First pregnancy ended in mc. any hope ?

fletch_W · Mar 21st, 2012, 11:30 AM

Hi there. i had my first bfp at beginning of march which sadly ended in a mc on thursday. I am just wanting to hear about other peoples success stories after mc's. im feeling very nervous about starting to try again and am a little scared that it will end in a mc again. my mother is the only female in our family who hasnt had a mc. is it something that is affected by family history? i just want my mind putting at ease. i am 22. hubby is 31. been married 2 years and trying since we got married. Just really hoping if i fall pregnant again it wont take another 2 years or mc again

MightyMom · Mar 21st, 2012, 11:44 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss hun! There is a 20% chance of m/c. So no matter how perfect your family history, or how good you are about taking prenatal vitamins, or whatever else, you still have a 1/5 chance every time you get pregnant.
Try not to dwell on the "why" of it. Most of us will never know why. But it isn't your fault. I'm sorry you have to go through all this, it really isn't fair to anyone. Big ::HUGS::!!

AlannaB · Mar 22nd, 2012, 11:42 AM

I too am pretty early post-miscarriage, so I don't have a success story (yet!). It took us 7 months to conceive the first time. I also really hope it won't take that long again.

As for your family, my mom never had one. Neither did my grandmother, and she had 4 girls right in a row. My aunt did, but that aunt is my mom's stepsister and not technically related to me. I haven't heard from my other three aunts about it, which I assume means they didn't have them either. That would make me the only female member of my family to have one, and I still did. Rotten luck, but I think it's just a crapshoot. I took vitamins and supplements. I gave up coffee and alcohol cold turkey, and ate mostly organic. But it still happened to me.

My doctor says it won't affect whether I have a healthy pregnancy next time at all. They don't even start to discuss that till you've had 3. She told me before my D&C she had one herself before she had her first child.

fletch_W · Mar 28th, 2012, 07:02 AM

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Originally Posted by AlannaB

She told me before my D&C she had one herself before she had her first child

Im so sorry you had one too. i feel less alone knowing that im not the only one worrying it might take the same time again to conceive. I pray and cross my fingers that we conceive soon!

I quoted what you said about D&C, im pretty new to all the terminology and things. could you explain what D&C means

to us all

SabrinaKat · Mar 28th, 2012, 19:02 PM

I did conceive successfully (LO born last month) after a mc in 2009 and two possible chemicals, so it is possible -- just hang in there! (It did take me two years afterwards, but don't let that scare you!)

best wishes

AlannaB · Mar 28th, 2012, 19:16 PM

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Originally Posted by fletch_W

I quoted what you said about D&C, im pretty new to all the terminology and things. could you explain what D&C means

to us all

My second ultrasound had no heartbeat, so the D&C is the procedure I decided to have the next day rather than miscarry naturally (at that point, it had probably been a week already since the heartbeat stopped, and I didn't want to wait any longer to miscarry naturally).

Good luck to you too! I'm hoping to try again in two weeks or so, if all goes well.

meli1981 · Mar 28th, 2012, 21:11 PM

fletch, a d&c is an operation to remove the fetus. they put you to sleep and "clean out your uterus". its usually done if youre further along, or when your body wont mc everything naturally.

mummylove · Mar 29th, 2012, 02:44 AM

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Originally Posted by fletch_W

Hi there. i had my first bfp at beginning of march which sadly ended in a mc on thursday. I am just wanting to hear about other peoples success stories after mc's. im feeling very nervous about starting to try again and am a little scared that it will end in a mc again. my mother is the only female in our family who hasnt had a mc. is it something that is affected by family history? i just want my mind putting at ease. i am 22. hubby is 31. been married 2 years and trying since we got married. Just really hoping if i fall pregnant again it wont take another 2 years or mc again

sorry for ur loss hun

My first pregnancy ended in a MMC didnt find out till 12weeks that baby died at 6/7 weeks. And 3 and half years later and 4 pregnancies I have 2 beautiful kids. Even though u have had 1 doesnt mean its going to happen again. Every pregnancy is different. Its sad when it happens and heartbreaking but u have to keep ur hopes up otherwise the stress can hold back on u getting pregnant. There is a lady on her who was trying for 2 and half years and she got pregnant and MC and she got pregnant just after mc she didnt even av a period and now she has a daughter who is only a week older than my DS. Chin up hun and i hope ur dream happens soon

