Miscarried 1st baby over Christmas 2012.Share positive stories of conceiving again.

Charlie4 · Jan 1st, 2013, 13:26 PM

Hi girls

I'm on here becasue I want to remain postive about conceiving again. I have read some very positive forums and would love for anyone who has miscarried and wanting to conceive again to join me on our journey, to be a support to one another through the good and bad times.
A little about me..I'm 40 and became pregnant in November for the first time ever. We were both very excited afer the shock wore off!! I say shock because we weren't even trying! Now i's become the most important goal of both our lives

Although I am still miscarrying now and have no idea when this will end I am keeping a positive outlook for the new year.
Is anyone is in the same situation as me?
I have read on here that we are most fertile after a miscarriage..is this true?
I'm going crazy being off work too..
And I am very lucky my partner is being so supportive even tho he has lost too.
Well girls who's with me in our new positive journey of new life??

Charlie

Loup89 · Jan 1st, 2013, 13:55 PM

I'm very sorry for you're loss. I'd love to join, so nice to start something positive.

So we've been trying for 3 years this month, found out I have pcos and it looks like I don't ovulate, started clomid in november and got my bfp. We were so unbelievably happy but on Christmas eve at 7 weeks I miscarried

Its been the worst experience of my life.
My OH is happy to start trying again whenever but I keep changing my mind, I don't want any new baby to be seen as a replacement for the baby we lost but at the same time I'm so desperate to become pregnant again. I know in the back of my mind I won't wait!

Are you planning on trying after you're next cycle or straight away?
Would be lovely if we all got our bfps as a new years present!

Charlie4 · Jan 1st, 2013, 15:04 PM

Hi

I'm sorry for your loss too honey. I was also 7 weeks. Isn't it amazing how attached you get. Do try again!! Nothing will ever replace our first baby but we have to keep positive and believe there is another wee one waiting to come into our lifes. I have an appointment with the hospital on Friday and we will decide together, me & my partner and the hospital when's best. We both want this as soon as soon as possible. I actually think it's a good way to move on...never forget but we do deserve to be happy don't we? Won't another baby do this for us. Keep strong x

jem77 · Jan 1st, 2013, 17:04 PM

Sorry for your loss. I completely understand wanting to try again! It has been 4 weeks since we lost our baby

My Dr. wants us to wait 2 cycles before trying again, but I am ready now! I want to be positive and enjoy the next pregancy, but I was 14 weeks when I MC, so it was a harsh reminder that anything can happen.
Good luck to you an I hope you get your sticky been soon!

ttcmoon · Jan 1st, 2013, 22:00 PM

Hi Charlie, I am with you in your journey!
I lost my first baby 5yrs back and 2nd one last week.Still miscarrying and weeping

I read lots of stories of people saying high fertility after miscarriage, it happened to many ladies within first few cycles so it can happen to us as well!I am hopeful to try clomid if needed.
A part of mine is too desperate to be pregnant again, but one part is too scared to lose the baby for 3rd time.But I won't give up!
I have taken few days off from work, and spending time at home.
Please do not lose your heart!

ColorMeFamous · Jan 2nd, 2013, 00:55 AM

Im so sorry about your loss

*hugs* I lost my baby at 5-6 weeks and that was abiut 5 and a half months ago! Now I am 11 weeks pregnant! I hear if you wait three months after your miscarriage that it helps with concieving a baby! I sure wasn't trying but it happened anyway! Good luck, girl! Hope that rainbow baby comes as soon as it came for me

elleff · Jan 2nd, 2013, 04:54 AM

Hi I lost my baby on 29th, I'm still bleeding now and have to have a scan today to check whether there is anymore tissue. As soon as I am no longer bleeding we are going to try again. I cannot handle not being pregnant anymore. I was 7+3. I loved my baby so much but the grief is unbearable and I think the only way I can move on is to get back to being pregnant.
If I have another period I'll start temping etc again but as long as we're havin regular sex I can distract myself from the pain with the hope that I might be pregnant again.
Good luck to all of you and I hope next Christmas is better than this one for all of us. Xx

Loup89 · Jan 2nd, 2013, 05:31 AM

I've got my opks out today, I thought if we started again straight away it would be helpful to know if/when I ovulated for dating purposes and if I don't ovulate then I will be straight back on the clomid. I stop bleeding last Friday, a week after it all started but I'm finding I've still got cramps, suppose our bodies have been through a lot so I'll give it a bit longer to feel normal.

