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Old Apr 24th, 2010, 21:00 PM   1
sugrplum
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How painful was your miscarriage?


Hi everyone, I was wondering how painful your miscarriages were physically and how far along you were. I was almost 11 weeks and the pain was the worst I have ever experienced in my life. I was screaming in the emergency room waiting to get a room and then for the doctor- I waited in agony about 2 hours before I got help. I had to keep running to the bathroom because my pads would fill every 5 minutes... it was horrible. The worst 2 hours of my entire life. I am not the type of person to show that I am in pain, I am very shy, but I lost all ability to care about such nonsence with the agony. I just cried and begged for help. Finally they gave me the strongest pain medication they had- dilaudid (hydromorphone) by iv. This still did not completely take away my pain, but it dulled it enough that I could tell it was contractions I was feeling... so strange. The pain finally lessened when I passed the gestational sac. My D&C was actually scheduled for that morning, so I stayed in the hospital and they performed it anyway to make sure nothing was left.

Anyway, I was wondering how normal this experience was and if any of you have given birth (I have not) how the pain compares to labor. It really scares me that labor would be that painful. I always wanted an all natural birth with no pain medication, but now I doubt I would be able to if it was anything like that. Of course you get a baby and are not devestated emotionally so I am sure that helps.



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Old Apr 24th, 2010, 21:10 PM   2
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Hi Sugrplum - I am so sorry for your loss. Your pain level sounds very similar to what I experienced with my first mc. I was at 12 weeks, and I also ended up in the ER. They didn't give me any pain meds until after I had passed the sac. (They eventually gave me demerol.) I am so sorry you had to go through that. I haven't had a live birth yet, either, so I can't say how it compares to that pain. But others have posted on here that the pain is much more bearable when you know it's leading to a baby.

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Old Apr 24th, 2010, 21:13 PM   3
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deeply sorry for your loss, my miscarriage at 11weeks 3days was my worse loss, although mentally my ectopic at 6weeks was worse, i guess it depends with each person my miscarriage at 11weeks was actually more painful that giving birth to my living son at 33weeks gestation, i am sorry you have had to go through this, i hope your getting the support and help you need at this hard time, i have been miscarriage/childloss support leader for 5years if you need anything at all please feel free to contact me

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Old Apr 24th, 2010, 23:28 PM   4
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hugs for your loss i think i was "only" 5 and a half weeks but it was extremely painful, worst pain of my life, and nausea/vomitting... i was so exhausted from the contractions and sweating puddles even though I wasn't wearing a stitch of clothing. seems to me it was quite severe for being so early in the pregnancy it started around 2pm, the worst of it lasted over 4 hrs, and then i continued cramping through the night, of course no medicine would touch it either



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Old Apr 25th, 2010, 02:51 AM   5
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Hey,

Firstly I am sorry for you loss

I was also around the 11 week mark. Mine started off as dull aches abit like period pains but increased to what labour feels like.I thought i wouldnt have much pain being that i was only 11 weeks. I also didnt know at the time that they were contractions.

I would say that this pain was worse than my other two labours. I think it was worse being i knew i shouldnt be in labour and the emotional pain of having no control over what my body was doing and there being only heartbreak at the end of it.

I am sorry you had to go through this

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Old Apr 25th, 2010, 03:58 AM   6
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i was 10 weeks and i had medical management and it was very painful because the pills ruch the m/c and it was the whole m/c crammed into 6 hours. but i was in hospital with mine. it wasnt just physically pain mentally aswell.



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Old Apr 25th, 2010, 04:56 AM   7
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Big hug sugar, Im so sorry

I posted this on bankie's thread the other day:

both sets of labour i had, by the time the pain got so bad it stopped, i had thrown up and nearly passed out, on the Sunday i actually lost my sight for a few minutes ....at that point the contractions stopped and I asked the nurse why it stopped when i went for my pre-op, she said that the throwing up and passing out where my body going into shock and that stopped the labours. She said my body knew id had enough

i know what you mean, i think now that at least i know i can handle labour of sorts. i googled it when it was happening, and googled 'is miscarriage labour worse than labour' and found out that during labour, the pain of the contractions is your uterus trying to open the cervix. After 9 months of pregnancy, the cervix is ready to open, during some mc, the cervix is firmly shut so the contractions pain can actually be worse than normal labour.

again, i dont mean to scare anyone, but i had NO idea what would happen (although it really doesnt happen to everyone - my cervix was very shut and the mc failed and i needed an op)


From what ive read on forums (no official type websites post anything about what happens) it seems that of those who have experienced both miscarriage and labour, some find it worse and some find labour easier than mc - many said that because of the circumstances of labour, its easier to deal with because its a happy event whereas mc is totally traumatic.

i was so shocked when it happened to me, i didnt know what was going to happen and wasnt aware i was going to start having contractions so bad i would pass out and throw up

I hope you are ok and are recovering, its such a horrible thing to experience x



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Old Apr 25th, 2010, 06:01 AM   8
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I have had one at 5+4 and getting scanned tomorrow as there wasnt much blood at all and only minor cramping pain and they didnt seem to think that was right either. Hope everybody can recover from this and move on to happier times x



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Old Apr 25th, 2010, 06:05 AM   9
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Gosh i'm pleased someone posted this. I was in agony with mine, doubled over the settee groaning in pain. On the Mon before the MC was confirmed on the tue by scan i had no sleep as in too much pain. On the tue at the scan they confirmed MC was underway but said pain and bleeding will get worse until i pass the sac which didnt happen til the thurs. Weds morning i had to demand pain relief from my doc as was so painful. Once i passed the sac the pain disappeared instantly. x



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Old Apr 25th, 2010, 12:17 PM   10
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Thanks for starting this thread.


Hi,

Just want to thank you for starting this thread. I miscarried on March 31st, and elected to have a D&C right away because we were about to leave for a vacation. I wasn't sure what to do, as I'm usually a natural girl, but after reading this thread I think I made the right choice. Still sore after the D&C which has me worried, so I am going to start a new thread on that. But, I was starting to second-guess my decision...which of course was made spur-of-the moment and when I was emotionally distraught. So again, thanks for everyone's comments on this thread.

mb



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