Hospital keep saying wait....worried

baileybubs · Mar 30th, 2012, 12:26 PM

Hi everyone,

Just wondering if anyone has experienced less than considerate hospital staff? I had a check up scan today a week after having misoprostol for mmc. Basically they told me I should have waited longer before booking a scan and "a week is a very short time" for a miscarriage to complete properly. I was also told that "it looks like the pregnancy sac and feotal tissue is gone but there are still masses that are probably just blood clots". Then I was offered misoprostol again but told it wasn't worth the pain again just to get rid of the suspected blood clots and just to be patient and wait another week and see how the bleeding is then.

Am I overreacting or is it psychological that I don't like the staff dealing with my miscarriage. This has been the worst week of my life and the longest, I'm so heartbroken and had to look check my pad and toilet (sorry tmi) for signs of my dead baby all the time and all they could say was that I should have waited longer and a week is a really short time

baileybubs · Apr 3rd, 2012, 13:11 PM

Also feeling as though I'm being told off for wanting a scan and because I'm worrying. It's been 11 days now since I started bleeding, and there's no sign of it stopping and it's medium to heavy. I'm unsure if this is normal and am just worried that I'm not passing everything properly and all hospital staff keep telling me is that I've got to wait longer......is this generally what others have been told because I've read of other people having follow up scans a week after having misoprostol and if not all clear then having to have d & c, whereas I'm just being told to wait....

Anyone any advice or info that might help my paranoia??

kelly4 · Apr 3rd, 2012, 13:22 PM

I went for the D&C, but the hospital staff told me you can miscarry for up to two weeks. I had really lovely people in the early pregnancy unit, but the A&E doctor was awful. He sent me home bleeding and told me nothing exciting was happening, if I was properly checked he would have been able to tell me I had a missed miscarriage.

baileybubs · Apr 3rd, 2012, 13:57 PM

I think my problem was I wasn't given enough information. They offered me the misoprostol, wait for natural or the d & c and the kept saying how bad d & c was and surgery better as last option. I said I didn't want to be waiting around for it to happen naturally coz I just wanted to draw a line under it, however they then failed to tell me that I'd have a similar wait with taking the misoprostol, they just gave it me.

Also I keep hearing other people bled for 5 or so days, sometimes less but 11 days and still bleeding. I know everyone's different though. It just also worried me that I didn't see the foetus pass and my scan last week showed mixed echoes in my uterus, which the hospital say is probably just clots. I didn't like the way they said probably, scared me more lol!! I just felt the hospital were just not being very fair in how they were telling me things. It was a case of they see it every day so it's nothing new to them, but to me it's all new and scary and heartbreaking

Mar 30th, 2012, 12:26 PM	#1
baileybubs Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: UK Posts: 5,973	Hospital keep saying wait....worried Hi everyone, Just wondering if anyone has experienced less than considerate hospital staff? I had a check up scan today a week after having misoprostol for mmc. Basically they told me I should have waited longer before booking a scan and "a week is a very short time" for a miscarriage to complete properly. I was also told that "it looks like the pregnancy sac and feotal tissue is gone but there are still masses that are probably just blood clots". Then I was offered misoprostol again but told it wasn't worth the pain again just to get rid of the suspected blood clots and just to be patient and wait another week and see how the bleeding is then. Am I overreacting or is it psychological that I don't like the staff dealing with my miscarriage. This has been the worst week of my life and the longest, I'm so heartbroken and had to look check my pad and toilet (sorry tmi) for signs of my dead baby all the time and all they could say was that I should have waited longer and a week is a really short time

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 13:11 PM	#2
baileybubs Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: UK Posts: 5,973	Also feeling as though I'm being told off for wanting a scan and because I'm worrying. It's been 11 days now since I started bleeding, and there's no sign of it stopping and it's medium to heavy. I'm unsure if this is normal and am just worried that I'm not passing everything properly and all hospital staff keep telling me is that I've got to wait longer......is this generally what others have been told because I've read of other people having follow up scans a week after having misoprostol and if not all clear then having to have d & c, whereas I'm just being told to wait.... Anyone any advice or info that might help my paranoia??

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 13:22 PM	#3
kelly4 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Essex, uk Posts: 144	I went for the D&C, but the hospital staff told me you can miscarry for up to two weeks. I had really lovely people in the early pregnancy unit, but the A&E doctor was awful. He sent me home bleeding and told me nothing exciting was happening, if I was properly checked he would have been able to tell me I had a missed miscarriage.

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 13:57 PM	#4
baileybubs Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: UK Posts: 5,973	I think my problem was I wasn't given enough information. They offered me the misoprostol, wait for natural or the d & c and the kept saying how bad d & c was and surgery better as last option. I said I didn't want to be waiting around for it to happen naturally coz I just wanted to draw a line under it, however they then failed to tell me that I'd have a similar wait with taking the misoprostol, they just gave it me. Also I keep hearing other people bled for 5 or so days, sometimes less but 11 days and still bleeding. I know everyone's different though. It just also worried me that I didn't see the foetus pass and my scan last week showed mixed echoes in my uterus, which the hospital say is probably just clots. I didn't like the way they said probably, scared me more lol!! I just felt the hospital were just not being very fair in how they were telling me things. It was a case of they see it every day so it's nothing new to them, but to me it's all new and scary and heartbreaking

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