Hello everyone

I'm new here and have just registered as I felt I needed to talk to someone.

My husband and I have been TTC for quite some time and are currently undergoing fertility testing. Last week my period was a couple of days late so I did 3 tests over 3 days, all of which were positive. Although I was excited I was also confused as I had slight period pains and felt as though my period would start at any time. On Tuesday afternoon of this week I started bleeding. I phoned my GP and couldn't get an appointment so she called me back. I explained to her what had happened and she told me I am having an early miscarriage (didn't say chemical pregancy but I know it's the same thing) and told me to visit her next week for another test, but has told me that I will have lost the pregnancy because of the type of bleeding and cramps I am experiencing.

I know it was only early but I am absolutely devestated. We have been TTC for so long. I'm not dealing with this very well at all. The couple of people I have told have said I have to be positive and at least now I know I can conceive. I know they only mean well, but it hurts so much that I have lost this pregnancy.

Just felt I had to share my feelings with someone that will understand how I feel right now.

Thankyou for listening x

I am so sorry for your loss Hope. We all understand exactly how your feeling and are here anytime you need to talk, cry or rant.

My thoughts are with you

One of my losses was the same...literally in the same week of my + test I got my period. It is still a loss and I hurt the same with that one as I have with my other three losses. I too hate it when people say, well at least you can get pregnant! For me, I always reply...the getting pregnant part is only good if it sticks so whats the point...more hurt!!! ugh...((((HUGS))))

Sorry for you loss. It doesn't matter how early your loss is, it's still a loss and terrible to go through. People just don't understand or know what to say and 'at least you can get pregnant' is a classic line.

I always find is as uncomfortable for them (telling people that you have miscarried) is it is upsetting for you... they don't know what else to say..

I had my miscarriage confirmed today at the hospital, I was 7 weeks. This is my 2nd mc and so have learnt from the 1st one in not telling too many people, then you don;t have to have that akward conversation...

Best wishes honey

Thank you for your replies, your support is helping already.

I really want the cramps and bleeding to stop, they just add to the misery don't they? I'm exhausted with the emotion of all this so i'm going to go and get a nice bath now and try and relax a little. I'm sure I will be back on here very soon.

Thanks again x

I'm so sorry to hear your sad news

Luckily I didn't tell many people, just my sister and a couple of friends at work. Felt I had to tell them because I have still gone to work and it was pretty obvious something was wrong with me. I know none of them meant what they said in a bad way and I understand that they don't know what to say. I actually feel awful that I put them in that position to begin with.

My thoughts are with you, take care and best wishes x

hi Hope, My DH and I were TTC for two years when I fell pregnant. I was thrilled, but totally cautious and didn't tell anyone except family. Then when I was 7 weeks I started to have some light spotting. I broke down totally...it was also my birthday so timing couldn't have been worse. Later I was diagnosed with a mmc and I had to have some medical assistance at 9 weeks. The baby had stopped developing at 6.5 weeks. I am still finding it hard too that we lost our special miracle and we too have had the comments 'at least you know you can conceive now'. Who knows how long it will take us to conceive again, but I am staying positive and strangely enough, I am starting to find comfort in the comments that used to annoy me...at least there is hope. Good luck for the future xxx

Honey I am so sorry for your loss Know that you always have us here to talk to and share with. You have every right to be hurting right now, you have had a loss. It doesn't matter how far along you were, when we see that little pink line the whole future flashes before our eyes. Within 5 minutes we are picking names, rooms and even colleges. Crazy how that works and cruel when it is taken away so soon. Again, I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you

sorry for your loss sweetie, I think it is hard for us all know matter how it happens