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Old May 28th, 2008, 11:40 AM   1
NikiJJones
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Missed miscarriage at 6 weeks. Advice?


Everything was going well until last week when my symptoms suddenly lessened, and I started cramping. They scanned me and said no heartbeat (I was 6 weeks gone) and then my HCG levels started dropping. They confirmed Sunday that baby is no more and said I have had a missed miscarriage. I am devastated. Can hardly cope with anything. They won't do a D&C, and have just told me to go home and wait for the bleeding, which they say may take up to 6 weeks to happen. I feel awful being left in this limbo, and horrible that my little one is still inside me, but dead.
Has anyone else had this situation, and how long did it take for the bleeding to start? I feel like I can't even begin to get over it until I bleed, and can't face the possibility of six weeks like this.
Would love any advice or help.
Niki xxxx



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Old May 28th, 2008, 11:49 AM   2
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So sorry to hear this. I can understand what you are going through. I had a miscarriage about 2 weeks ago but the bleeding started first and I went to them. I had a natural miscarriage so no need for a D&C. I can't give any advice about how long you will need to wait, this agony must be awful for you. Can you not ask again for a D&C as this would make it so much easier for you.

This forum is great for talking about your loss and its good to know that you are not alone in this awful time. Take care of yourself xx



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Old May 28th, 2008, 12:07 PM   3
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Thanks for getting back to me. It helps to have anyone to talk to. My husband has responded by being angry and hard to talk to and my three best friends are all pregnant, so I've nto told them yet. Can't face them at all.
I asked the hosptial for a D and C, but they said no due to the surgical risk. they said if I've not bled in 6 weeks they will consider it.
I'm just so shocked, as I thought it was standard to do a D&C after any miscarriage. I am angry they have just packed me off home to wait.



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Old May 28th, 2008, 12:21 PM   4
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They wouldn't do a D and C at mine either I could either have medical management or do it naturally I opted for the natural way, my story is on here in various posts if you wanna read. I was scanned at 7 weeks then again at 8 + 3 and again at 9 + 3 to find that the sac was empty. I then eventually miscarried at home at 11 weeks, I had a few problems and had to go back in but it can take up to 6 weeks. I've heard that it usually happens when the placenta tries to take over at approx 11 weeks and your body realises that there is a problem and then the process will start. If you have any queries about how ot all happens naturally etc or wanna chat feel free to pm me anytime hun, I know how terrible all this is. Take care. xxxxx



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Old May 28th, 2008, 12:23 PM   5
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I think that is ridiculous. They can give your tablets to speed the process up.

Your friends would want to know even though they are pregnant. My sister is pregnant just now and I couldn;t have got through it without her. I kept everything bottle up for a few days afterward but it got to the stage where I needed to talk about it. Anytime I did, I would burst out crying again, I now have just had 2 days in a row without crying. I am feeling much better now and although you will think that you will never get over it, you will. People will tell you that time is a healer and you won't believe it or will get fed up with people saying it but it is true and for being less than 2 weeks since it happened to me, I do feel much better. I can talk about it and not cry now. I will never forget but it does get easier.

Have you spoken to your GP about what you have been told by the hospital?

I would give your husband a few days and then try to talk to him again. We all forget about the husbands becasue they don't really understand what we are going through but he will be hurting aswell. I found it dificult to speak to my husband also but he did come round and now we are thinking about trying again. Hope things works out for you.xx



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Old May 28th, 2008, 12:54 PM   6
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My GP also said best to wait at least two weeks for natural. I have a feeling I can't have the tablets as I have a medical history of brain hemmorhage and can't take lots of medication, especially anything to do with hormones or blood pressure. I will go back and ask though if nothing happens soon.
I'm glad to hear that time does help. I know deep down it will, but right now even the end of the week is so far away. Luckily I'm off work this week as I teach and it is school holidays. Not sure if I'll be ready to go back monday though and be surrounded by little children. Will have to see.
I will tell friends. I think I'd cry too much on the phone at the moment though, and feels like an awful thing to text to someone.
Thanks for all your replies anyway. it is so good to have found people to talk to.
So sorry to hear about all your losses too.
Niki xxxx



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Old May 28th, 2008, 15:08 PM   7
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First, I am sorry to hear of your loss. I started cramping/bleeding with both m/c that I had first. However, like you, I did lose all pregnancy symptoms...and that was my first inkling that something was wrong. My guess, is that since your Hcg levels are dropping, it won't be long. There are risks with a D&C, and in a way, I think having the cramping and bleeding almost helped with the grieving...I was suffering, and it almost felt good, because something bad was happening. Well, that was my take on it. I hope it doesn't take 6 weeks for you, but we are here every step of the way. Until then, just hold your baby a little longer...you are giving your baby final hugs. (hugs) T



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Old May 28th, 2008, 15:21 PM   8
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My GP also said best to wait at least two weeks for natural. I have a feeling I can't have the tablets as I have a medical history of brain hemmorhage and can't take lots of medication, especially anything to do with hormones or blood pressure. I will go back and ask though if nothing happens soon.
I'm glad to hear that time does help. I know deep down it will, but right now even the end of the week is so far away. Luckily I'm off work this week as I teach and it is school holidays. Not sure if I'll be ready to go back monday though and be surrounded by little children. Will have to see.
I will tell friends. I think I'd cry too much on the phone at the moment though, and feels like an awful thing to text to someone.
Thanks for all your replies anyway. it is so good to have found people to talk to.
So sorry to hear about all your losses too.
Niki xxxx
Hi Niki,

So very very sorry about you lossI to had a missed miscarriage went along to my dating scan to be told no heartbeat from 7.5 weeks, I was given a tablet sent home and told to come back to hospital 2 days later where they would give me more tablets and manage everything from there...But as you have said it probably because of your medical history you sound like a real fighter My only advice is to take every day as it comes and we will be here for you whenever you need us x x x



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Old May 28th, 2008, 15:59 PM   9
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Hope you are doing ok and I'm so sorry to hear you miscarried.
Your emotions will be all over the place over the next few weeks. A big hug to you



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Old May 28th, 2008, 17:02 PM   10
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Hi Niki,

I'm so sorry for your loss. I also had a missed miscarriage (stopped at 6 weeks, found out at 10 weeks roughly). I had a medical management last week as I felt it was the right choice for me (it really is a matter of personal choice).

I found out about 2 1/2 weeks ago now and although I have moments of sadness, I'm much, much better than I was. It does get easier and talking to people on here has made an enormous difference.

Huge to you - we're here if you need us xx



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