither could i bear waiting for it to happen for ages and also risk of a huge bleed in middle of asda or something

tablets dont always work but basically if they do they will bring the natural process on quickly, generally speeding it up too so all tissue that would have been passed naturally is passed in a shorter space of time

guess this could make it more painful than natural? and prob more painful than d&c

but just wanted to share that I had medical (tablets), staying in hospital the full 9 hrs and nothing happened, i was really upset

couple days later passed a few tiny fragments with no pain

when i went for a scan everything was completely gone, with less pain than a period and half as much bleeding (sorry tmi)

also because they managed the tablets in hospital they can give you more pain relief if you need it

Well i'll give you the other side to things! I had to wait it out. In fact i was crazy. They told me i could have a d&c. I may have taken it, but the first appointment i could get it, was the following week... But i was going on holiday.

So i said i'd do it naturally. And they were not happy i was going on a plane and leaving the country, leaving myself at risk.

But i went. I started bleeding. It was like a heavy period. So being in the heat with pads on wasn't fun! But, i enjoyed myself, drank plenty, although every day i didn't know what to expect. I had taken painkillers with me, and didn't even take one.

I bled for four weeks. No pain at all, and i guess after a week or two i began to forget sometimes why i was bleeding, as i was used to it.

You need to make sure you do get blood taken every few days and some scans to make sure everything is coming away, but apart from that my experience was much better than i imagined.

I did ask the midwife at the time, what the best way to get things started was. She told me to get going on my Wii! She also said to drink loads. She explained a lady was in a few weeks before, went running for 2 hours on the beach, and it was done.

I personally didn't feel like i want to run about silly but i think it might have helped!