Missed Miscarriage I'm devestated - Page 2

Creative · Apr 13th, 2012, 08:20 AM

Really sad to hear your news

babydusting · Apr 13th, 2012, 16:56 PM

there are no words to say to you at the moment that will ease your pain but what i can tell you that the old cliche that times a healer is true..give your self time to come to terms with whats happened hun ,,,its early days and your emotions will feel very raw for a while yet...take things easy as its easy to forget that its tough on you physically as well as emotionally...i lost three babies last year,the last one in october at 13 weeks and yes i still get upset and i still think of the babies i carried and loved dearly but sadly lost but i can now also look forward and have just started ttc again...my thoughts are with you as i know your going through one of the toughest things life can throw at you...sending all of you ladies who are going through a tough time atm big hugs and lots of love xxx

Dotty_B · Apr 13th, 2012, 19:14 PM

Im so sorry to you all, had a mmc in Dec so I inow where you are & what you're feeling. Many hugs, keep strong and please know it never goes away but it does get easier. I know it sounds ridiculous/stupid/mad right now thought.

Massive hugs to all xx

Dotty_B · Apr 13th, 2012, 19:16 PM

Sorry for typos in above, posting on phone

ThinkPositiv · Apr 13th, 2012, 21:25 PM

today is a bit easier for me...although the thought of going to work was out of the question...but then i regretted it....sitting at home all day, with nothing good on tv and some crappy rose wine to sip on (my tolerance is non existant!). i thought for sure i wanted a D&C (my baby had been dead now for 2.5weeks), but when my doc called me to say he could book me for tonight, i changed my mind! going to wait it out till next monday...if nothing, then i will proceed. i tried to look for information on this...how long is it safe to wait it out....i mean at some point will i get sick from the dead thing in me? i dont know.....and i dont want it to get to that point you know....any one know anything about this?

Grieving30 · Apr 13th, 2012, 22:07 PM

So very sorry for your loss.

I, too had a mmc, in February. I know what you're feeling...

Leinzlove · Apr 14th, 2012, 04:10 AM

I'm sorry hun! It is awful. I too had a MMC in March. It is devastating! Do what you feel like doing! I had natural, and Midol helped me with the physical pain.

MrsDavo · Apr 14th, 2012, 05:15 AM

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Originally Posted by ThinkPositiv

today is a bit easier for me...although the thought of going to work was out of the question...but then i regretted it....sitting at home all day, with nothing good on tv and some crappy rose wine to sip on (my tolerance is non existant!). i thought for sure i wanted a D&C (my baby had been dead now for 2.5weeks), but when my doc called me to say he could book me for tonight, i changed my mind! going to wait it out till next monday...if nothing, then i will proceed. i tried to look for information on this...how long is it safe to wait it out....i mean at some point will i get sick from the dead thing in me? i dont know.....and i dont want it to get to that point you know....any one know anything about this?

I'm starting to think the same to be honest, have I chosen the right thing going in for the op Monday.

I've been bleeding on and off since Wednesday but only very lightly. I've had some cramping but again nothing a couple of paracetamol doesn't shift.

Every day I wake up and wonder if it wasn't all just a bad dream. Today I'm not in work, although I went in Thursday afternoon and yesterday morning. They told me not to and have been brilliant but I needed the distraction.

My OH has taken this weekend off work to be at home, and we also have our 5 year old to be up for.

I don't care how many people say " at least it didn't happen lateron " regardless of that, as soon as you see those 2 pink lines its your baby inside you. And we've all lost those.

I don't know if I've made the right choice, did you find out anything about how long we can leave it? xx

Pebbles11 · Apr 14th, 2012, 07:09 AM

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Thanks for the messages,

I'm crying all the time and not sure how I'm going to get through Monday or the next few weeks.

It feels like I've been robbed. X

Hi hon, hugs for you, it is awful. You never think it will happen to you. I found out on April 3rd that my first bub had stopped growing at 7.4, annoying because we had seen a good heartbeat at 7.1. I naturally miscarried at home that night, which I actually found gave me closure and I am glad now that I did this. You will get through it. I am starting to feel better now with a bit more perspective and eager to ttc again. Try to rest, can you get sometime off work? EPU gave me a two week sick note, you are entitled to one.
Ps:I am in Sheffield but work in Chesterfield so near you. X

Pebbles11 · Apr 14th, 2012, 07:13 AM

I see you're in two kinds about the d&c. I was tempted too but. Mine happened at home as I said above. My brother in law is a gynaecologist and he said his advice would be to only have a d&c If it's really necessary. It's a blind operation and things can go wrong HOWEVER most ladies on here have had positive experiences with d&c. My natural miscarriage was the best choice for me, I really felt that my body was doing a natural thing. I did it in the bath with co-coda mol to help. X

Apr 13th, 2012, 08:20 AM	#11
Creative Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: East Yorkshire Posts: 1,234	Really sad to hear your news

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Apr 13th, 2012, 16:56 PM	#12
babydusting Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: uk Posts: 19	there are no words to say to you at the moment that will ease your pain but what i can tell you that the old cliche that times a healer is true..give your self time to come to terms with whats happened hun ,,,its early days and your emotions will feel very raw for a while yet...take things easy as its easy to forget that its tough on you physically as well as emotionally...i lost three babies last year,the last one in october at 13 weeks and yes i still get upset and i still think of the babies i carried and loved dearly but sadly lost but i can now also look forward and have just started ttc again...my thoughts are with you as i know your going through one of the toughest things life can throw at you...sending all of you ladies who are going through a tough time atm big hugs and lots of love xxx

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Apr 13th, 2012, 19:14 PM	#13
Dotty_B Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 66	Im so sorry to you all, had a mmc in Dec so I inow where you are & what you're feeling. Many hugs, keep strong and please know it never goes away but it does get easier. I know it sounds ridiculous/stupid/mad right now thought. Massive hugs to all xx

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Dotty_B Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 66	Sorry for typos in above, posting on phone

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Apr 13th, 2012, 21:25 PM	#15
ThinkPositiv Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: BC Posts: 1,259	today is a bit easier for me...although the thought of going to work was out of the question...but then i regretted it....sitting at home all day, with nothing good on tv and some crappy rose wine to sip on (my tolerance is non existant!). i thought for sure i wanted a D&C (my baby had been dead now for 2.5weeks), but when my doc called me to say he could book me for tonight, i changed my mind! going to wait it out till next monday...if nothing, then i will proceed. i tried to look for information on this...how long is it safe to wait it out....i mean at some point will i get sick from the dead thing in me? i dont know.....and i dont want it to get to that point you know....any one know anything about this?

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Apr 13th, 2012, 22:07 PM	#16
Grieving30 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 135	So very sorry for your loss. I, too had a mmc, in February. I know what you're feeling...

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Apr 14th, 2012, 04:10 AM	#17
Leinzlove Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Ohio Posts: 7,267	I'm sorry hun! It is awful. I too had a MMC in March. It is devastating! Do what you feel like doing! I had natural, and Midol helped me with the physical pain.

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Apr 14th, 2012, 07:13 AM	#20
Pebbles11 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Yorkshire (UK) Posts: 181	I see you're in two kinds about the d&c. I was tempted too but. Mine happened at home as I said above. My brother in law is a gynaecologist and he said his advice would be to only have a d&c If it's really necessary. It's a blind operation and things can go wrong HOWEVER most ladies on here have had positive experiences with d&c. My natural miscarriage was the best choice for me, I really felt that my body was doing a natural thing. I did it in the bath with co-coda mol to help. X

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