Hi girls,

just had my first d&c done this past wednesday, at 5 weeks. this was our first child and we were over the top as we conceived it the first time we tried.

i started bleeding on wednesday morning and when we went to the hospital they told us the baby has died already and there was nothing else to do, that d&c was a must as the abortion was incomplete and i was risking an infection.

i've never been through a complete deep anesthesia, was completely in a state of shock, but the hospital staff was absolutely great and treated me with care.

i will never forget the feeling of emptiness after waking up in the shock room, felt as if someone has ripped a piece of my own soul away.

my bf and me are still shocked as everything went so fast and it feels like it happened millions of years ago, or as if it was all a dream - both the pregnancy and the mc and the hospital and the d&c.

the beautiful and positive thing in all this is that me and him are taking care of each other the best we can. of course, having full sex is still impossible as i am still bleeding and we'll have to be patient for at least 2 more weeks, until my follow-up visit... but we haven't lost the intimacy and managed to be close and intimate with each other the very next day, which was a huge relief, and brought us even closer.

we both believe our little angel decided not to come around this time, because he had some things to finish before, but that he will come back to us in future. and all we want to tell him is that we love him and we love each other, and will be waiting and are ready for him whenever he decides to come.

Hi so sorry about ur lose its awful, i had a natural MC on sat i was almost 8 wks pregnant with our 1st and the bleeding started on wed so i went up for a scan on friday and there was no heartbeat... i was also wanting a D&C but i went on sat myself i still hav some bleeding and pain but ive to go back in 2 weeks for a check up then il be TTC straight away me and my hubby are desperate for a baby now...x