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Old Apr 1st, 2017, 01:07 AM   1
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Friend is faking miscarriage- I'm infuriated


So my history is 3 miscarriages, two were second trimester, one was 9 wks. This was years ago, but the pain still comes and goes.
My friend is my DH's best friend's wife. She is 19y; had crazy baby fever, but everyone in her family agrees they need to wait and get established
So last week she confided in me she was two weeks late on her period and "hadn't thought she was pregnant until others kept saying how pregnant she was acting". So I asked if she could even be pregnant (was she practicing safe sex etc) and so she said she had already bought hpt that she would take later that night. It was negative. She took another one two days later. Still negative. She then said she had ordered some hpts online that came in a pack so she could test the next week.
Suddenly the next day she said she had gotten a positive with a BLOOD TEST. So I was happy for her and said yay! etc and asked if her husband knew already (cause she was -so- excited about how to reveal, like she's obsessive over it), and she said yes. And I said it was good he got off of work to go to doctor. She said it wasn't at a doctor it was an AT HOME BLOOD TEST. that only said positive or negative....and I was like wait what...I had struggled a million times TTC and never heard of this. I asked if she meant a urine test that she used blood on? And she got very pissy and stated "No. I said it was a blood test."
She then an hour or so later said she was spotting. So giving her the benefit of the doubt that she magically found a home blood hpt test, and told her to get to the ER bc it could be ectopic or everything could be fine
She a couple hours later said they did a urine, blood and ultrasound. She then claimed that her blood was clear of any hormone (even though she had a positive that morning) and that the doctor said she might have had a cyst that was releasing the hcg hormone (-_-) or she may have miscarried earlier that week, and her hormones were back to normal "pretty quickly"

So me and my husband are laughing to ourselves at this bc having been through this, we know this is all a load of bs.
Then this evening she posts that she had a miscarriage and is going on and on with more lies. Even if she believed her lies that she told me about her "maybe miscarrying", she jumped to "we had a miscarriage and need everyone's prayers and love now" and making her husband take off of work to help her.

This is so hurtful to me as a woman and a person who tried so hard to TTC and after so many meaningful losses of my actual children.

I don't know how to handle this or cope with this. And I don't know if you ladies have gone through this before, but I wanna call her out and scream at her. I'm not going to, but it's how I feel



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Old Apr 2nd, 2017, 14:29 PM   2
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Old Apr 4th, 2017, 09:20 AM   3
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I really figured someone would have some kind of comforting advice about miscarriage ptsd.



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Old Apr 5th, 2017, 06:06 AM   4
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What a horrible thing to fake. It's like when someone lies about a death in the family. I would be just as angry as you are! I probably wouldn't call her out on it or even talk about it. When she brings it up, just nod your head. It will be extremely awkward!

I'm not sure if I can offer any comforting advice, but I'm sure it hurts to see someone play around with such an awful idea. Hopefully all of this will pass. I guess she just wanted the attention???



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Old Apr 5th, 2017, 16:17 PM   5
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She very much wanted the attention. My husband and her husband are best friends. So we are more acquaintances and see each other often. She's nice to me and my daughter so that's enough for us to be friends. But she had texted me out of the blue about how her husband had been rude to her lately and not spending time with her and cancelling plans to game with his friends. They've only been married since Nov, so she feels like they never had their honeymoon phase. It was the next day she was claiming she was pregnant but had negative hpts that she showed me pictures of. And three days after that she had her "positive" blood test that she didn't do with doctor. And an hour later she spotted so I convinced her to go to dr. She told her husband at that point she was pregnant so he went with her and doctor said her hormones were zero. Nothing. So I think she didn't wanna get caught lying now that she had her husbands attention

I understand why she did it. But she could've gotten his attention by just claiming chemical pregnancy. Or late period playing mind games. Or ANYTHING. But the whole putting it all over FB. So now I have to hide all of her woe is me posts

Which is still happening!



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Old Apr 5th, 2017, 21:36 PM   6
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That's no fun. Hopefully deep down she knows this is really messed up. And God forbid, if she ever has an actual miscarriage, she'll know the pain never goes away.



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Old Apr 6th, 2017, 11:09 AM   7
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I am sorry you are having to deal with this



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