Hi,
Ive just got back from my 1st scan, Im 13 weeks today. When I saw the screen the baby wasnt moving so i automatically expected the worst. The ultrasound woman went to get someone else and after a couple of mins she said there was no heart-beat. Still feeling numb. The dr. gave me a few option but I decided to go have theD@C tomorrow morning.
Anybody have any experience of this? Im so scared.

No hun I haven't had the experience you have but I am sorry to hear of your loss

x

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts are with you. I'm afraid I can't comment on the d&c as I chose to have the medical evacuation but I will be thinking about you tomoro x

so sorry

awwww hun i am so sorry for ur loss it wasnt to long ago where i lost my baby was onli 3 weeks ago i was 17 weeks along and its horrible when u get to ur scan and for the DR to say the words no heart beat.. i kno exactly how ur feeling....

i cant realli say much for d&c as i choose the medication option but i will be thinking of u 2morrow my prayers r with u chick.... if u need to talk dont hesitate to give me a PM

take care x x

I had a missed miscarriage found at just at our routine 12 week scan.

I had a an ERPC about a week later. It was over in twenty minutes. There was some bleeding afterwards, like a period really but not too bad. The cannular going into the back of my hand was uncomfortable and the aneasthetic going up my arm ached a bit but it was nothing compared to the emotional anguish of losing my baby. When I woke up, there was a great sense of relief because I felt like I could start to grieve for my baby without having the physical side of things hanging over me.

I hope everything goes okay for you tomorrow. Very sorry to read about you loss.

Alex

Hi hun so sorry to hear of your loss, I have opted for a ERPC with all my losses except for my ectopic that was drug managed.

Its a quicker option and does bring things to an end medically but emotionally its easier to accept as you dont pass anything

Whatever you decide hope u b ok xx

Im so sorry for your loss hun I had the same experiance last october, i was 14 weeks 4 days and the scan was just still.It was horrendous and I found it very difficult to deal with as i thought i was 'safe' if you know what i mean, because after i hit 12 weeks i just assumed thats a home free card.I also opted for the d&c as i wasnt emotionally strong enough to go with the other 2 routes.I'm glad i did now because it was definatly the best option for me.

I took 2 tablets at 5am the morning of the op, this started some light bleeding and cramps but nothing bad really.Then at 7am i was admitted to the hospital, id been up all night the night before because i couldnt sleep and so i had a nap when i got there.I was taken to theatre at around 9 and i was absoloutly hysterical! I had been fine up until going to the operating room but i was just so scared and upset, one of the elderly nurses held my hand and reassured me until i was put under.I woke in the recovery room and the reality that my baby was no longer with me made me hysterical all over again.I was given morphine and sent back to the ward and i slept for ages.After i went to the bathroom and had a cup of tea they let me go home, if i hadnt slept for so long i would have been home earlier than 5.Be sure to take painkillers every 4 hours to avoid unnecesary cramps and most of all - be kind to yourself during the coming week, plenty of whatever you want to do whatever that may be!

If you have any questions or anything just ask, will be thinking of you tomorrow x

Hugs hun,I'm booked in for the surgical procedure on friday don't know what to say really x

Im so sorry. the same thing happened to me at 19 weeks. Its a horrible shock and it is scary. I didnt have a d & c so can't offer any advice on that but just wanted to send you