I have a, well I HAD a friend, that seemed to think if she ignored how I was feeling she wouldnt need to feel my hurt, I was looking through GTS today and seen this poem, which really hits home for me, and probably for some of you girls who have been hurt by people they thought were friends.
I hope you dont mind me posting it.x
A Mother's Grief
You ask me how I'm feeling,
but do you really want to know?
The moment I try telling you
You say you have to go
You ask me how I'm holding up,
but do you really care?
The second I try to speak my heart,
You start squirming in your chair.
Because I am so lonely,
you see, no one comes around,
I'll take the words I want to say
And quietly choke them down.
Everyone avoids me now,
Because they don't know what to say
They tell me I'll be there for you,
then turn and walk away.
Call me if you need me,
that's what everybody said,
But how can I call you and scream
into the phone,
My God, my child is dead?
I am tired of pretending
as my heart pounds in my chest,
I say things to make you comfortable,
but my soul finds no rest.
How can I tell you things
that are too sad to be told,
of the helplessness of holding a child
who in your arms grows cold?
Maybe you can tell me,
How should one behave,
who's had to follow their childs casket,
watched it perched above a grave?
You cannot imagine
what it was like for me that day
to place a final kiss upon that box,
and have to turn and walk away.
If you really love me,
and I believe you do,
if you really want to help me,
here is what I need from you.
Sit down beside me,
reach out and take my hand,
Say "My friend, I've come to listen,
I want to understand."
Just hold my hand and listen
that's all you need to do,
And if by chance I shed a tear,
it's alright if you do to.
What a beautiful poem, it made me cry because it is so true. I have found more friendship and support on B&B over the last two weeks than I have had from any of my friends. I don't hold it against them though because most of them just don't know what to say....... because they don't know how I'm feeling, how could they?
I am so sorry that you ladies have to endure such a tragedy and then go through this with your friends.
I think I can speak for many other girls on the forum when I say that I think of you and your goregous babies daily.. and my heartbreaks for every single one of you. This poem is a great expression of how you ladies must feel.. sending you and your families all my love. xx
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