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Old Sep 29th, 2016, 11:12 AM   21
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Lace can I ask where you are in Canada? I'm in Ontario, outside of Toronto. If you are familiar with any good clinics in the GTA I'm open to it. I was referred to this RE by my ob but I feel his ego got the better of him as I was questioning things and presenting ideas of how I wanted to do things. I don't need someone like that, I need someone that is going to see me as an individual and listen to what I want to happen. I'm all about directing my own care lol.
I'm 38 (and a half-but who's counting?! Lol) so I feel ya on the time crunch. I always said I don't want to be 40 having kids but it looks like that's what's going to happen. I'm ok with it too, just bring on the baby!
I'm so happy (sounds wrong) that you are starting naturally. I hope it happens quickly for you. Have you heard of Anna's wild yam cream? I'm going to look in to it later but it supposed to be helpful in regulating af and balancing hormones. The clots in your period (I saw it in the rmc thread) shouldn't be happening and I would think the RE would want to get to the bottom of it.



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Old Sep 29th, 2016, 19:07 PM   22
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Ready, I'm actually quite close to you! We're in Kingston. I've actually been waiting on referrals to a GTA clinic, York Fertility actually. My friend used them for her fertility issues, and she was very happy with them (and she's very discerning!) I'm at Ottawa Fertility Centre now. I've been treated very well at OFC, and I adore the staff there, but their over-conservative approach doesn't have anything to offer me anymore.

I've also heard great things about Markham Fertility and Hannam but those two are far more famous so the waiting lists are longer.

Omg I hear you on 40. That's my hard deadline too - but who knows, I might change my mind when I get closer..... Though I dunno, I'm terrified of the increased Downs risks too. Maybe when I get a bit older and my friends are all done with babies, it won't be as tough to walk away.

I have not heard of the yam cream! I will see if I can find it. I've always been clotty with AF since I was a teen, so to me....it's normal, lol. And I had 3 normal kids while being clotty. I thought for sure I'd test positive for a clotting problem, but...nope! I hope my body will get on with things, still just spotting tonight but I'm feeling pretty AF crampy so.....fx.......



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Old Sep 29th, 2016, 20:40 PM   23
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Kingston! I'm in Belleville so not far at all. Such a small world isn't it?
So you have been referred and you are waiting to hear from the clinic or you are waiting on the ob to send the referral through? I'm hesitant to see anyone in case I don't like them. I just don't want to waste anyone's time, especially not mine.
There is a TCM clinic in To that I am tempted to go and see but it's pricey and I don't want to be sent home with more supplements. As it is I just spent $277 today on new supplements from my ND in hopes that it will make the difference. It's hard when there is no dx issue, just kind of shooting in the dark and hope that something works.
I don't feel like my friends are slowing down any time soon with making babies but when 40 hits and if there still is no baby I may just call it quits. My dd for the past week has been saying her baby is coming soon. She said her baby sister should be here really soon. I'm hoping its some kind of intuition and she speaks the truth lol. Here's to hoping anyways!



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Old Sep 30th, 2016, 21:48 PM   24
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Ready - WOW! Belleville! You're in my backyard - how cool is that? We should meet up!

We've had our GP send the referral, haven't heard from the clinic yet or anything but we need to follow up soon. I don't have an OB, just go to a regular GP for non-IF stuff.

Honestly my opinion of TCM stuff is.....well.....not to offend anyone, but I find it all a bunch of hooey. Especially anything to do with energy channels. And all the supps IMO are either a) a placebo or b) full of unknown who-the-heck-knows-what that can really mess you up. So I don't believe in it. Nor do I believe in fertility yoga, or relaxation/meditation courses. Not for me. I mean I'm GETTING pregnant and none of this stuff will change the faulty DNA make-up in our embryos.

I'm sorry you have lots of fertile friends. That's so tough. Thankfully I've moved away from my old neighborhood and all the new friends I'm making here in Kingston I met when I posted about our m/c, so they're all IF ladies too. Makes it easier!!

PS. If you're interested I can PM you my RL contact info if you want.



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Old Oct 1st, 2016, 09:38 AM   25
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Lace-we have a PAIL network support meeting in Belleville every other Wednesday. If you ever need support its a great group. There are a variety of different women with different loss stories (early mc to full term). It's just nice to be around a group of people that are ok if you talk about your losses. You don't feel so isolated!
I guess for me I have had nothing but misinformation and incompetent care wth Drs that I just don't trust them any more. I try to avoid meds, intervention and Drs that base their knowledge on their opinions. I'm trying the natural route because of all of those fears. Up until now it's not brought me my rainbow but I also don't want my eggs pumped out at a crazy rate so I hit menopause at 40. I just want to get pg so I can move on from this stage. I'm so tired of it!
Ya if you can give me the RL info that would be amazing. Belleville doesn't have any real fertility clinics, we just get referred out. I have a couple friends that went through Ottawa and have had babies but they weren't getting pg at all. I can get pg just can't grow a healthy bean. Dh and I have a dd together so we can have kids.



