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Old Jul 10th, 2013, 14:21 PM   1
Munchkin30
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Hello can I join you? Mmc at 12 weeks :(


Hi all,

Well I'm here to join you! I went for my 12 week scan today and baby died at 8+6 I'd sort of been expecting it but thought I was just being paranoid. I had a private scan at 8 weeks and although there was a heartbeat it was measuring small and despite the ultrasound lady and my midwife saying it was nothing to worry about I came home in tears.

I haven't spotted or bled or cramped so I took mifepristone at the hospital today and going in on Friday for pessaries and a day of hell.
I'm so sad and thinking of everything that should've been but I've got my 20 month old and I'm so fortunate. I want to try again as soon as possible. The dr said today to wait one period, my midwife said 2. I want to crack on ASAP but I want to be sensible!

If anyone's had the treatment I'm having or a mmr and has advice I'd really appreciate it.

Thank you and so sorry for all your losses every one will be a star in the sky tonight x x x



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Old Jul 10th, 2013, 15:11 PM   2
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Im so sorry i wasnt as far as you but i cannot imagine..i never saw a heartbeat and when i hear your story i think to myself when is it ever safe to think you are guarenteed to go home with a baby at the end?

I hope you find answers, comfort and support as i have in this forum x



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Old Jul 11th, 2013, 00:32 AM   3
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I just had a D&C for a mmc. I would have been 15 weeks this week. I found out the baby had stopped growing at 13 1/2-14 weeks and didn't have a hb when I was 14+2. The thought is a blood clot interfered with the blood flow to the placenta and that's what caused this m/c. Like you, I felt something wasn't right (and felt that way for weeks) but convinced myself that everything was okay after all. I knew it wasn't though, because when I went in for an u/s at 14+2, I was thinking "IF there's a hb, I'll tell everyone" not "Can't wait to see the hb so I can tell everyone." I haven't taken the meds to induce a m/c but I've had 6 other m/c naturally and those were tough enough. I had no idea I was m/c until I started bleeding and cramping. I'll be thinking of you and sending lots of your way. As for when to start tt-I m/c for the third time, got AF six weeks later, and got a bfp four weeks after that. My son is going to be 4 this winter. It all works out if it's meant to be.



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Old Jul 11th, 2013, 00:44 AM   4
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Thank you so much! I'm really sad at the moment and in shock but I know I'll get through this, although it will put a dark cloud over any future pregnancy I know it'll be worth it when I get another LO in my arms, just seems like so many mountains to climb on the way. My dd will be such a help getting me through it and I'm so lucky to have her. We were going to have a 2 1/4 year age gap. Perfect. Sadly not to be. Just shows you have to take what you're given and be thankful.
I too was saying 'if everythings ok I'll be so happy after the scan' I think I know but was trying to convince myself I was just crazy paranoid. Mummies instincts eh?? X



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Old Jul 11th, 2013, 09:19 AM   5
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Hello,

I have just joined the forums, after stalking them for weeks whilst pregnant. Unfortunately I miscarried last week at 12 weeks, after spotting bleeding at work. I had last week off work, but have been back at work for 4 days. Was feeling ok, but it hits me every now and then. Today is a tough day. Cried in the toilets at work this morning, then some of us went for a picnic at lunch, which made me feel better. But then when I got back to my desk, 5 minutes later the discussion turned to one of my colleagues, who is 6 months pregnant, and talking about the baby kicking. It got too much to handle again this afternoon because of that, and have just cried in the toilets for the second time today still feel like I could cry now.
This baby was so wanted, and just feeling rough. Just needed to talk to others who know what I am going through.



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Old Jul 11th, 2013, 10:32 AM   6
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I just sent you a message on the ttc after loss post.



