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Old Jan 22nd, 2017, 05:02 AM   1
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MMC feeling devastated


I went for a private scan yesterday at what should have been nearly 9 wks to find there was no heartbeat and the baby had stopped growing around 6 wks.

I had no outward signs anything was wrong and although I had minimal pregnancy symptoms, I had some, and did not find it unusual as had next to no symptoms with my ds either who is now 15 months.

I have to wait in limbo until tomorrow to go to epu and be given my options.

I'm devastated and feel like all my hopes have just died. I'm 39 so time isn't on my side. I had a chemical 2 cyles ago. I hate my body for tricking me and letting me believe I was happily pregnant for the last 2 weeks.

We didn't tell anyone about the pregnancy so I don't have anyone I feel I can talk too. My dh is being lovely and trying to be supportive in practical things but he's not great at showing emotions which is what I really need right now.

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Old Jan 22nd, 2017, 05:07 AM   2
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I'm so sorry for your loss xx

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Old Jan 22nd, 2017, 07:14 AM   3
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(((( hugs ))))

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Old Jan 29th, 2017, 05:41 AM   4
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Blue fairy I'm so sorry for you loss. I also went through a mmc at 12weeks . First time pg at 40 . Was devastated but just to give you hope . I'm now 44 and have not one but 2 amazing children had Ds at 41 . Tried again after mc almost straight away . Took 6 months but we got there . And then after Ds I really wanted another . Had to wait 8 months to even try as I had issues with my thyroid , eventually after another 6 months of trying got pg with no 2 .

Don't panic you have time I know you don't feel ok now you need time to heal and grieve but you will xxxxx

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Old Jan 29th, 2017, 14:37 PM   5
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That sounds so much like my MMC experience . Nearly a year after that horrible nightmare, I am 17 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby. Last year was heartbreaking, and I was in such a deep, dark place. We had to go through a second loss as well (chemical). After that we saw a specialist and discovered that I have subclinical hypothyroidism resulting in low E and P. I had to be on supplements my entire first tri and I'm still on levothyroxine, but all seems to be going well. It's so hard to believe sometimes after what we went through. I know that feeling of despair, and I just kept going in spite of it. I know that things are dark and bleak now and we all have our own paths forward, so all I can say is that whatever you are feeling is perfectly. I don't know how or when, but I wish you sunnier days up ahead

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Old Feb 4th, 2017, 21:28 PM   6
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I hate to say that "I'm sorry" because I know that it doesn't help. So instead, I will say you are in my thoughts and prayers. Should you need someone to talk to, I will be I'm sure are many of the other wonderful members of this group.

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Old Feb 5th, 2017, 09:16 AM   7
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I'm with you that's all I can say

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