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Old Aug 12th, 2013, 10:44 AM   1
Orlantha
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Sleep Training


My LO is 10 months and we co-sleep. It was getting harder and harder to be awakened 4-5 times each night. I have always BF'd him back to sleep. So I decided this had to change! My plan was to NOT feed him during the night, at least so frequently. I knew this would be hard.

Here's how it's going:

Day 1: He woke up at 1:30, I rubbed his back for 40 minutes (he cried quietly). Woke again at 2:30, this time back to sleep in only 10-15 minutes with me rubbing his back.
When he woke again at 4:00, I figured he really was hungry this time, so I fed him and he slept contentedly.

Day 2: VICTORY! He didn't wake until 3:15. I fed him and he slept. **This is the best night of sleep he's ever gotten!**

Day 3: Woke up at 1:30. Cried and cried. I could not console him. Frustrated, I finally left the bed and headed for the sofa around 3:00. At about 3:10, Dad came in and brought LO in bed with him. LO still cried and cried. At 3:30, I joined Dad and LO in bed and we all fell asleep. Up again at 4:30, at which point I carried him back in our bed. He ate milk for about one or two minutes and fell asleep quickly (as did I).
Everybody was tired and crabby the entire next day.

Day 4: Woke up at 1:30. I couldn't deal with another night like last night, so I fed him for 5 minutes. He stayed awake for 40 minutes afterwards, but was only cooing, so I just rubbed his back. Up again around 4:00 for an hour. I didn't feed him, so eventually he went back to sleep.

This is hard!

One thing I realized is that I NEED SLEEP! I have changed my bedtime to match my son's. I decided that it was more important to sleep than to do any of my evening activities. This is helping.

One day, my LO is going to sleep all night! I am determined.



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Old Aug 12th, 2013, 11:48 AM   2
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Just FYI
http://evolutionaryparenting.com/nor...-sleep-part-i/



 
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Old Aug 12th, 2013, 14:54 PM   3
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How old is your baby? Many babies under the age of 1 still need night time nutrition. I know how hard it is, but 1 day you'll wake up to a child going off to college. It is only a moment in our lives in the grand scheme of things.



 
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Old Aug 13th, 2013, 08:43 AM   4
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Eesh, I wasn't expecting negativity. I have also read a lot about this topic and understand the benefits of my LO having a well-rested mommy.

I still feed him in the night at least once, but doing it 5 times a night really was unnecessary.

Anyway, congrats to me! He slept until 3:30 again last night, at which point I fed him. Also, it was really helpful for my sanity to start going to bed with the little one.



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Old Aug 13th, 2013, 11:51 AM   5
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No negativity intended! You're not exactly doing extreme DP-style sleep training. I saw your other thread, too, and thought it might help your mental and emotional state during your journey to keep in mind biological norms. I'm not against parent-guided ways of helping a child experience fewer night wakings as long as the parent isn't ignoring a need or leaving them to figure it out alone on their own. I'm glad you're getting better sleep and I hope it goes well for you!



 
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Old Aug 13th, 2013, 11:54 AM   6
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I think it might help tp focus on getting it down to 1 or two wakings where he's hungry and gets fed than trying to cut out all of them. It's quite common for kids to experience thirst wakings well past age 3, even weaned ones.



 
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Old Aug 13th, 2013, 16:21 PM   7
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Are you bedsharing or just co-sleeping? I totally understand needing to get enough sleep for yourself to be functional the next day. Are you able to change the way you feed him in order to get more sleep? I have no idea how many times DD wakes up to feed during the night, but I just pop a boob in her mouth in go back to sleep. As long as she doesn't wake up at 5am or something crazy like that I feel well rested. I find it helps just to sleep in a comfortable nursing bra so that I can feed her with minimal effort.

Anyway, best of luck! There will be a time when he no longer wakes as frequently!



 
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Old Aug 13th, 2013, 16:32 PM   8
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Are you bedsharing or just co-sleeping? I totally understand needing to get enough sleep for yourself to be functional the next day. Are you able to change the way you feed him in order to get more sleep? I have no idea how many times DD wakes up to feed during the night, but I just pop a boob in her mouth in go back to sleep. As long as she doesn't wake up at 5am or something crazy like that I feel well rested. I find it helps just to sleep in a comfortable nursing bra so that I can feed her with minimal effort.

Anyway, best of luck! There will be a time when he no longer wakes as frequently!
^ I second this advice. I always forget that there's a distinction b/t cosleeping and bedsharing. I assumed you were in bed together. If you aren't and you're willing to give bedsharing a try, I can also testify that it minimizes the effect of night wakings immensely.



 
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Old Aug 15th, 2013, 03:17 AM   9
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Thanks for the support! We've always slept in the same bed. I also forget there's a distinction!

Trouble is that I've always been a very light sleeper. I have talked to many other mothers who say they can just fall right back asleep, even while nursing. I'm a bit envious, as I can count the times that's happened to me on just one hand.

I have definitely found that my LO does get hungry during the night. I started out thinking that maybe we would make it through without feedings, but he certainly is not ready to do that. I don't mind one (or even two) per night.

I do think that refusing to feed him every time he woke up has made a difference. He doesn't wake up so much anymore. It didn't take that long, either.



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