Let's definitely keep in touch and good luck with your tests! I hope you get an answer! You will be in my thoughts. Jan 6 is only a few days away! Please keep me posted.

I woke up today after spending new years at my sisters by the beach. My husband and I took an early morning walk on the beach. It was so quiet and energizing. I tried to take in all the positivity and good vibes the ocean holds. It was beautiful and It made me feel good. I thought of all the ladies on here and I felt like its just the beginning. We just need to hold on and not give up.

I'm so sorry for all you have been through in such a short time. I think you are already winning half the battle by being able to get pregnant! You are so fertile! Don't give up it sounds like you are getting closer and closer!

That is interesting about the immune system and I did read about that recently. I haven't had any tests yet but I'm hoping my doc will order a few at my next visit. She said I didn't need them since the ectopic was one thing, the chemical another, and now the Mmc also different! I don't want to go thru this again though when the answer might be something simple they are missing. So I am going to plead with my doc until she does them!!

We will get there rosebud, we just have to be strong and keep on trying! We will be earth mummies!! X x x

I will keep you posted for sure...let me know how you are getting on too... we are all in this together...i am so hoping that 2012 will be our year...i am so nervous about these tests but trying to take it as a positive thing these things are sent to try us...take care lovely xx

I have had all those things since i've been married (1.5 years), and i am in the middle of my missed miscarriage. but i have had no bleeding only severe pain for the last 2 days, i can't even eat, i am in too much pain... i want this to be over with now

hi not yet. i'm so sorry for your losses and that you are in the middle of your mmc right now. how far along were you? are you letting it pass naturally/medical management/surgery? i hope your dr prescribed you some pain meds because you shouldn't be suffering if you don't have to. it breaks my heart to see woman after woman post threads about their mcs on here. it's so not fair. but just know that it's a good place for support and to talk to other people who understand.

It's been about 3 weeks since my mmc and i feel so many things. the physical pain is now gone but emotionally i am still all over the place. overall though i still feel positive about the future and hopefully having better luck next time. my dr says i don't need tests yet but i may see another dr for a consultation and see if they will do basic tests. have you had any tests done? i have been married 1 year and 1 month now. it makes me so sad that we have conceived 3 times but not even 1 baby yet. i feel like i'm letting everyone down because we both told our families & friends and everyone was so excited. my OH says not to worry about everyone else but i do. next time i definitely want to keep it a secret for at least 14 weeks.

yeah i told myself this time i would not tell anyone because it was too soon, but when the doctor told us that it looked like a multiple pregnancy we got excited against my original judgement and told my side of the family (since we were just visiting for christmas) now i have to untell everyone again! how awful- especially since it's like everyone wants to be all empathetic and means well with an added flavour of pity... I rather not be the centre of such unfortunate attention and mourn in quiet...

hello ladies...so sorry for your losses

im going through my 3rd loss in 11 months which has been diagnosed ectopic,my previous 2 were early losses
i dont even think ive had chance to deal with it yet as ive had the methotrexate shot & it seems to be blocking me from dealing with it....
it seems a very long drawn out process & all i want is to deal & heal...

Hello everyone,
So sorry for your losses. Just though id share my story with you all.
I have a beautiful daughter who was 4 earlier this month and we have been TTC since having her(I wanted them quite close!!) It took us about 2 years to get preg with her and the pregnancy was fine.
Now since having her it took me another year and a half to conceive in which we was over the moon!
We lost the baby at 7 weeks by natural m/c.
We then had another m/c at 8 weeks, 3 months later as I fell preg very quick and then fell preg again but lost the baby at 8 weeks.
Now I was tested because of having 3 m/c and all tests came back clear.

After all this I fell preg in aug last year but yet again had a m/c at 7 1/2 weeks
I think id lost hope of havin another and to my surprise found out that I was preg in early Nov but I couldnt get excited.
I went to my doctors and was sent to epu to reassure me.
They decided to check my bloods which came back ok for how far gone I was, then was done again and they dropped every so slightly. I was not told good news I was expecting to m/c.
I got out all the tears and emotions that evening and prepared myself for it to happen. I then went for another bloods just to check and to my surprise they had doubled???
Got my hopes up again, had to have an emergency scan that morning and was not expecting what was coming!!!!
Was quite quickly rushed through into another room with about 5 doctors around me, I was told that the baby was growing in my right tube and had to be rushed into surgery as it was quite big. They couldn't believe that I was in no pain or blood loss.
Im now recovering at home, this all happened a week before xmas
and i think im just getting my head around it.
Im not quite sure what im gonna do now as i feel i cant cope with all this again, Im so scared it will!!!
Il get through it though, always put on a brave face but underneath im shattered.
Ive got to go for more tests now.

But at the end Ive still got my daughter in which alot havent and i cant be more gratefull to have her!!

Sorry for the essay!!!

xxx

i'm sorry for your losses and for the ectopic loss you are experiencing as well. my ectopic was different from my mcs because not only was i losing my baby but they were giving me a shot (but it didn't work so i needed surgery a week later when my tube ruptured) to stop the pregnancy!! it was terrible. why couldn't it have just been in the right place? i was so worried that i would not become pregnant again after my ectopic and partial loss of my tube but i have been pregnant twice since then so that gives me some peace of mind in a weird way. i think i will get there eventually and so will you. please stay positive. you will get heal and don't be afraid to talk about your experience. that is the only thing that has helped me get through this.