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Old Oct 5th, 2009, 06:56 AM   1
Swanny
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Couldn't face work again today...


I had a sicknote originally for 2 weeks and was due to go back this morning but I just couldn't face it.

I am going back to docs this afternoon and will most probably take the rest of this week off.

I am planning on meeting a few from the office on Wednesday and then may even pop into the office to see the others afterwards. I just think this might help me rather than just turning up next Monday after 3 weeks off and bawling my eyes out all day, although I will probaby do that anyway it might be easier if I have seen them before hand.

How long did everyone take off or are planning to take off?

One part of me thought right going back to work will help but another part of me just feels like I'm not ready to let go and move on and I am also finding it quite hard to even get myself dressed and out the house at the moment.

I feel safe and comforted in my home and when I go out for a walk I just feel like a timid little mouse and I don't even want to make eye contact with anyone and I feel really insecure....



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Old Oct 5th, 2009, 07:00 AM   2
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I'm attempting to go back next week after my mmc in July 09. I had a really hard time the first 6 weeks, but it got easier as my 5 yr old began school in Sept. Still not sure if I am 'ready', but I am willing to try.

Best of luck today....stay strong.



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Old Oct 5th, 2009, 07:24 AM   3
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good luck hun



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Old Oct 5th, 2009, 07:48 AM   4
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Hi Swanny,

I could have written this about how I'm feeling. I am supposed to be going back to work on Monday and I really am dreading it. Will have had two weeks off. Everyone knows why I am away and I am quite anxious about seeing them on that day. Particularly as I have a very busy job and just won't have time to 'talk' about it all.

I do think it is good to get back to normality as soon as you able to. A distraction might help lift you- when you are at home, it may be hard to focus on anything other than what you've been through which makes it harder to move on?

Very easy for me to give advice to you, but I also love the safety of home and am insecure about being around people. Certainly not keen on shopping, especially when everyone is pregnant! Went out with my husband for a walk and picnic yesterday, but did feel quite odd and not as much fun as normal.

Think it's important to get through this sad time and think to the future, or you won't be able to move. Have had some really sad days since my 'procedure' last Friday, but know that I will one day have a baby. Don't know what journey it will take to get there but feeling optimistic, for today at least!

Take care.



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Old Oct 5th, 2009, 14:32 PM   5
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if you feel like you need more time off then take it, honestly I wish that I had more time off or at least gone back part time as I really struggled for weeks but due to short staffing have had to just deal with it and am really stressed.

So many people say that it doesn't do you any good to be at home but for me it was the best thing, I have a stressful job and couldn't cope with the phones and people as well as dealing with my loss. Do what you feel is best for you - it took me weeks to work out what was the best thing as I felt guilty for not being there but when I was there it was too much.

I think your idea is good and maybe do short days to start



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Old Oct 5th, 2009, 16:10 PM   6
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Hi Swanny,

I could have written this about how I'm feeling. I am supposed to be going back to work on Monday and I really am dreading it. Will have had two weeks off. Everyone knows why I am away and I am quite anxious about seeing them on that day. Particularly as I have a very busy job and just won't have time to 'talk' about it all.

I do think it is good to get back to normality as soon as you able to. A distraction might help lift you- when you are at home, it may be hard to focus on anything other than what you've been through which makes it harder to move on?

Very easy for me to give advice to you, but I also love the safety of home and am insecure about being around people. Certainly not keen on shopping, especially when everyone is pregnant! Went out with my husband for a walk and picnic yesterday, but did feel quite odd and not as much fun as normal.

Think it's important to get through this sad time and think to the future, or you won't be able to move. Have had some really sad days since my 'procedure' last Friday, but know that I will one day have a baby. Don't know what journey it will take to get there but feeling optimistic, for today at least!

Take care.
Hi Swanny,
i didnt go back for the 1st couple weeks,my hubby drove me crazy saying you have to go back!!This is doing you no good sitting here thinking about what happened! But i couldnt, not until i felt ready,but knew by week 3 i had to go back,i had spent too much time torturing myself!! How it happened,when! Was driving myself mad!!
Its done me the world of good getting back,its gave me something else to concentrate on,you wont ever forget but it helps to take your mind of it,it can be a very destructive path!! I wish you all the best for the future xx



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Old Oct 6th, 2009, 00:10 AM   7
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I was going through a training class when it happened. I took two days off. Wish I could have taken more time but work was needed, life was going on with or without me. I am hoping to take some time off next month to breathe.



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Old Oct 6th, 2009, 00:12 AM   8
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Old Oct 6th, 2009, 04:05 AM   9
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Was wondering how you are feeling today Swanny.




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Old Oct 6th, 2009, 15:00 PM   10
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Oh Swanny, i am so sorry you are feeling like this

I to went back today I had 9weeks off in total but i had had a very complicated (7th) mc this times.

I have to say i feel completely emotionally drained so off to bed in a mow, i have had a long think about why because I was so ready to go back, and needed some normality. I think going back to work has made it all final, a sign that everything has gone back to normal. The bottom line is that i DONT want things to be NORMAL

MY ADVICE IS IF YOU DONT FEEL READY DO NOT GO BACK. However i also know from experience that it does get better, does not go just gets easier. Sending you loads of pm me if you need to xx



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