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Old Apr 28th, 2017, 21:15 PM   1
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D&C, Misoprostal, or Natural to TTC right away?


Hi ladies,

Hope this is in the right forum, if it's not please redirect me. I recently learned that my baby stopped growing at 5 1/2 or 6 weeks. I'm currently 8 weeks with no sign of bleeding, so obviously my body is not processing the loss.

I'm wondering if anyone knows what option is the best (if any) for trying to conceive as soon as possible after the miscarriage. Or does it really not matter? I'm not sure that we will actually TTC right after, but I want to leave myself the option. My husband and I are at peace with this loss thus far, and still feel ready to start our family.

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Old Apr 28th, 2017, 23:08 PM   2
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Hello, sorry for ur loss, I too had a D&C on March 16th @9w. HB stopped at what we believe was the same day we found out we were prego 6w6d. The body is different for every woman. Doctors say you should wait anywhere between 1 to 2 months or at least let your first AF (aunt flow) come the 1st time & start if you want an OPK (ovulation predictor kit) to track when you are ovulating. Look for prego signs w/out driving urself crazy wait the least 10dpo (days past ovulation) then do a HPT (home pregnancy test). If you then get AF then start testing again depending on ur cd (cycle days). I hope this helps some. I'm sure you will receive many more wonderful ladies with their advice and experience to advise. Best of luck. Xoxoxo. I am also doing what I just shared with you as I send you this response 😊😊



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Old Apr 30th, 2017, 02:35 AM   3
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I had a MMC as well at 8 weeks. I took the misoprostal vaginally. By the end of the first day almost everything had passed. When I went for my recheck the OB did have to manually remove some retained product. After that I had about 10 days of light bleeding. My period showed up about 6 weeks later and we got pregnant with our rainbow after that cycle.
I'm sorry for your loss. I hope whatever you choose goes as well as it can.



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Old May 5th, 2017, 04:59 AM   4
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its a completely personal choice, our baby didn't develop but I remained pregnant up until 11 weeks pregnant and had had to wait 3 weeks with scans to see if a baby was going to develop which it didn't so it was a mmc, because id already waited nearly a month I choose to have the D&C I couldn't bare waiting another 1,2 3 weeks for things to happen naturally and in my opinion its less traumatic as you don't have to see or feel everything going away, so obviously d&c is the quicker option as you don't have to wait for it to happen, I had mine done on Wednesday and just had perod like cramps and ive had minimal bleeding.
good luck in which ever you decide xxx



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Old May 8th, 2017, 07:05 AM   5
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Hopefully you've made your decision by now, but from my own research, I would say there is no obvious difference between them. It very much just depends on your body and what your cycles were like before. Obviously, the sooner it happens, the sooner you can get back to ttc, so in that sense a d&c or a medical miscarriage is likely to be faster than waiting for it to happen naturally. But you also don't know how you'll feel and you may want a bit of a break after anyway.

To give you a sense of my own experience, I had a missed miscarriage that I found out about at 8 weeks. Baby stopped developing at 5 weeks. I preferred to wait it out and we waited until 11 weeks with no sign of anything happening soon. So because I really needed to get back to work (I travel part of the week for work, so I couldn't because I didn't want to be risk stuck away from home on my own and miscarrying, so I had to take off time), we decided to opt for the d&c. There is a very, very tiny risk of fertility issues after a d&c (about 1 in 300 might develop problems they didn't have before, of course, there is always a risk of secondary infertility after any pregnancy so you could experience problems even after a natural miscarriage too). But my midwife strongly recommended the d&c over the medical management, particularly because both a natural and medically managed miscarriage still leave open the risk of needing a d&c anyway if there are complications (this happened to a friend of mine a few weeks previously).

It all went smoothly and actually I think it was a much more positive experience than if I can chosen either other option, just because I had already been waiting so long and I was ready to move on. Many ladies seem to get their periods again about 4-6 weeks later, though it can take longer of course, especially if you have irregular cycles anyway. I have regular cycles and have gotten pregnant easily both times, and I'm almost certain I ovulated 2 weeks after the d&C. I don't really know and we aren't ttc because I want to have one natural period first and then we'll try that cycle. But I got all my usual ovulation signs (it's really obvious to me when I'm ovulating, I don't really even need to track it) and I also got two days of + on an opk those days, which went back to negative after. So who knows? But I suspect I'll get my period later this week and we'll be trying again this month.

Sorry for your loss and hope you've decided what you want to do next and are ready to start moving forward whatever you choose. I felt much better myself once I made the decision and knew what would happen.



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Old May 8th, 2017, 14:14 PM   6
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Thanks ladies, just as an update I decided to take misoprostol this past weekend. The experience was not nearly as bad as I've read some people have had, but unfortunately the gestational sac did not pass.

At this point, I'm opting for the D&C to be done this week because I just want it to be over and move on. I opted for the medicine because I wanted to eliminate even the small risk of fertility issues. But I feel like I gave it a chance and can in my own good conscience get the D&C. Hopefully it will be easier for the doctor since I did pass a lot of tissue and so there might be even less risk.

Sorry for all your losses, praying for you all



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Old May 9th, 2017, 06:03 AM   7
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So sorry to hear the medical management didn't work as hoped. It is unfortunately not that uncommon (and like I mentioned happened to a friend of mine only a few weeks before I had my loss). To reassure you, my d&c really went well. I was VERY reluctant to choose that option which is why I waited for so long, but actually it went as well as it could have possibly gone. I hope I never have to go through this again (this next baby will be our last) but if I was, I wouldn't hesitate to do it again. I think it ultimately was the right choice for me.



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Old Jun 28th, 2017, 12:24 PM   8
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I'm glad you made a decision and I'm sorry you had to end up doing the D&C anyway, but I hope all went well.

I chose to take the pills but I won't do this until tomorrow (we just found out Monday that baby's heart had stopped). I'm a little worried because baby was about 9 weeks (supposed to be 13, so I didn't think my body was going to get the hint & miscarry naturally) and I'm not sure how painful it will be but I do have a high pain tolerance. For anyone else on the fence though, I decided to do the medication. It was cheap ($2 at the pharmacy) and if it works it will save me from having to go through a surgery & paying hospital bills. Blessings to all going through this difficult time & decisions.



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Old Jun 28th, 2017, 14:29 PM   9
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I thought I'd update this since I saw it pop up and realised that I responded to it awhile back. We had opted for a d&c (reluctantly, after waiting 6 weeks for a natural miscarriage to happen). I mentioned about how it was all very straightforward and as positive as could be, but I did worry a bit about developing fertility problems afterwards as that is a complication. We found out at the beginning of the month that I'm pregnant again. I got pregnant my first real cycle after the d&c and all has gone smoothly so far (I actually feel pregnant this time, much different than last time which felt nothing at all like my previous healthy pregnancy). So it turned out to be a really good option for us. I hope I never have to do it again, but I would feel okay with that decision again if I had to make it.

BSN2MOM, so sorry you're going through this right now. I hope it all goes smoothly for you, or as smoothly as can be. And you are back to trying soon when you're ready.



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