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Old Jun 25th, 2013, 19:57 PM   11
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My AF arrived today and I feel like things are back to normal. I have longer cycles so I have one "try" before we see the OB in August. I'm not sure what the OB will say or what tests she can do as preliminary tests are supposed to be done before going to the fertility clinic. If the wait for the clinic after the OB is in the 2 month region then I might be willing to WTT for testing. But if it is another 6 months then I'm not so sure. I know I should go for testing at some point and it will always be a long wait but I feel like we have one more try in us. My grandmother had 3 m/c's and went on to have 6 children. And I'm only 30 so I have still have some time on my side.



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Old Jun 26th, 2013, 03:02 AM   12
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I'm still waiting on AF.

I say go for it Starry and if it happens it happens. No harm in trying

I don't know why but I just have a 'feeling' I can't have any more kids. I've had one miscarriage and don't know how many I'd be prepared to go through before I "gave up". I'm 95% sure if we lost one more consecutively DF wouldn't agree to try anymore. Personally, I think maybe after a third loss I'd stop although I don't know.

I have 2 children and 1 of each so everyone keeps telling me I don't "need" to have anymore. I know I don't NEED to but I want more. Hope that doesn't make me "greedy"



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Old Jun 28th, 2013, 00:31 AM   13
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You're not greedy but I get why you feel that way. I have one child and feel greedy for coming here and moaning when so many ladies would dearly love to have just one. But after DS was born DH and I agreed we would fight for a second. Children are such wonderful blessings and having one let us know that they are worth the pain and struggle.

DH has once now brought up the question of when we'd draw the line and walk away from TTC but I'm not quite ready to look at that yet. Though I've always told myself once I reach age 35. I said that when we first started TTC#1 but now I'm not sure.

I think I'm willing to go through one more loss before I'd be desperate enough to WTT for testing. But even then, not sure if I am the person who could do 5 losses in a row. I don't feel strong enough.



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Old Jun 28th, 2013, 03:38 AM   14
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I never wanted just one although of course I'd have been happy with that if I could only have one. When I was young I though two kids would be my limit and now I've had two I can't help but feel like one (or two ) more would be nice.

Me and DF think about when we are older and that we'd like to have big family days with all our kids and grandkids round.

I think if I didn't have any children, or just one child, I'd probably be willing to keep trying for as long as I could mentally and physically but since I have two children I have to invest mentally and physically in them primarily and I wouldn't have the strength to deal with that and multiple losses.

Que sera sera is my motto I guess



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Old Jun 28th, 2013, 18:10 PM   15
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I used to want 4 kids and had even talked dh up to 3 kids but right now we are planning to walk away from TTC once we finally get our second child. This journey has been so emotionally breaking. I've been pregnant 4 times in 3 1/2 years and only one ended happily and even then I was on bed rest the whole time. My son's pregnancy was actually harder on me than my miscarriages so I know that to finally get my second rainbow I will have to go through 9 months of hell. Even if the pregnancy has no complications I will be spending every day waiting for the other shoe to drop.



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Old Jun 29th, 2013, 03:08 AM   16
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I'll never understand why, that for some people, the whole reason we are here is so difficult

It's supposed to be easy

AFM, I think if my predictions are correct I should get AF in about a week.

I hate waiting and not knowing!



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Old Jun 29th, 2013, 12:20 PM   17
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I know I am insanely jealous of people who have easy pregnancies. They don't even think about the things that could go wrong. I've been made fun of for being such a worry wart and following the "stupid rules" (people here think I'm nuts for avoiding unpasteurized milk during pregnancy). They just don't get it.

Good luck. Hope you get your rainbow soon!



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Old Jun 30th, 2013, 05:46 AM   18
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I know I am insanely jealous of people who have easy pregnancies. They don't even think about the things that could go wrong. I've been made fun of for being such a worry wart and following the "stupid rules" (people here think I'm nuts for avoiding unpasteurized milk during pregnancy). They just don't get it.

Good luck. Hope you get your rainbow soon!
I didn't even eat whippy ice cream when I was pregnant lol. Rules seem stupid to people who haven't had a loss. When you have you look for reasons, I blamed myself cos I decorated the spare room! But I decorated when I was pregnant with my 2 children and they were fine, I still find something to blame it on.

You too



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