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Old Apr 19th, 2010, 08:02 AM   #1
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After spotting for three weeks I got an internal scan. The scan showed baby was smaller than it should be and no heartbeat at 6 weeks. Was booked in for another scan next week but on Saturday I started bleeding. Went to triage and was told (after a horrible exam) my cervix was still closed and pregnancy was continuing but I was high risk. I went on to miscarry yesterday. I don't think it has hit me yet. Have cried a couple of times but just don't know what to do with myself. I have another scan on Thursday to make sure I don't need a D and C. Where do I go from here? I've never done this before.


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Old Apr 19th, 2010, 08:17 AM   #2
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So sorry about this. It really is a challenging and difficult time. Are you off work right now? I would definitely take time for yourself and try and relax as much as possible until Thursday. I know - easier said than done.

Once they do your scan, you will find out whether the mc was "complete" and you can start to try and move on. I have found that I can't move on until there is some kind of finality to my pregnancies - in my case - D&Cs as both of my miscarriages have been missed. I waited for two weeks before getting this last D&C and KNEW that there was something wrong as I waited for my follow up scans. I was a mess until the day of the D&C when I finally could give in an accept the loss.

Talk to your family and friends as much as you can as talking really helps. Cry, cry and cry as much as you need to and just take care of yourself. In time, the pain will subside....it never completely goes away, but I promise you that it WILL get better.


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Old Apr 19th, 2010, 08:20 AM   #3
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I don't know Mrs C. Both times for me before I was in Germany and they don't mess about, they scan you and then send you straight to theatre.

I am assuming that they will tell you after your scan.

I asked the doc today what the hell I should do now and she said just carry on as normal, keep taking the folic acid and we will see you next Monday, if you don't bleed and have pain in between times, if you do, call us.

It is a grey and horrible time for us all x


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Old Apr 19th, 2010, 08:22 AM   #4
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Hi there,
i was in your situation on Valentines day.
I definitely recommend what Lucia said, take some time off for yourself and relax.
Loosing a baby is a really hard thing.
Don't bottle all your emotions up, let them all come out.
You'll feel better, i promise.

I really hope you get better soon and go on to have a successful pregnancy.

Goodluck hunni
xx


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Old Apr 19th, 2010, 08:28 AM   #5
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Thanks everyone. I am off work. I teach primary school so I really couldn't go back just now. I'm off until next Wednesday at least. i wasnt to make sure the bleeding has completely stopped before i go back as I can't go to the loo when I'm in class. Thanks for your support.


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Old Apr 19th, 2010, 08:58 AM   #6
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So sorry for your loss , as everyone said take as much time as you need ive had three weeks and i'm going to docs today to get checked after d&c and to perhaps get other line, i'm not ready yet to go back and i'm not going to forced into it, just take it easy try and relax and remeber we're all here to talk x


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Old Apr 20th, 2010, 03:53 AM   #7
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Sorry for your loss. Try to take some time out and deal with your loss. There is no normal reaction and you will deal with it in you own way. Be kind to yourself.


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