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Old Oct 1st, 2016, 16:53 PM   26
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Ready, I sent you a PM with my info.

I will try to make it out to a PAIL meeting....good to know they're a regular thing. Weekdays are a zoo though with driving my dance kid around, so I'm not sure if I can make it until the holidays when he's off. :P I hope we can still arrange to meet up for lunch or something sometime as we're so close!

Well if it makes you feel any better, my research says you really can't 'use up' your eggs faster if you do IVF or high dose stims. Your body prepares all of those follies every month anyways, and nature grows the best one to maturation. The stims are just supposed to grow ALL of the follies instead of just one. So in your natural cycle, all of those potential eggs are 'used up' every month anyways. No one really ever runs out of eggs anyhow, we just run out of good viable eggs.

And we're like you, we've got proven fertility with each other. And I'm not complaining because I'm sooooo lucky to have my boys - all of which were conceived with DH. The frustrating part for us is, why did it used to work, and what the heck has changed in us so it doesn't work at all? It can't just be because of age. We're both just-turned 37. That is NOT old enough to explain 5 consecutive losses. So, wtf is going on, and no one can answer that so far.



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Old Oct 2nd, 2016, 12:56 PM   27
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Honestly, I didn't even look In to the stims and what happens but the process just sound so unnatural. It may come back to trying that though as what I'm doing isn't working. I do everything right and healthy for my body (no gluten, sugar, dairy, caffeine, little alcohol), supplements, exercise, etc and it's not working. I had lower than normal AMH but my ND said it was fine and could be improved easily. I haven't retested and really if I have enough eggs that's not so much the issue as if there is a problem with my eggs.
I would just really love to find a dr that wants to really get to the bottom of it and throw every test my way and the have the best laid plan at how to treat things. So far I haven't found that. My ND is amazing but she's also newer to practising hence why she's going to refer me out if no pg by dec.
I do come to Kingston every so often to go to Costco so maybe we can make a plan around that?



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Old Oct 2nd, 2016, 20:08 PM   28
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Ready - that would be great! Let me know next time you plan on being in town and we'll figure something out!

I think for me I'm back to, I'm doing everything right. I just need to get lucky and catch a normal embie for once. I'm back to trying to shove all of this into the background of my life because I'm sick of this crap making me sad.

We got our puppy today!! She's a shih-tzu mix (okay mostly shih-tzu), and what an ADORABLE pile of fluff. We wanted to name her something special to commemorate our latest loss, so we named her Asha, which depending on the indian/Sanskrit/Arabic translation can mean hope, desire, or wish. It is also a derivative of the Swahili name Aisha, which means Life. I thought that was very appropriate.

Unfortunately, I had forgotten how much danged work puppies are LOL!!!



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A puppy is a great distraction...and a reminder what it will be like to have a new baby lol. I have a shih-poo and he was like a brown cotton ball when we got him. They are great dogs with great temperaments. I love the name too!!
I totally get the way you feel. I just want to feel normal and focus on normal things.



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A puppy is a great distraction...and a reminder what it will be like to have a new baby lol. I have a shih-poo and he was like a brown cotton ball when we got him. They are great dogs with great temperaments. I love the name too!!
I totally get the way you feel. I just want to feel normal and focus on normal things.
Oh gosh, it is kind of like having a new baby AND a potty training toddler in one, LOL. Like years 0-3 fast forwarded. I'm so tired, LOL, I'd forgotten how much work puppies are.

Asha's amazing. She is 100% cuddler and bonded to all of us so fast. If I move out of sight and she's napping on the floors somewhere, she will wake up just to move until she's in line of sight again, and go back to sleep. Her favourite napping place is by my side or behind my feet and she needs me so much. I adore her so much after only 2 days! I'll even forgive her accidents on my floors LOL.

I'm feeling more normal, back to dreading going back to appts again. I'm so quick to anger still though, my fuse is VERY short, but I guess hormones dropping and sleep deprivation this week is just killing any patience.

I went to ballet class last weekend, and as I was leaving and putting away my stuff, some lady and her friend with a new baby were next to me. The lady was saying how she wanted another, but "what if she had twins again?" As in, that was the WORST thing she could imagine! Omg. I was thinking some EXTREMELY UNKIND things let me tell you.



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