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Old Mar 23rd, 2013, 17:08 PM   1
DebbieDobs
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What is a normal miscarriage?


Is there such a thing as a normal miscarriage?

I had a scan on the 7th and 14th of March to confirm a silent miscarriage, I should of been 11 weeks but baby stopped growing at 5-6 weeks.

I started to bleed heavy with a few small clots on the 13th.

Bleeding settled right down and become light but continued until the 19th when it begun to get very heavy, by the morning of the 20th it continued heavy and I experienced contractions with more clots, some large some small. Bleeding got light again after a few hours and the contractions passed.

My bleeding got heavy again in the evening and i went to bed. I was woken up in the early hours of the 21st with more painful contractions and more heavy bleeding. I took pain killers and after a hour I fell back to sleep.

Bleeding stopped completely on the 21st by 2pm.

Bleeding started again by 9pm on the 21st but was only light up until this morning (23rd)

This morning y bleeding got very heavy again, no contractions or pain and I passed more clots and what I believe was the sack with the bay inside as it was not broken. I am still bleeding now but its not as heavy and have been very few clots now.

Is this the end of my miscarriage?

I was feeling very low when I realized I had passed my baby as I had thought I'd already passed it in the hours of the morning I spent sitting on the toilet. I felt saddened and it felt unnatural to flush it down the toilet but my OH kept telling me to put it in the toilet as it is ''dead matter'' I know he deals with things different but I just needed to do it in my own time. I wasn't ready to say goodbye yet. I didn't think I'd get a chance to see my baby. Maybe it was wrong of me but I wanted to open the sack to see my baby but at the same time couldn't bring myself to do it as I know s/he is comfy and safe in there.
I have been trying to keep positive and I think I am pulling it off well, but I don't know how much longer I can keep the act up.
I want to get pregnant again as soon as I can, not to replace my Angel but to continue my journey in trying to conceive and make a baby brother or sister for my little angel.

I understand it can be hard for some people to talk about their miscarriages but what were yours like?

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Old Mar 23rd, 2013, 17:21 PM   2
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I'm so sorry for what you went through. Can't imagine what it felt like to pass the baby - that's my biggest fear at the moment. In going through my miscarriage - been happening since Monday. At first it was just brown discharge and this change so to light bleeding. Today I've bled heavily and had severe cramps - waves of them every 5 minutes. Passing blood and clots. I'm hoping to make it to Monday without passing the baby as I have a D&C booked in.



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Old Mar 23rd, 2013, 17:45 PM   3
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The cramps you have been having sound like contractions.

I hope you make it until your appointment.

I chose to do it all naturally, I just didn't expect the size of it to be so big either.

Physically there was no pain passing the baby but mentally it was draining and very upsetting.

Keep positive hun xx



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Old Mar 23rd, 2013, 19:30 PM   4
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I think your miscarriage was very normal for being natural and I'm sorry for your loss Like you, my husband was more into the flush it mode, but when he saw the baby (ours wasn't in the sac) and the placenta came out just before the small baby, his heart melted. He was adorable as hard as it was to see everything. Tiny leg buds, his daddy's long lean body shape starting to unfold....I cry just thinking about it.

I can also relate to wanting to TTC again right away. I think most of us do

My MC was also missed. I waited 2 weeks after our no heartbeat 8 week check (I was behind a week at 7 weeks according to the scan) and finally took misoprostol. Therefore, everything happened quickly. I took the drug at 8 am....was fine and napped until 11 am....at 12 pm unreal cramps and you could literally FEEL the placenta tearing off the wall, horrible, horrible, horrible pain....finally decided I couldn't fight the pain and took meds around 2 pm or 3 pm. Hunger is unreal on misoprostol and I wolfed down a huge cheese pizza. Cramps totally subsided and I slept like a baby from midnight on. At that point, I was afraid to go to the restroom knowing that my baby was probably going to come out soon...I needed to pee during the night and finally went to the tub at 5 am....I peed and then stood up very carefully still squatting in case the baby came out so as to have a very soft fall on towels and sure enough, there he was along with the placenta. I very carefully left the room with him safely on the towel...my husband came in from work just 5 minutes later and we hugged and cried before going back in and seeing our baby. I carefully wrapped him in a gold blanket and placed him in a gold box. I will never forget that special day. I told him everything we would have done together for the next 18 years....The Disney Trips, the first day of K, just all of it. My baby even went with me very carefully in my purse to my scan to make sure everything was out that morning. We rode around and I told him about the sky, it was a brilliant 9/11 blue kind of a day and the birds starting to chirp, it was so nice. He was buried under our oak that evening.



