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Old Nov 15th, 2016, 14:52 PM   1
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Missed Miscarriage?


I went for my first scan yesterday and my doctor predicted I should have been around 11 weeks and 3 days, the scan showed up that I was 7 weeks and 3 days with no heartbeat. Which means essentially I've been carrying him/her for four weeks since I miscarried.

The nurses weren't very sympathetic and actually stuck me in a waiting room attached to the scan room so I got to listen to the next lady have her scan and hear how happy she was (And honestly I could go on and on about how horrible the entire experience was start to finish) - but because of the way they were with me I felt really uncomfortable asking any questions.

Is there any chance at all even slightly that they might have been wrong? On the external ultrasound she was pulling faces and just told me my bladder wasnt full enough so asked if I was okay with an internal scan, she went and got another nurse to do this with her and the second nurse basically just looked said "Yup, I'll leave you to it" and left whilst the first told me there was something there but it had no heartbeat. I just feel they were a bit offhand with the whole thing?

This is my first ever pregnancy so maybe I'm just being overly sensitive to this whole thing but I just feel very uncomfortable with the whole thing. I did have what I thought was really bad morning sickness around the time they say I miscarried, maybe that was a sign? But is there any stories where this has happened and it's turned out to be wrong? I've had no spotting or abdominal pains or anything so this just isn't sinking in and I don't want to go through the next process with any doubt in my mind, and I'm likely clinging on to a tiny tiny little bit of false hope but I just want to be 110% sure..

What are the causes of a missed miscarriage? Could a fall or a knock cause it or is it all to do with DNA etc?



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Old Nov 15th, 2016, 19:58 PM   2
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Nice to meet ya Paramore (Paramore is my favorite band ) First off, im sorry you had to go thru that experience, I probably would've been crying my eyes out and pissed at the same time!!! To my knowledge most to all miscarriages happen do to chromosome issues and cant be prevented. So its probably nothing that you did or anything that happened to you that caused it, if this is a mc.



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Old Nov 17th, 2016, 09:03 AM   3
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Thank you that's made me feel a little bit better, I did have a fall from a horse a few days before they think I've lost Babba so I've been feeling absolutely horrible about it all I know it's my own fault but I didn't know at the time!

I know I should be working on coming to terms with it all but instead I'm clinging on to that tiny tiny shred of hope that maybe the dates were wrong and they'll find a heartbeat next time



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Old Nov 17th, 2016, 13:05 PM   4
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And nothing's wrong with that. We live off of hope, its what keeps us going even after having mc's. Just never blame yourself for what happened and keep your head up and keep looking forward to that day. DH and I are still waiting for our 1st bundle of joy to come along as well. Good luck to you!!



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