Hi Pebbles,

It was comforting to read your message. I'm sorry about your loss.

We will be eager to try again as we tried for 13 months for this baby. But I'm going to wait until I feel ready to.

My partner and I both felt that a natural would be harder to go through, and I don't think it will happen naturally for me. Although I have been bleeding on and off since Wednesday its very light, and baby stopped growing 3-4 weeks ago. I think if it were going to happen naturally it would have done by now.

I actually only started a new job on Thursday. I still went in as I was only to do 2 hours Thursday, 2 hours Friday. I told them on Thursday and they've been great. Told me to take as much time off as I need and that my job is safe as I've not even signed a contract yet.

Thank you, its helpful to know your near me.

I am sending a hug your way xxx

I think women are different in.what they need to do to get the best closure. If a D&C is what you feel is best for you then that's what you should do. I did decide to wait for it to happen on it's own as I felt like that was what I needed to do (no hb at 12 week scan and baby measured 8w3d). It took a week and half after that for my body to finally start the mc and there were many times I was tempted to get the d&c because it was hard to wait. Anyway, do what you feel will help you process this best. In the end, it sucks anyway. ((Hugs))

i havent found out much on how long we can leave it...the general idea i go was that usually you miscarry within 2-4 weeks (if it was a missed miscrriage)..... I just dont want to leave it too long and end up with an infection....and goodness knows how long that will delay this whole trying to conceive business!

i think how you want to miscarry is personl - it is your body, and as long as you make an informed decision, it is your decision to make. i changed my mind because with a natrual miscarriage my doctor said we could try straight away....but with the D&C he recommened 3 cycles....and i want to get trying again ASAP.... if it comes down to it and I need a D&C then i will go ahead...but i will hold of out for a bit.....and if i can avoid any potential unnecessary scaring that could occur with a D&C and the usual potential post operative and intra operative complications that come with any surgical procdure.....then I would like to do that.

the choice is yours - these are my reasons, but they arents necessarily right for you.

let me know how your are doing.

i went for lunch with one of my bestest friends....and it was so fabulous to get out and talk to someone.... and now i am heading out for a walk with myhubby - the sun just came out. take care of yourself.

So Sorry For Your Loss

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i havent found out much on how long we can leave it...the general idea i go was that usually you miscarry within 2-4 weeks (if it was a missed miscrriage)..... I just dont want to leave it too long and end up with an infection....and goodness knows how long that will delay this whole trying to conceive business!

i think how you want to miscarry is personl - it is your body, and as long as you make an informed decision, it is your decision to make. i changed my mind because with a natrual miscarriage my doctor said we could try straight away....but with the D&C he recommened 3 cycles....and i want to get trying again ASAP.... if it comes down to it and I need a D&C then i will go ahead...but i will hold of out for a bit.....and if i can avoid any potential unnecessary scaring that could occur with a D&C and the usual potential post operative and intra operative complications that come with any surgical procdure.....then I would like to do that.

the choice is yours - these are my reasons, but they arents necessarily right for you.

let me know how your are doing.

i went for lunch with one of my bestest friends....and it was so fabulous to get out and talk to someone.... and now i am heading out for a walk with myhubby - the sun just came out. take care of yourself.[/QUOTE]

Hi hun,

Well I went ahead with the D&C. Having never had a natural miscarriage I have nothing to compare it with, but I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. It wasn't so much painful, in fact it was all done in 15 minutes. However it's one of the most emotional and horrendous thing I've been through.

Given the choice I'd probably opt for a general anesthetic should there ever be a next time. I hope not though.

I feel that things are "final" now, and the hospital bury our baby in July and we are allowed to go to the service which we will be doing.
I feel that I'm glad its over and that I didn't prolong it for my own sanity.

I certainly agree that its very personal and you should chose the way that is best for you hun.
Our doctor told us we can try straight away, once we feel upto it, well best to leave it one cycle but that's only for dating purposes with the next pregnancy.

I hope your doing okay hun, I'm home and just feeling a bit drained.

Take Care xxx

Im so sorry to hear about your lose. I know how hard it is. I jut had a m/c about 2 months ago. I took the pill to let my come on its own at home. It was a bit painful but I felt like it was better than surgery. One reason I didn't want to do surgery was knowing I would be going into the hospital feeling pregnant and coming out with nothing. I couldn't wrap my mind around that. I wish i could say something to make you feel better but I know all to well those words don't exist. I will say that I hear you are more fertile after a m/c so maybe in a few months get back to the fun part of baby making and try try again.

MrsDavo

I am glad to hear the ordeal is over and done with for you (the MC...not the emotional, grieving that comes with it). Did they give you concious sedation? I cant imagine being awake for it. Are you off work today? When do are you able to head back? That is comforting to know your doctor said you could try straight away....it was my family doctor that said 3 cycles...i havent actually seen a OBGYN yet. That gives me some comfort if I end up having a D&C. I went to check my HCG again today (going every few days to know when it hits zero)....this has only been the second time i have gone since finding out and I still leave in tears. time is a healer, but I feel I had so much more hope and purpose in life the day I found out I was pregnant.....feeling quite deflated and hopeless these days. take care of yourself.

Hey,

Yes I had a local anesthetic, it was our choice because it meant that my husband could be there with me. They numbed my cervix and then did the procedure whilst I was awake. I think it was that, that was the hardest part. As I said if I ever have the choice again I would choose to be asleep.

I am off work until Thursday at least, more if I need to. They recommended a couple of days to physically recover - emotionally who knows.

I'm sorry that you have had a bad day, I understand that feeling of hope and purpose for the future. We were so excited.

We had some plans that we were going to cancel as they were happening in October when our baby was due, but now we won't need to cancel those. When I think about those things in a positive way, I feel tremendously guilty because I'd have cancelled them all just to have our baby instead.

They did recommend waiting one cycle but said there was no problem with trying again as soon as we are ready. It was also recommended that I continued to keep taking folic acid as usual if we were going to try straight away.

I've had the odd pain this evening, but nothing too bad. The bleeding is very light again now. I think I am relieved in a way that the physical part is over and my body can begin to recover, even if my mind will take a lot longer.

Take care sweetie, I'm thinking of you x

Sorry and wishing that all will get better and things will turn out differently the next time, i had a mmc on feb14th and d&C on feb 16th i was totally devastated and was excited about being preggo i was only 9wks along.

Hi Mrs Davo,
I am so glad I have found this thread. I would be 12 weeks today, but we had our 12 week scan on 11/04/12 and found that although we were definitely pregnant, we had a missed miscarriage too. Our baby left us at 8wks 5days. It is the most awful thing that I have ever been through. My other half is in absolute bits, and I don't know what to say to him to make it any better. I am on expectant management now with the hospital, and it's just constantly on my mind. Every twinge, movement I make, trip to the toilet, i'm on edge wondering - is this going to be it. I've been offered the operation too, but that scares me at the moment, and i'm not sure i'm ready to cope with my feelings about that before i've really processed our news. I'm finding it best to talk about it. I can't believe that until now I haven't known a single person who has miscarried. I am now thinking it's because people just don't talk about it, but they should. My baby was so real to me, and will always be so precious. If you need to chat, please keep coming online, as you are not alone. The next few weeks will be the worst and you will need all the support you can get. Look after yourself, and try to think of all the positives, at least you know you are able to conceive, as small a positive as that is right now. I am a firm believer that life throws things at you that are meant to try you, but that in the end they happen for a reason, make you stronger, and ultimately you will be the best Mummy in the world when your time comes. xxxxx