Sorry if some of the questions are stupid, but I was given no information from the nurses or doctors on what I am supposed to do. This was the first time I have been pregnant and I found out a few days ago that I'm having a MC. I was just under 6 weeks, and only found out a week ago, so hadn't even got into see my doctor for my first appointment.

1. I don't know how much I am supposed to bleed. Or how many clots?

So far in the last three days, I have had to change 3 pads. I have had 2 small or medium? blood clots pass. Mostly I am just spotting, no where near what I would have if I was menstruating.

2. Am I allowed to get up and do stuff? Or am I supposed to rest?

Today I went out for walk with my hubby and dogs, is this OK? I also did some moderate housecleaning, I am having a hard time sitting stil and sleeping right now. I was given a note from my doctors office for a week off of work, but I think that was more for my mental health.

3. How long does it typically last for once it starts?

4. Should I follow up with my doctor?

The first ER doc (Tues) said to, the second(Wed) said I didn't need to, the one in my doctors off that I got an emerg. visit with (Thurs) said I didn't need to, the third doc I saw in the ER(Thurs) said to just wait to see if my doctor called me(the hospital had me go back in for more tests)

5. How often and how long am I supposed to feel pain?

I'm getting the occasional cramping, sometimes extreme( but controllable with demerol), but just for short periods. I then feel pressure, but am not really in pain for hours.

Again sorry if I should know the answers to these, but I just have no clue what is supposed to happen.

Hi,

I had a natural mc in August 2009 at 7-8wks, so might be able to answer your questions, but unfortunately, every experience can be different....

1. bleeding: for me, it was heavier than a usual period for the first few days. I did have some clots (it was the lining of the uterus) and small fetal clot.
2. You can get up and do whatever you want. In my case, I did spend some time in bed (as a borderline anaemic, I always get worn out first day of cycle) with my OH taking care of me.
3. Duration: I had spotting for two weeks before the mc; after the mc, 3-4 days of bleeding and then on the 4th day, horrible contractions for about 4-5 hours.
4. I would follow up with your doctor. I had a scan to confirm that all had passed.
5. I did feel great pain, especially the last day, and took heavy painkillers (my GP gave me some morphine-based painkillers for a few days). You might not feel much pain, but don't hesitate to take some painkillers!

Some ladies have said that a mc was relatively light, so you might not suffer much physically, but it all depends. The one thing to be aware of is your emotions -- right now, the practical side is the mc, but if you are upset, anxious, crying, etc., that is completely normal. Don't expect yourself to be 'okay' emotionally for awhile. And even if it is two weeks or two months from now, and you are still upset, don't let people make you feel even worse, by saying that you should be over it by now, etc. Take as much time as you need to recover, and the ladies here are a great support....

best wishes

Like SabrinaKat said, every experience can be different...

I was 11 weeks + 6 when I found out baby was gone and measured 8 wks + 3. I miscarried the week after I found out. Had spotting for a couple of days, then the 3rd day was more like it usually is when I'm on my period until around 3:30 pm when it got very heavy suddendly. From 3:30 - 8:30 pm, I filled on average a pad an hour. I decided to call the Dr. since I wasn't sure if I might be bleeding too much. She said I was "borderline," but since I was alone she recommended I go to the hospital. I did have horrible cramps (contractions?). They came in waves and the worst were while I was in the waiting room for an hour and a half to 2 hrs. I don't know for sure if they were contractions, but they did come and go and seemed to get more intense. I probably wouldn't have went to the hospital if I wasn't alone. The waiting room was horrible. I started to bleed through the back of my pants and had to ask for something to sit on. But when they had a bed ready I went back and after a while they pulled what was left of my baby out and the pain and bleeding went down. I guess my body had trouble passing the tissue. I think it was 11:30 or midnight when they pulled it out. For miscarrying at home make sure you have some pain relief. I still wwent to work and did things up until the mc really started and I was unable to do anything except deal with it. I also of course did not go to work the day following my mc. Yours may be a little easier since you were just under 6 wks.

I feel like this is all jumbled, but I hope it helps you some. And so sorry for your loss.

I also agree with SabrinaKat with handling your emotions. You have the right to grieve however you want. I screamed and cried like a baby in my hospital bed.

Thank you all so much, I'm just so scared and confused about all of this. I have done a fair amount of crying, but right now just mostly numb and empty. It's weird, right now the thing that hurts the most is my head, I have had a raging headache for two days.

I've had a bad headache all the way through pregnancy. Today is the first day I've taken paracetamol.