Summer55 · Mar 29th, 2012, 06:05 AM

Hi Fletch

I'm sorry for your loss, my pregnancy ended at 18 weeks in Dec 2010 when I went into premature labour , my husband and I had been trying to conceive for one year and six months at the time, I felt just how you describe I was very worried about trying again and totally frightened I could loose my baby if I became pregnant again, thank God I got pregnant in June last year (so it took six months) and now I have my 6 week old baby in my arms, do not loose hope, its difficult but do not let the negative thoughts play on your mind, tell yourself I will have a baby and above all trust in God he is faithful and will provide you with your hearts desire, I hope this is of helps no matter how slight it will work out for you xx

londonangel · Apr 2nd, 2012, 04:34 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss. I miscarried my first pregancy at 9 weeks, when I was 27 (neary 28). My then fiance and I didn't ttc after that until we got married about 16 months later, but we do now have a baby girl, who was born a few weeks after my 30th birthday. Having a miscarriage is horrid, really, really horrid, but when I had mine I was told by the Early Pregnancy Unit that the positive I could take out of it was that I had been able to conceive. I hope that can bring comfort to you as well. Also, you are still young. I realise this probably rings very hollow but there is time for you to try again. One miscarriage, as awful as it is, doesn't mean you will always miscarry. Sending you kind wishes.

Mar 21st, 2012, 11:30 AM	#1
fletch_W Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 1,649	First pregnancy ended in mc. any hope ? Hi there. i had my first bfp at beginning of march which sadly ended in a mc on thursday. I am just wanting to hear about other peoples success stories after mc's. im feeling very nervous about starting to try again and am a little scared that it will end in a mc again. my mother is the only female in our family who hasnt had a mc. is it something that is affected by family history? i just want my mind putting at ease. i am 22. hubby is 31. been married 2 years and trying since we got married. Just really hoping if i fall pregnant again it wont take another 2 years or mc again

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Mar 21st, 2012, 11:44 AM	#2
MightyMom Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 1,857	I'm so sorry for your loss hun! There is a 20% chance of m/c. So no matter how perfect your family history, or how good you are about taking prenatal vitamins, or whatever else, you still have a 1/5 chance every time you get pregnant. Try not to dwell on the "why" of it. Most of us will never know why. But it isn't your fault. I'm sorry you have to go through all this, it really isn't fair to anyone. Big ::HUGS::!!

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Mar 22nd, 2012, 11:42 AM	#3
AlannaB Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: New Orleans Posts: 174	I too am pretty early post-miscarriage, so I don't have a success story (yet!). It took us 7 months to conceive the first time. I also really hope it won't take that long again. As for your family, my mom never had one. Neither did my grandmother, and she had 4 girls right in a row. My aunt did, but that aunt is my mom's stepsister and not technically related to me. I haven't heard from my other three aunts about it, which I assume means they didn't have them either. That would make me the only female member of my family to have one, and I still did. Rotten luck, but I think it's just a crapshoot. I took vitamins and supplements. I gave up coffee and alcohol cold turkey, and ate mostly organic. But it still happened to me. My doctor says it won't affect whether I have a healthy pregnancy next time at all. They don't even start to discuss that till you've had 3. She told me before my D&C she had one herself before she had her first child.

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Mar 28th, 2012, 19:02 PM	#5
SabrinaKat Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Transplanted American living in Ireland Posts: 4,669	I did conceive successfully (LO born last month) after a mc in 2009 and two possible chemicals, so it is possible -- just hang in there! (It did take me two years afterwards, but don't let that scare you!) best wishes

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Mar 28th, 2012, 21:11 PM	#7
meli1981 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 2,275	fletch, a d&c is an operation to remove the fetus. they put you to sleep and "clean out your uterus". its usually done if youre further along, or when your body wont mc everything naturally.

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Mar 29th, 2012, 06:05 AM	#9
Summer55 Pregnant (Expecting) New BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 9	Hi Fletch I'm sorry for your loss, my pregnancy ended at 18 weeks in Dec 2010 when I went into premature labour , my husband and I had been trying to conceive for one year and six months at the time, I felt just how you describe I was very worried about trying again and totally frightened I could loose my baby if I became pregnant again, thank God I got pregnant in June last year (so it took six months) and now I have my 6 week old baby in my arms, do not loose hope, its difficult but do not let the negative thoughts play on your mind, tell yourself I will have a baby and above all trust in God he is faithful and will provide you with your hearts desire, I hope this is of helps no matter how slight it will work out for you xx

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 04:34 AM	#10
londonangel Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 1,467	I'm so sorry for your loss. I miscarried my first pregancy at 9 weeks, when I was 27 (neary 28). My then fiance and I didn't ttc after that until we got married about 16 months later, but we do now have a baby girl, who was born a few weeks after my 30th birthday. Having a miscarriage is horrid, really, really horrid, but when I had mine I was told by the Early Pregnancy Unit that the positive I could take out of it was that I had been able to conceive. I hope that can bring comfort to you as well. Also, you are still young. I realise this probably rings very hollow but there is time for you to try again. One miscarriage, as awful as it is, doesn't mean you will always miscarry. Sending you kind wishes.

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