Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old Aug 22nd, 2010, 14:59 PM   1
reversal
Mum (Mom)
Active BnB Member
 
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: TYNE AND WEAR
Posts: 917

My thoughtless husband


Hi as some of you will know I was told on monday at a scan that my baby had died at 8 and a half weeks, I opted for the medical management and went in to hospital on thursday to have the baby. its been a horrible week and we have both be devastated, today we had been invited to a bbq we went and two of my friends were there who are both pregnant AFTER MY DH HAD A FEW DRINKS HE SAID DOES ANYONE WANT TO BUY A PRAM THEN LAUGHED, I am so upset and feel really cold towards him, it hurt more hearing him make a joke out of whats happened than anything else i've gone through this whole week. sorry to ramble



Status: Offline
 
Old Aug 22nd, 2010, 15:02 PM   2
Babydance
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
 
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Uk
Posts: 4,075
oh hunny im SO sorry. Sorry for your loss and sorry your hubby is a twit!! He like most guys probably and tend not to engage brain before mouth!! Definatley speak to him once he's sober and tell just how much he's hurt you! Huge hugs sweetie!!! xxxxx



Status: Offline
 
Old Aug 22nd, 2010, 15:21 PM   3
annmc30
Trying to conceive (TTC)
Active BnB Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: north east of england
Posts: 829
aww hun im sorry for your loss and it must just be a man thing my hubby did the same but it was 2 me i did a photo frame of baby and he said to me i dont like that pic its horrible it made me cry and think thats our baby how dare u instead i just ignored him for the day



Status: Offline
 
Old Aug 22nd, 2010, 15:23 PM   4
jen1604
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Wiltshire
Posts: 8,170
I'm so sorry hon Men deal with things in the weirdest ways xx



Status: Offline
 
Old Aug 22nd, 2010, 15:29 PM   5
lynne192
Mum (Mom)
BnB Elite
 
 
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Glasgow, UK
Posts: 11,441
awww sorry hun men like that sometimes, its thier way of coping, i am sorry been through sooo much



Status: Offline
 
Old Aug 22nd, 2010, 15:30 PM   6
truly_blessed
Mum (Mom)
Chat Happy BnB Member
 
 
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: North West, UK
Posts: 2,238
oh sorry he said that hun but it's probably just his way of dealing with it. As insensitive as it is, you know what they say 'if you don't laugh, you'll cry'



Status: Offline
 
Old Aug 22nd, 2010, 16:23 PM   7
aviolet
Other
Chat Happy BnB Member
 
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: USA
Posts: 2,188
i'm going to go against the grain and say this is NOT "just his way of dealing with it" --- this was a clear cut ignorant remark on his part while he was drunk. he was insensitive and did not think of you and that is something i find intolerable. I'd take him aside while he's sobered up and tell him what he did and how it hurt you and WHY it hurt you so he understands in the future not to make such heartless remarks - either when drunk or when sober.

hugs to you hun, so sorry for your loss



Status: Offline
 
Old Aug 22nd, 2010, 16:29 PM   8
reversal
Mum (Mom)
Active BnB Member
 
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: TYNE AND WEAR
Posts: 917
Thanks I thought it was me overreacting



Status: Offline
 
Old Aug 22nd, 2010, 17:17 PM   9
ncmommy
Pregnant (Expecting)
Chat Happy BnB Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Suburbs of Chicago
Posts: 1,408
Men don't think before they speak and add alcohol into that and oh man, watch out! I'm so sorry for your loss and that your husband made such an insensitive remark. You should talk to him about it and see how he is feeling about the loss, sometimes men don't really know how to cope with a loss and end up looking like total jerks!



Status: Offline
 
Old Aug 22nd, 2010, 17:24 PM   10
November1984
Mum (Mom)
Active BnB Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 469
Wow, that is harsh.
Sorry hun, lets just hope it was the alcohol talking.
You aren't overreacting, you have been through something terrible and are allowed this time to be sensitive to the topic especially if it's in regard to an uncalled comment like that. Hugs!



Status: Offline
 
Reply



Bookmarks

Tags
husband , thoughtless

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search






SEO by vBSEO