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Old Jun 6th, 2017, 22:37 PM   1
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would have been due date (miscarriage)


I was pregnant last August/September and then had a miscarriage at almost 8 weeks. it was a shock as this was my and my husbands first baby/ pregnancy. i was devastated even though we had not planned this baby it was still wanted and loved so much. i cried for weeks maybe even moths blaming myself and wondering what i had done wrong or what i could have done better to keep this baby safe. I realized it just happens and there was nothing i could of done or changed which was hard as well as just blaming myself. A few months later it was Christmas and new years and i let go of the pain a little and could think about everything without crying.

but now as my due date is coming up tomorrow i am at a loss again, in horrific pain. Wondering how i'm going to get through these next couple of days. I'm not sure how to manage the sadness, expectations, stigma and also not sure what to do to "celebrate" (commemorate) this would have been life.

advice, help, ideas and anything else that you think may help would be greatly appreciated as i am at a loss of what to do, feel , think etc about anything.



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Old Jun 7th, 2017, 13:16 PM   2
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I am so very sorry for your loss of your precious first baby. Please know you are not alone.

My first pregnancy had numerous complications and resulted in the death of our 1 week old baby girl (Erin). This happened several years ago, and to this day, the week that she was born and passed away never goes without memories. Memories of when I was in and out of the hospital, memories of the day she was born, and struggled for life, and the memory of the day she died. It's a memory that you will always have.

I have found that although it does get a little easier, it becomes less emotional. I have turned the memories into testimonies. In time, you will be able to talk about it and share it with others. I feel that God has used me to help others through their times of loss.

I wish for you the very best possible outcome building your family. Take one day at a time. I will be praying for you.



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Old Jun 8th, 2017, 07:31 AM   3
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Today is the one year anniversary of my due date with our second loss. I am at a bit of a loss as to how to mark the day too. I can tell you that the pain never goes away but it does get easier with time. Having three beautiful children is also a blessing which has helped me a lot but I will always grieve for my two lost babies. Due dates are always hard. Do you mind me asking what your due date was?



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Old Jun 18th, 2017, 22:58 PM   4
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Thank you


I just wanted to say thank you for your help and advice the day was pretty horrible actually the whole week leading up to it and the few days after. i went to work but could hardly even think. but hopefully it will get easier.

my due date for those asking would have been 08.06.2017

i am going to get a tattoo done of the date so i can always remember and have something nice to remember little baby Byrnes by.



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Old Jun 20th, 2017, 09:15 AM   5
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The important thing is that you did get through it. You will always remember and hopefully you will be able to talk about it and share it with others. You will eventually be able to use this tragedy to help others through theirs.

Looking for ways to commemorate your baby is a wonderful expression of ever lasting love. It will get easier. hugz



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