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Old Mar 24th, 2013, 02:27 AM   5
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I too think your sounds normal for a natural miscarriage. I found out at 9 weeks baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks. That was on a Tuesday on the Thursday I started cramping and very light bleeding, the bleeding stayed light but the cramping got really bad up to the Sunday when at first it was really strong. They died down during the dag and on the Monday I passed my baby and lots of clots with not much pain. I kept bleeding for at least a week after that but with only normal period pains. I sometimes wish I was still in physical pain instead of having to pretend everything had gone back to normal x x x



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Old Mar 24th, 2013, 03:52 AM   6
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Well I didn't even make it through the night! Had to go to hospital at 2am because of the pain and bleeding. The doctors used a speculum to open me up and the baby slid right out. I thought I couldn't be in any more emotional pain but I was wrong...broke my heart when they took it away. No more intense cramps now and only light bleeding. Just want to get back to TTC ASAP.



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Old Mar 24th, 2013, 06:21 AM   7
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Well I didn't even make it through the night! Had to go to hospital at 2am because of the pain and bleeding. The doctors used a speculum to open me up and the baby slid right out. I thought I couldn't be in any more emotional pain but I was wrong...broke my heart when they took it away. No more intense cramps now and only light bleeding. Just want to get back to TTC ASAP.
I am sorry you couldn't wait for D and C. Try to keep your head high hun.

Thank you everyone's responds I am still bleeding now but its not as thick and no where near as heavy now, just like a slow period.

I am missing my baby a lot today but I am going to bury myself in housework and cooking a nice lasagne for dinner later as the OH is going to go see his dad before going to work.

When should I start taking pregnancy tests to get a negative so I can catch my eggy. My OH is on his zinc so I am hoping it won't take long. I am going to use O tests too.

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Old Mar 24th, 2013, 14:15 PM   8
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Well I didn't even make it through the night! Had to go to hospital at 2am because of the pain and bleeding. The doctors used a speculum to open me up and the baby slid right out. I thought I couldn't be in any more emotional pain but I was wrong...broke my heart when they took it away. No more intense cramps now and only light bleeding. Just want to get back to TTC ASAP.
I am sorry you couldn't wait for D and C. Try to keep your head high hun.

Thank you everyone's responds I am still bleeding now but its not as thick and no where near as heavy now, just like a slow period.

I am missing my baby a lot today but I am going to bury myself in housework and cooking a nice lasagne for dinner later as the OH is going to go see his dad before going to work.

When should I start taking pregnancy tests to get a negative so I can catch my eggy. My OH is on his zinc so I am hoping it won't take long. I am going to use O tests too.

xx
It took over two weeks for my pregnancy tests to go negative and now at about 3 and a half weeks after passing the baby my opk's have gone positive x x



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Old Mar 24th, 2013, 16:14 PM   9
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My bleeding has got really heavy again and I am passing more clots, only small ones though.

Am I right in thinking all the time I'm bleeding my HCG or HGC (which ever way round it is) levels will still be up and still show positive on a test, meaning no point testing yet?!

I am hoping the scan will tell me its almost all clear but I think they are going to book me in for another scan at this rate.

Do any of you know if I will get a extra scan early next time due to this miscarriage or will they make me wait the longest 12 weeks ever? I know I am thinking a head of myself but I am trying to keep positive.

OH may end up quitting his job tomorrow and he has mentioned going to the doctors as he said he can't keep feeling the way he does. (He doesn't talk about things and just bottles it all up, I've always known he has issues but trying to get him to talk is like getting blood out of a stone!!)

If he does give his job in and is not working in the next 2 months I may put trying for a baby off until he is working, which is something I don't want to do but will have too!!

I need to really keep my head a float now and keep positive but I think this is going to be a hard few weeks.

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Old Mar 25th, 2013, 05:48 AM   10
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I had a scan at six weeks because it was an ivf baby but I certainly hope they offer us another at 8 or 10 weeks since I've miscarried around that time now. If not, I would go for a private scan just for peace of mind. Fingers crossed the next cycle works!



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