Had a MC, multiple friends are pregnant :(

katelynnb · Apr 6th, 2012, 00:10 AM

I had a MC in Feb. That was hard enough. On top of it I have multiple friends who are pregnant.

A good friend of mine we shared the same due date. It is hardest to be around her. Hearing all about how her baby is developing and if she is having a boy or girl. Each time she finds things out all I can think about it I should be finding those same things out but im not.

I feel like I have to be fake around all my friends because I don't want to ruin their happiness over their pregnancies just because I MC. Anyone else going through this? I know about 10 people pregnant right now and 4 of us had due dates within weeks of one another.

kelly4 · Apr 6th, 2012, 02:14 AM

I know exactly how you feel, I was due 4 weeks behind my good friend and we planned on baby shopping etc together, I feel lost that I can't share that experience now and even though I am happy for her, I can't really talk about babies at the moment. Since I miscarried last week, two more of my friends have told me they are pregnant. I did get upset as I was thinking of the one I lost, not really that they are pregnant. My oh told me that other people can get pregnant, just wanted to shout at him as I know that, but does not mean that it does not hurt.

Sprite2011 · Apr 6th, 2012, 08:57 AM

Yep in the same boat too! One of my friends is due 1 week behind what I should have been and another is having twins, they are now both showing and scan pics up on facebook and regular updates! (i should be 15 weeks 2 days) and am so sad that i didn't get to keep my baby

I bumped into the friend who is due after i was, unexpectantly last week and felt so sad and shaky afterwards, not good!! feeling particularly sad and emotional today for some reason, its been 7 weeks and keep trying to make people think i'm ok but i'm not really! Hubby is being fab but alot of my other close friends seem to have gone awol, i'm the last out of my group to have kids and i don't think they know what to say

hugs to you both

xx

NewfieFan · Apr 6th, 2012, 09:16 AM

Can I join the party?

Since my m/c I've heard so many pregnancy announcements... it's not even funny! And most of these people I am close too! So, I get to talk to them all the time about their pregnancies! It's hard to smile and be happy for them... and I feel bad when I don't share in their excitement. It's a cycle of being jealous, feeling sad, and then feeling guilty! And it seems like the days that I'm doing good and feeling positive are the days when I run into these people... and then I get down again!

All I can hope is that my day is coming again and maybe all these people will share in my joy!

MrsR3AM5 · Apr 6th, 2012, 11:12 AM

I just saw on FB today that one of my friends is due in October...same month as I was. I burst into tears when I saw the post.

Seoul · Apr 7th, 2012, 05:59 AM

My first pregnancy my sister in law had her daughter the day I found out I m/c I love my niece but every birthday is soo difficult. Then my best friend is just a couple of months ahead of what I should be with my last m/c Not to mention the dozens of babies that have been born in between

This whole thing sucks. You want to be able to share their happiness with them but the sad feelings are over whelming. You are also more susceptible to the word pregnancy so it seems that everyone is having kids. Unfortunately I don't think my feeling will go away until I am able to have my little one.

Good luck to all of you going through this I wish all could magically be better.

Sprite2011 · Apr 7th, 2012, 13:16 PM

Pregnant women are everywhere at the moment- went a bit crazy last night watching tv when there was a women having a scan-its silent witness for gods sake supposed to be dark and miserable! Don't know why but has been really hard today and yesterday screwed up hormones aren't helping! Just want to ovulate!!

CD19 (or 7 weeks if you don't count the pitiful browny bleeding I had which is supposed to be af- sorry if tmi

)
hugs to you all

belle85 · Apr 8th, 2012, 05:02 AM

I know how you all feel ! The day we found out our baby had stopped growing, and I'd have to have a medically managed miscarriage, my sister in-law found out she was pregnant, with her second! I cannot believe how ironic it is, but that's life!

It's also somewhat coincidental, that I had my miscarriage the week before my birthday, and my step-sister in-law, had a still birth the week before her birthday a year ago. I just cannot imagine how hard a still birth must be.

I still can't read magazines like Heat, in-case there's photo's of pregnant celebs. It's hard trying to be happy for pregnant friends/family, when I really feel angry that this happened to me!

katelynnb · Apr 8th, 2012, 12:43 PM

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Originally Posted by NewfieFan

Can I join the party?

Since my m/c I've heard so many pregnancy announcements... it's not even funny! And most of these people I am close too! So, I get to talk to them all the time about their pregnancies! It's hard to smile and be happy for them... and I feel bad when I don't share in their excitement. It's a cycle of being jealous, feeling sad, and then feeling guilty! And it seems like the days that I'm doing good and feeling positive are the days when I run into these people... and then I get down again!

All I can hope is that my day is coming again and maybe all these people will share in my joy!

That has happened to me several time I ran into my friend who is a week behind me and shes like look im showing I am headed to buy maternity clothes want to go. I wanted to scream NO. Same emotions to jealous then i feel guilty for feeling jealous,sadness, alone, It sucks!

katelynnb · Apr 8th, 2012, 12:48 PM

It is comforting knowing you arent the only one feeling the way you do. I just randomly cry and like people have said I don't think until I have a successful pregnancy will I be able to move forward. It truely is a loss and I dont think you ever move on but with time it makes it easier to cope with. Sometimes I just want to curl up into bed and cry my eyes out but I can't because I have to be strong and move forward.

