Hi everyone, to anyone that doesn't know my sad story. I lost my gorgeous baby girl at 21 weeks 2 days before last xmas. Had to deliver her.Totally devastating. Then got pregnant again in April this year but went for 12 week scan to find that baby had died after the 6 week scan. Had a d and c.

So.... I am still finding things so hard and don't really know what to do. We are off to see the consultant on Friday to see if we can have any tests. I just feel that if I carry on and get pregnant again and then I have another miscarriage then I will never forgive myself for not having tests this time round. If they were to come back normal then I would just have to accept that and then try again. But at the moment I cannot think of being pregnant cos I am so scared that it is going to happen again. Can anyone help what sort of tests I should be asking her for on friday. We are happy to go private if she wont offer them on the NHS.

I just want a baby so much and am so scared about the future. My sister is about to give birth which is not helping at all!!
Lots of love to you all xxxxx

sorry for ur losses hun ... dont know about tests.. but i wish you luck for friday.. take care xx

I found this helpful when doing my testing last month.

http://www.fertilityplus.org/faq/miscarriage/rpl.html


Of course ignore the pricing as I am in the US. I got all the blood tests done and all came back normal so the next step is the anatomical testing.

I would so push for testing, even though you have only had 2 losses. Most of what I have read including the link agree that after 2 losses your chances of it happening again are greater so earlier testing should be done. I had to wait for til I had 3 losses but wish I had pushed harder.

Best of luck to you and I am so sorry for all your losses!