It is certainly not my intention to make out that our way is 'the only' way, i can't imagine how i would feel if i lived in Greater London because i dont I live in Salisbury which is a city but a very small/chilled one.
Jasper is very much average, he doesnt talk and only started walking a few weeks ago, i very much doubt he is 'more capable' than anyone elses toddler...
Just talking about how things work for us really, if its different for you then cool... Reins arent something i would want to use on a daily basis, because i would rather he learnt about staying close to me, its that simple really, and if it means putting him on my back (not going back to the house which is what i think you took from my first comment) for a few bits of our walk and getting that right, then thats what we will do
When I haven't put Bethan's reins on, I've regularly had to come back to the house because she won't hold my hand, and I live on a main road. It's the biggest frustration in the universe, having to carry a screaming toddler back home, under your arm...
Like I said, I view them as a handy safety device.
I had 2 of the backpack ones. One looked like a teddy bear and the other was a monkey and I used them with my 2 younger kids, they loved them!! They got to walk like they wanted to and carry their "baby" like mommy did with them. People would get so dang mad when they would see my kids out with their packs on and some would even yell at me that I had no right to treat my kids like a dog. I never treated my kids like dogs I just made sure that they couldn't wonder off or get hurt. I also didn't have the fear of someone taking my kids. I see nothing wrong with using them and will be using one for Airyonna when she is old enough and wants to walk rather than have mommy babywear!
I don't think either way anyone should feel they are making the "better" choice. You make the choices you need to that will best effect YOUR child. Not everything is one size fits all, so to speak. Some kids DO understand more in depth what is going on than others.
I personally live on an acre of land so we have PLENTY of run around space for LO. But I hold her hand when we get close to the mailbox and street (even though we rarely get a car driving down it). The park in the neighborhood next to us we walk to and there is no side walk on the main road which is very busy so I wouldn't even chance holding hands or a rein, I just wrap her to me and walk to the park and let her free when we get there.
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