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Old Aug 20th, 2011, 18:05 PM   1
shirlls
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Talk about a horrible situation!


I am just home from a colleague's wedding, still feeling very down after my recent miscarriage and not up to socialising that much especially with people I am not that close to (see earlier post today for more details). Not only was there a 2 week old baby at the wedding, but we sat at a table with 2 couples who had just had babies within the last 3 weeks. Conversations at the dinner table were about feeding times, babysitting issues, their labours, etc. One of them even said she was drinking wine during her pregnancies. I just sat there smiling politely while inside I wanted to scream



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Old Aug 20th, 2011, 20:14 PM   2
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I know how you feel believe me, we all just need to take it one day at a time. I lost Ava in March and its almost 6 months and yes I am better , but I still cry every single night before I go to sleep. I miss her so much My neighbor had a baby on June 10th and I avoided her for 6 weeks until one day i saw her outside and she asked how I was doing I said better and then I asked how the baby was and I said congrats and she said to me do you want to see the baby (a girl) I said yes and then I held her for over 20 minutes i was so happy and i was ok until i went home, I cried for hours, but I am glad I did it cause I need to get used to this, it's so hard but believe me time will help us.I am so deeply sorry and I am so sorry you are going through this, i know what its like XOXOOX



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Old Aug 21st, 2011, 05:21 AM   3
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Awww, I am so sorry. That must have been horrible. I am 2 weeks post D&C and I get to go to my SIL's baby shower today. I have been dreading this day since for weeks now (I actually got the invite in the mail when we got home from our U/S where my MC was diagnosed, hows that for bad luck!). I sobbed last night when I wrapped the gift. I am just hoping to make it through the party, since my SIL didn't know about the pregnancy and we decided not to tell her about the MC.



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Old Aug 21st, 2011, 08:25 AM   4
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All that baby talk must have been awful - I think I would have gone and had a cry in the toilets!
I've just found out a friend is preg and due around the time I would have been due from the second baby i lost. I thought I was doing okay (back at work etc) but I just feel so depressed now the same as when I'd just had the mc.



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Old Aug 21st, 2011, 08:29 AM   5
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Aww must have been awful hun...you must be so strong x x x hugs x x x



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Old Aug 21st, 2011, 13:28 PM   6
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Andypanda6570, thank you for your kind words. I am so sorry about the loss of your little girl, it must be so hard for you. Hope you are ok xx

Twinkie2010, I hope the baby shower went ok for you today, or as well as can be expected. I don't know how I could have coped with that. Allow yourself a good cry when you get home if it helps, bottling things up doesn't work trust me. xx

Maggie39, That must be painful hearing of a friends baby being due around same time, I know what you mean about thinking you are doing ok, and then you feel down again. Talk to people around you, it is what has helped me the most as well as coming on here xx.

Minime11, thanks so much for your nice wordss. I certainly don't feel that strong at the moment xx.



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Old Aug 21st, 2011, 16:05 PM   7
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Shirlls- the baby shower went better than expected (I did start off with a drink, so maybe that helped). I guess I got all the emotions out last night. Only one person at the shower knew about my MC, which I was kind of glad about (the one lady that knows is an OB nurse, so she is really nice about it). I try to avoid those awkward conversations when I can. Only two people asked me when I was having another baby- which I was able to just down play. (My son is 8 so I get this question all the time!). I actually feel a little better, knowing that I can survive being around baby stuff and babies. My SIL is due in October and I have another baby shower in November, so I have to get used to these sorts of things! Wish you ladies luck and I hope that you can start to heal emotionally.



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Old Aug 22nd, 2011, 03:59 AM   8
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I am glad it went ok, you are very strong as I don't think I could face that at the moment. but I guess as you said, you had all the emotions out the night before which must have helped. The baby shower was probably in a strange way, a good thing as it showed you can survive being around baby stuff.

Good luck, I hope you have some baby joy in the very near future and that you feel better soon. Well done on coping with the baby shower, that is a major step.

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Old Aug 22nd, 2011, 04:49 AM   9
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I am not as strong as you think, I have just become very good at pretending. Luckily for me it was just one prenant woman and there weren't any babies at the party. I feel for you. Having multiple people talking about babies and pregnancy must have been so hard. I know you will learn to cope with your loss too (I try not to use heal, because I am not sure that I will ever "heal" part of me will alwasy miss my little angel). Hopefully you get your sticky bean soon. Good Luck!



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