Apr 6th, 2012, 00:10 AM	#1
katelynnb Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Austin Posts: 58	Had a MC, multiple friends are pregnant :( I had a MC in Feb. That was hard enough. On top of it I have multiple friends who are pregnant. A good friend of mine we shared the same due date. It is hardest to be around her. Hearing all about how her baby is developing and if she is having a boy or girl. Each time she finds things out all I can think about it I should be finding those same things out but im not. I feel like I have to be fake around all my friends because I don't want to ruin their happiness over their pregnancies just because I MC. Anyone else going through this? I know about 10 people pregnant right now and 4 of us had due dates within weeks of one another.

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Apr 6th, 2012, 02:14 AM	#2
kelly4 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Essex, uk Posts: 140	I know exactly how you feel, I was due 4 weeks behind my good friend and we planned on baby shopping etc together, I feel lost that I can't share that experience now and even though I am happy for her, I can't really talk about babies at the moment. Since I miscarried last week, two more of my friends have told me they are pregnant. I did get upset as I was thinking of the one I lost, not really that they are pregnant. My oh told me that other people can get pregnant, just wanted to shout at him as I know that, but does not mean that it does not hurt.

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Apr 6th, 2012, 08:57 AM	#3
Sprite2011 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: UK Posts: 331	Yep in the same boat too! One of my friends is due 1 week behind what I should have been and another is having twins, they are now both showing and scan pics up on facebook and regular updates! (i should be 15 weeks 2 days) and am so sad that i didn't get to keep my baby I bumped into the friend who is due after i was, unexpectantly last week and felt so sad and shaky afterwards, not good!! feeling particularly sad and emotional today for some reason, its been 7 weeks and keep trying to make people think i'm ok but i'm not really! Hubby is being fab but alot of my other close friends seem to have gone awol, i'm the last out of my group to have kids and i don't think they know what to say hugs to you both xx

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Apr 6th, 2012, 09:16 AM	#4
NewfieFan Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 149	Can I join the party? Since my m/c I've heard so many pregnancy announcements... it's not even funny! And most of these people I am close too! So, I get to talk to them all the time about their pregnancies! It's hard to smile and be happy for them... and I feel bad when I don't share in their excitement. It's a cycle of being jealous, feeling sad, and then feeling guilty! And it seems like the days that I'm doing good and feeling positive are the days when I run into these people... and then I get down again! All I can hope is that my day is coming again and maybe all these people will share in my joy!

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Apr 6th, 2012, 11:12 AM	#5
MrsR3AM5 Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Delaware, USA Posts: 142	I just saw on FB today that one of my friends is due in October...same month as I was. I burst into tears when I saw the post.

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Apr 7th, 2012, 05:59 AM	#6
Seoul Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Seoul Korea Posts: 211	My first pregnancy my sister in law had her daughter the day I found out I m/c I love my niece but every birthday is soo difficult. Then my best friend is just a couple of months ahead of what I should be with my last m/c Not to mention the dozens of babies that have been born in between This whole thing sucks. You want to be able to share their happiness with them but the sad feelings are over whelming. You are also more susceptible to the word pregnancy so it seems that everyone is having kids. Unfortunately I don't think my feeling will go away until I am able to have my little one. Good luck to all of you going through this I wish all could magically be better.

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Apr 7th, 2012, 13:16 PM	#7
Sprite2011 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: UK Posts: 331	Pregnant women are everywhere at the moment- went a bit crazy last night watching tv when there was a women having a scan-its silent witness for gods sake supposed to be dark and miserable! Don't know why but has been really hard today and yesterday screwed up hormones aren't helping! Just want to ovulate!! CD19 (or 7 weeks if you don't count the pitiful browny bleeding I had which is supposed to be af- sorry if tmi) hugs to you all

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Apr 8th, 2012, 05:02 AM	#8
belle85 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 37	I know how you all feel ! The day we found out our baby had stopped growing, and I'd have to have a medically managed miscarriage, my sister in-law found out she was pregnant, with her second! I cannot believe how ironic it is, but that's life! It's also somewhat coincidental, that I had my miscarriage the week before my birthday, and my step-sister in-law, had a still birth the week before her birthday a year ago. I just cannot imagine how hard a still birth must be. I still can't read magazines like Heat, in-case there's photo's of pregnant celebs. It's hard trying to be happy for pregnant friends/family, when I really feel angry that this happened to me!

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Apr 8th, 2012, 12:48 PM	#10
katelynnb Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Austin Posts: 58	It is comforting knowing you arent the only one feeling the way you do. I just randomly cry and like people have said I don't think until I have a successful pregnancy will I be able to move forward. It truely is a loss and I dont think you ever move on but with time it makes it easier to cope with. Sometimes I just want to curl up into bed and cry my eyes out but I can't because I have to be strong and move forward.

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