Ive heard so many different things about ttc after mc some say you're more fertile but then I've heard the chance of mc is higher straight after?

ttc moon - have you tried clomid before?

elleff - hope your scan goes as well as possible today.
Let's hope all this positivity brings us some luck! Xx

ttcmoon · Jan 2nd, 2013, 06:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Loup89

I've got my opks out today, I thought if we started again straight away it would be helpful to know if/when I ovulated for dating purposes and if I don't ovulate then I will be straight back on the clomid. I stop bleeding last Friday, a week after it all started but I'm finding I've still got cramps, suppose our bodies have been through a lot so I'll give it a bit longer to feel normal.

Ive heard so many different things about ttc after mc some say you're more fertile but then I've heard the chance of mc is higher straight after?

ttc moon - have you tried clomid before?

elleff - hope your scan goes as well as possible today.
Let's hope all this positivity brings us some luck! Xx

Yes I tried Clomid twice (Once with IUI and injections) and Femara once, each time I ovulated with 2 follicles.But did not get pregnant on those cycles.I am over weight and having most PCOS symptoms (strangely those cysts are not seen in my ovary though).So for safety sake doctor kept me on Metformin for 2 months, and the miracle happened.
The one I am MC'ing as actually conceived on Metformin.So I am eager to lose some weight and try Metformin again.Or may be Clomid!Long TTC is too frustrating!

Charlie4 · Jan 2nd, 2013, 17:25 PM

I don't understand some of your abbreviations girls and I don't know what clomid is. Where are you all from? Im in Ireland. Maybe medication etc is a little different from place to place. I have a scan on Friday to see if all is gone. I will ask doctor at the hospital when is it best to try again as we all seem to be unsure. I will also ask if the risk of mc is higher straight after a miscarriage and if our fertility is higher too. I am very happy to ask anything else girls if you'd like me too. Keep smiling girls, it's going to happen to us again!! I just know know it!! xox

Jan 1st, 2013, 13:26 PM	#1
Charlie4 Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: Ireland Posts: 96	Miscarried 1st baby over Christmas 2012.Share positive stories of conceiving again. Hi girls I'm on here becasue I want to remain postive about conceiving again. I have read some very positive forums and would love for anyone who has miscarried and wanting to conceive again to join me on our journey, to be a support to one another through the good and bad times. A little about me..I'm 40 and became pregnant in November for the first time ever. We were both very excited afer the shock wore off!! I say shock because we weren't even trying! Now i's become the most important goal of both our lives Although I am still miscarrying now and have no idea when this will end I am keeping a positive outlook for the new year. Is anyone is in the same situation as me? I have read on here that we are most fertile after a miscarriage..is this true? I'm going crazy being off work too.. And I am very lucky my partner is being so supportive even tho he has lost too. Well girls who's with me in our new positive journey of new life?? Charlie

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Jan 1st, 2013, 13:55 PM	#2
Loup89 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2012 Posts: 156	I'm very sorry for you're loss. I'd love to join, so nice to start something positive. So we've been trying for 3 years this month, found out I have pcos and it looks like I don't ovulate, started clomid in november and got my bfp. We were so unbelievably happy but on Christmas eve at 7 weeks I miscarried Its been the worst experience of my life. My OH is happy to start trying again whenever but I keep changing my mind, I don't want any new baby to be seen as a replacement for the baby we lost but at the same time I'm so desperate to become pregnant again. I know in the back of my mind I won't wait! Are you planning on trying after you're next cycle or straight away? Would be lovely if we all got our bfps as a new years present!

