What's the attachment parenting way of dealing with an inconsolable baby? - Page 2

EarthMama · Apr 2nd, 2012, 14:24 PM

Thanks SO MUCH for the encouragement. This is all so new to me and I put such high expectations on myself and I guess I take it pretty hard when it seems like I cannot soothe my precious little boy and he gets worked up.

I do breastfeed, and since I'm home alone a lot stay naked throughout the day with the baby so we can have lots of skin on skin.

I haven't tried bathing with him yet but I think I'll do that tonight! I think he'll really like that.

I do have a soft structured carrier and have gotten a sling to wear him more frequently.

he's a really good baby overall, but he does seem to be really fussy compared to my friends baby who was born around the same time, even though I know I should not compare our children, it's just something I notice. I think he might be a high needs baby?

I haven't even considered colic, what causes this?

thanks so much for the support, I will do my best to be strong, I get so emotional when he's emotional, it's crazy...we're definitely still linked even though he's out of the womb.

T8ty · Apr 2nd, 2012, 14:30 PM

Isabella went through this and the naked cuddles and baths together seemed to work wonders! You are doing great

xx

NDH · Apr 2nd, 2012, 16:57 PM

I went through a period of this too. Generally have a lovely baby, but for a few weeks she'd get inconsoleable at times. After I ruled out all 'reasons fir her to cry, i'd just hold her and let her freak out on me all the while telling her how much I loved her and reminding myself that i was not a bad mommy and that it would eventually pass. It did. And now we're teething early and so we're doing it again. Its so hard to feel helpless to do anything to soothe a crying baby

Green Lady · Apr 3rd, 2012, 02:23 AM

No one is really sure what causes colic, trapped gas is one theory. If he's crying for hours every night it sounds like it could be that. At least if you found out he was colicky it would give you a reason for his crying. To me it's always the unexplained fussiness that's hardest to deal with.

http://www.babycenter.com/0_colic-the-basics_77.bc

Those early days are so hectic, I know! Especially if you're BF as they're still feeding so much. And at his age your hormones are still trying to sort themselves out. TBH it took me a couple months before I really felt normal again. Motherhood is definitely a learning curve! I know it's easier said than done, but try not to stress things too much. Look after yourself as much as you can. You're already doing the best things to help your little man get introduced to the world! xx

Leffy · Apr 3rd, 2012, 06:02 AM

is there any kind of pattern to it? when i was still able to BF my DD asallergic to tomatoes and peppers so if i ate them she would be in a lot of pain 2-3hrs later when we figured it out she was much better but i had to stop bf at 4months so im not the best NP advisor i dont think

Mum2b_Claire · Apr 4th, 2012, 08:41 AM

i put her in the sling and go outside if i can. sounds crazy but i also try putting her down! sometimes she gets fed up of me fussing over her, goes on her mat for a wriggle and when she gets fed up of that she usually feeds to sleeps easily.

sun · Apr 4th, 2012, 09:56 AM

My son had bad colic for months and sometimes there really isn't anything you can do but be there. I would swaddle him and bounce him on a stability ball, feed on demand, etc but in the end he had colic and time was the only thing that really made a difference. I remember one day I bounced and sang to him for 6 hours in a row - omg I thought I was going to go mad!

And I wouldn't start comparing your babies LOL - they are all so different! Please don't start thinking you are doing something wrong because your baby isn't as calm. My son was definitely high needs - he cried all day for months. But you wouldn't know that now - he is a calm and happy 2 year old (for the moment lol). Usually fussiness starts at a few weeks after birth, peaks, and will start getting better after that. Usually much better by 3-4 months. Lots of hugs! xx

Apr 2nd, 2012, 14:24 PM	#11
EarthMama Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Kapoho, Hawaii Posts: 1,722	Thanks SO MUCH for the encouragement. This is all so new to me and I put such high expectations on myself and I guess I take it pretty hard when it seems like I cannot soothe my precious little boy and he gets worked up. I do breastfeed, and since I'm home alone a lot stay naked throughout the day with the baby so we can have lots of skin on skin. I haven't tried bathing with him yet but I think I'll do that tonight! I think he'll really like that. I do have a soft structured carrier and have gotten a sling to wear him more frequently. he's a really good baby overall, but he does seem to be really fussy compared to my friends baby who was born around the same time, even though I know I should not compare our children, it's just something I notice. I think he might be a high needs baby? I haven't even considered colic, what causes this? thanks so much for the support, I will do my best to be strong, I get so emotional when he's emotional, it's crazy...we're definitely still linked even though he's out of the womb.

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 14:30 PM	#12
T8ty Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Uk Posts: 892	Isabella went through this and the naked cuddles and baths together seemed to work wonders! You are doing great xx

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 16:57 PM	#13
NDH Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Australia Posts: 12,826	I went through a period of this too. Generally have a lovely baby, but for a few weeks she'd get inconsoleable at times. After I ruled out all 'reasons fir her to cry, i'd just hold her and let her freak out on me all the while telling her how much I loved her and reminding myself that i was not a bad mommy and that it would eventually pass. It did. And now we're teething early and so we're doing it again. Its so hard to feel helpless to do anything to soothe a crying baby

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 02:23 AM	#14
Green Lady Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: NW UK Posts: 1,491	No one is really sure what causes colic, trapped gas is one theory. If he's crying for hours every night it sounds like it could be that. At least if you found out he was colicky it would give you a reason for his crying. To me it's always the unexplained fussiness that's hardest to deal with. http://www.babycenter.com/0_colic-the-basics_77.bc Those early days are so hectic, I know! Especially if you're BF as they're still feeding so much. And at his age your hormones are still trying to sort themselves out. TBH it took me a couple months before I really felt normal again. Motherhood is definitely a learning curve! I know it's easier said than done, but try not to stress things too much. Look after yourself as much as you can. You're already doing the best things to help your little man get introduced to the world! xx

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 06:02 AM	#15
Leffy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: UK Posts: 381	is there any kind of pattern to it? when i was still able to BF my DD asallergic to tomatoes and peppers so if i ate them she would be in a lot of pain 2-3hrs later when we figured it out she was much better but i had to stop bf at 4months so im not the best NP advisor i dont think

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Apr 4th, 2012, 08:41 AM	#16
Mum2b_Claire Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Kent Posts: 16,857	i put her in the sling and go outside if i can. sounds crazy but i also try putting her down! sometimes she gets fed up of me fussing over her, goes on her mat for a wriggle and when she gets fed up of that she usually feeds to sleeps easily.

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Apr 4th, 2012, 09:56 AM	#17
sun Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 11,806	My son had bad colic for months and sometimes there really isn't anything you can do but be there. I would swaddle him and bounce him on a stability ball, feed on demand, etc but in the end he had colic and time was the only thing that really made a difference. I remember one day I bounced and sang to him for 6 hours in a row - omg I thought I was going to go mad! And I wouldn't start comparing your babies LOL - they are all so different! Please don't start thinking you are doing something wrong because your baby isn't as calm. My son was definitely high needs - he cried all day for months. But you wouldn't know that now - he is a calm and happy 2 year old (for the moment lol). Usually fussiness starts at a few weeks after birth, peaks, and will start getting better after that. Usually much better by 3-4 months. Lots of hugs! xx

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