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Old Mar 29th, 2017, 23:04 PM   11
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I am so sorry. I also just miscarried. It was my first and it was planned, my husband cried he was so happy when he found out we were pregnant. Just like you the ER was a nightmare. I just laid on the ER bed for hours not knowing what was going on, as I heavily bled on the ER bed until my blood pressure dropped to dangerous ranges. I think ER nurses and doctors get so use to seeing people in pain that they get numb to it and unless they think your life is actually in danger they don't take you seriously. Not everyone at the hospital was horrible to me. The Doctor who did my pelvic exam actually cried and told me how sorry she was and that she also has had miscarriages and not to let anyone else my me think less of what I was feeling.
WhiteLily I'm really sorry to hear about your loss the doctors can really make a difference and even though they're desensitized, at least there are some real people out there like your doctor who cried. Miscarriages are so common, I wish they had specific procedures or staff dedicated to dealing with them as a specialty. I feel like because they are so common, they care even less because they see it so often.


its been 2 months now for us and I feel in and out of depression... I feel like I miscarried again last month because we tried after getting my period, I had all the symptoms but then got my period, quite heavily at that... I'll never know I guess. I know I shouldn't but it makes me feel like my body is defected or completely out of my control. Feeling helpless but trying to stay positive



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Old Mar 29th, 2017, 23:06 PM   12
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I'm so sorry. I've had 2 losses and a terrible experience with my OB both times. My ER staff was actually great. I've now switched OB's but I know the ache of loss compounded by the glib of uncaring doctors.
Thank you! And I'm really sorry about your losses too and I'm glad you switched OBs so you're getting the treatment you deserve



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Old Mar 29th, 2017, 23:10 PM   13
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I'm sorry, I sat in the er waiting room for a 3.5 hrs before being seen. My miscarriage really started up an hour into waiting. It was horrible and only got worse over the next 3 days. I take it hour by hour sometimes. I know there a future and all that but it's still hard I know. You have to let yourself feel everything though and even though it was hard I had to tell my bf I was struggling to keep us from resenting each other. Listening to your own emotions and letting yourself feel them is the hardest but best thing I have done so far. My heart is with you.
Thank you for your kind words I'm sorry for your loss too and I hope you and your bf have worked things out... I found it hard with my husband, as sweet as he is and as much as he was there for me, he would never feel what I did/do and its really really hard to let that go and let him just be there for me.

I'm taking it one day at a time too, was just thinking today though I would have hit my 3 month mark by now got me feeling down... my heart is with you too



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Old Mar 30th, 2017, 10:44 AM   14
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I'm so very sorry for your loss, and for the unfeeling treatment that you received at the hospital. It's awful to have additional unnecessary trauma added at an already horrible time. I just wanted to say, please do feel that you and your husband can grieve for the baby. I think it's absolutely natural to want to keep the pregnancy test - burying it is a lovely idea. Society in general still seems pretty backward in its approach to baby loss, but you are not alone - we are here for you, and we have some understanding of what you are going through. I have just had an early loss too (5-6 weeks), and it being early doesn't mean it isn't really painful. Your little one was wanted and loved. I really feel for you x



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Old Mar 30th, 2017, 17:36 PM   15
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Sorry, I just noticed the date on your original post. I stand by what I said though as you go through those milestones that mark the time since your loss, and I am still sorry for what you went through x



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