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Jan 1st, 2013, 15:04 PM	#3
Charlie4 Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: Ireland Posts: 96	Hi I'm sorry for your loss too honey. I was also 7 weeks. Isn't it amazing how attached you get. Do try again!! Nothing will ever replace our first baby but we have to keep positive and believe there is another wee one waiting to come into our lifes. I have an appointment with the hospital on Friday and we will decide together, me & my partner and the hospital when's best. We both want this as soon as soon as possible. I actually think it's a good way to move on...never forget but we do deserve to be happy don't we? Won't another baby do this for us. Keep strong x

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Jan 1st, 2013, 17:04 PM	#4
jem77 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: USA Posts: 569	Sorry for your loss. I completely understand wanting to try again! It has been 4 weeks since we lost our baby My Dr. wants us to wait 2 cycles before trying again, but I am ready now! I want to be positive and enjoy the next pregancy, but I was 14 weeks when I MC, so it was a harsh reminder that anything can happen. Good luck to you an I hope you get your sticky been soon!

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Jan 1st, 2013, 22:00 PM	#5
ttcmoon Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: India Posts: 309	Hi Charlie, I am with you in your journey! I lost my first baby 5yrs back and 2nd one last week.Still miscarrying and weeping I read lots of stories of people saying high fertility after miscarriage, it happened to many ladies within first few cycles so it can happen to us as well!I am hopeful to try clomid if needed. A part of mine is too desperate to be pregnant again, but one part is too scared to lose the baby for 3rd time.But I won't give up! I have taken few days off from work, and spending time at home. Please do not lose your heart!

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Jan 2nd, 2013, 00:55 AM	#6
ColorMeFamous Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Calgary, AB Posts: 747	Im so sorry about your loss hugs I lost my baby at 5-6 weeks and that was abiut 5 and a half months ago! Now I am 11 weeks pregnant! I hear if you wait three months after your miscarriage that it helps with concieving a baby! I sure wasn't trying but it happened anyway! Good luck, girl! Hope that rainbow baby comes as soon as it came for me

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Jan 2nd, 2013, 04:54 AM	#7
elleff Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: UK Posts: 591	Hi I lost my baby on 29th, I'm still bleeding now and have to have a scan today to check whether there is anymore tissue. As soon as I am no longer bleeding we are going to try again. I cannot handle not being pregnant anymore. I was 7+3. I loved my baby so much but the grief is unbearable and I think the only way I can move on is to get back to being pregnant. If I have another period I'll start temping etc again but as long as we're havin regular sex I can distract myself from the pain with the hope that I might be pregnant again. Good luck to all of you and I hope next Christmas is better than this one for all of us. Xx

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Jan 2nd, 2013, 05:31 AM	#8
Loup89 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2012 Posts: 156	I've got my opks out today, I thought if we started again straight away it would be helpful to know if/when I ovulated for dating purposes and if I don't ovulate then I will be straight back on the clomid. I stop bleeding last Friday, a week after it all started but I'm finding I've still got cramps, suppose our bodies have been through a lot so I'll give it a bit longer to feel normal. Ive heard so many different things about ttc after mc some say you're more fertile but then I've heard the chance of mc is higher straight after? ttc moon - have you tried clomid before? elleff - hope your scan goes as well as possible today. Let's hope all this positivity brings us some luck! Xx

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Jan 2nd, 2013, 17:25 PM	#10
Charlie4 Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: Ireland Posts: 96	I don't understand some of your abbreviations girls and I don't know what clomid is. Where are you all from? Im in Ireland. Maybe medication etc is a little different from place to place. I have a scan on Friday to see if all is gone. I will ask doctor at the hospital when is it best to try again as we all seem to be unsure. I will also ask if the risk of mc is higher straight after a miscarriage and if our fertility is higher too. I am very happy to ask anything else girls if you'd like me too. Keep smiling girls, it's going to happen to us again!! I just know know it!! xox

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