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Old Jul 11th, 2013, 10:56 AM   7
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Hello,

I have just joined the forums, after stalking them for weeks whilst pregnant. Unfortunately I miscarried last week at 12 weeks, after spotting bleeding at work. I had last week off work, but have been back at work for 4 days. Was feeling ok, but it hits me every now and then. Today is a tough day. Cried in the toilets at work this morning, then some of us went for a picnic at lunch, which made me feel better. But then when I got back to my desk, 5 minutes later the discussion turned to one of my colleagues, who is 6 months pregnant, and talking about the baby kicking. It got too much to handle again this afternoon because of that, and have just cried in the toilets for the second time today still feel like I could cry now.
This baby was so wanted, and just feeling rough. Just needed to talk to others who know what I am going through.
Hi there,

So sorry fOr your loss. Still can't believe I'm here! I feel absolutely devastated at the moment. I know what you mean, I think I'm fine and talking about something normal then it hits me again. I've lost both my parents, and it's not as bad as when my mum died but it's a very similar grief feeling and process. I couldn't sleep last night cos I was terrified of waking up and realising again what's happened.

In the end I slept about 4 hrs with the light on. I have a 1 yr old who is an amazing comfort and I don't know what I'd do without her. I've cried more today than yesterday. I feel the mc is starting now, I've had some slight cramping and a bit of brown so for whatever reason my bodies decided its ok to let it go.

Nobody quite gets it but I've told people who didn't even know I was pregnant. It's really helping to talk but no one can help me. Tomorrow will be hell but I'm praying it will be the worst day and it can only get better after that.

One day we'll realise we haven't thought about it all day! That might be a long way off but we'll get there I promise! Are you planning on trying again soon?

Xxx



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Old Jul 11th, 2013, 13:23 PM   8
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Hello,

I have just joined the forums, after stalking them for weeks whilst pregnant. Unfortunately I miscarried last week at 12 weeks, after spotting bleeding at work. I had last week off work, but have been back at work for 4 days. Was feeling ok, but it hits me every now and then. Today is a tough day. Cried in the toilets at work this morning, then some of us went for a picnic at lunch, which made me feel better. But then when I got back to my desk, 5 minutes later the discussion turned to one of my colleagues, who is 6 months pregnant, and talking about the baby kicking. It got too much to handle again this afternoon because of that, and have just cried in the toilets for the second time today still feel like I could cry now.
This baby was so wanted, and just feeling rough. Just needed to talk to others who know what I am going through.
Hi there,

So sorry fOr your loss. Still can't believe I'm here! I feel absolutely devastated at the moment. I know what you mean, I think I'm fine and talking about something normal then it hits me again. I've lost both my parents, and it's not as bad as when my mum died but it's a very similar grief feeling and process. I couldn't sleep last night cos I was terrified of waking up and realising again what's happened.

In the end I slept about 4 hrs with the light on. I have a 1 yr old who is an amazing comfort and I don't know what I'd do without her. I've cried more today than yesterday. I feel the mc is starting now, I've had some slight cramping and a bit of brown so for whatever reason my bodies decided its ok to let it go.

Nobody quite gets it but I've told people who didn't even know I was pregnant. It's really helping to talk but no one can help me. Tomorrow will be hell but I'm praying it will be the worst day and it can only get better after that.

One day we'll realise we haven't thought about it all day! That might be a long way off but we'll get there I promise! Are you planning on trying again soon?

Xxx
Probably in a couple of months. At the moment we are moving house, which helps as it gives me something else to pour my energy into. We are also planning on planting a rose in the garden in memory. Are you going to do something in memory?



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Old Jul 11th, 2013, 15:35 PM   9
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I don't know, I hadn't thought of doing anything but I know from grieving in the past that the worse thing to do is try to ignore birthdays, anniversaries etc. I'll have a think and maybe chat to oh tomorrow. Did you have the medical management? Dreading it have packed an overnight bag but I don't know what we'll do all day other than bleed and cry?



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I don't know, I hadn't thought of doing anything but I know from grieving in the past that the worse thing to do is try to ignore birthdays, anniversaries etc. I'll have a think and maybe chat to oh tomorrow. Did you have the medical management? Dreading it have packed an overnight bag but I don't know what we'll do all day other than bleed and cry?
Mine happened naturally, although the pain and bleeding was so bad they took me into hospital for a few hours. Do you have a laptop or portable dvd player for when you go in? I found watching stuff helped take my mind off the physical pain, and although there were still lots of tears, it gave me something else to focus on.
Will be thinking of you



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