I have tried this at various points in my LOs life and just never got on with it LO has always hated it and screamed and then when she does settle down I find it uncomfortable and heavy as she is so upset when being worn that I can't get any practice in getting it right.

I've had a pouch sling, a couple of wraps, a Mei Tai, a hip carrier and even a basic carrier but since LO was born she has screamed in fury if I dare restrain her in one! She had colic/reflux for the first 5months so hated to be in any type of carrier (much rather in a swing with white noise or being walked in the pram) and then she just didn't seem to like being held still.

I haven't tried for a few months and then just ordered a new Mei Tai with sleep hood etc. I tried a hip carry when it first arrived but LO just whinged to get down and I never really got it tied properly. So I gave it a rest and this morning tried a back carry. All was fine until I had to hold LO still against me while I pulled the back and straps up and all hell broke loose - she screamed, arched her back, kicked and then bit me until I put her back down.

So I thought maybe she didn't feel secure with me holding her and asked OH to give me a hand when he got home from tonight. She was fine, OH lifted her up and she thought we were playing piggy back. I got her in and the straps up round my shoulders and then once I pulled it to cross under her bum she screamed at me in a rage. I tied it on anyway and she carried on screaming and fighting for 10mins until OH helped her down.

I feel upset that I am missing out on this even if I only wanted to do it a little bit. And then I really hope that this baby is happy with babywearing (I'm going to get a wrap, a ring sling and my Mei Tai) but then I feel guilty that new baby will get something LO didn't

I definitely think that some older babies like BW and some don't, but when they are newborn most like it. I have found that newborns are used to being cuddled and close, so the continuation of being in a carrier is usually tolerated well. Introducing a carrier later can be hit or miss though - some just do not like it. Also kids can go through phases of being ok with BW, then not wanting it, then wanting it again.

More often I have found that they are unhappy with the carry more than the actual being worn. My son liked to be carried in the cradle hold, but my daughter will scream and scream if I hold her like that - so a pouch sling is totally out of the question for her. My son didn't like most carriers, but was good with the manduca or any hip carry.

But my LOs have both loved BW to different degrees. My son was ok with it as long as there was lots to look at, but I didn't wear him like I do my daughter. She has been in a wrap since the day she was born so doesn't know any different. She also has reflux so the boba wrap was great as it held her upright - she couldn't stand lying down as it aggravated the reflux. She despised the pouch sling and still hates being carried in the cradle hold. But I carry her for hours a day as I have my son to run after. Also I find that most babies want to be moving while being worn and neither of mine have ever tolerated a sleep hood.

But at your LOs age, my son didn't like the carrier at all. He was all about walking by himself and never being carried. When he was around 20 months he was good with it again - especially when I was obviously pregnant and he sensed something was changing. x

Also once you have LO#2 and are carrying them, you might find that your daughter wants it too

The only time she was happy in any carrier as a newborn was when I was hoovering - vigorously!!! I used to pop her in (screaming), hoover with her until she was in a deep sleep then transfer her to the swing on full power with the hoover still running so I could get 30mins quiet. Oh the memories!

She loves being carried all day but just hates being restrained. I carried her in my arms constantly until she was a bit happier but she is still a cuddly and clingy girl and loves nothing more than being held, cuddled or sitting on my knee. She still loves to be carried while I cook, clean etc. hence why I wanted to put her in a back carry as it's not easy one handed but she's just impossible.

Hmmm - when my son wanted to be carried but not restrained he was ok with hip carries. It leaves his arms free, easy to look around and doesn't feel as much like a carrier. But it doesn't really give you two free hands. Plus if you're cooking then they just grab at everything!

I'm starting to think this about our LO - he was okay ish in the moby as a newborn, but there's something about being restrained in a carrier that he just doesn't seem to like. We've got an R&R which I love - but LO doesn't! He'll sleep in it front or back but screams as soon as he wakes. It's so frustrating when, like your LO, he loves being carried all the time but just not in a carrier! Sounds like a hip carry might work for him as he's nosy and doesn't like being face into my chest or back (or hubby's) - but we can't afford another carrier, especially with how he is already with this one.

I think it depends on a few things more than the actual baby not liking it. The type of carrier, the hold your using and what your doing at the time. After 4/5 months my LO hated being worn in the house but was fine if we were going out. She will be worn in the house now only if she's teething, ill or tired and I'm in the kitchen.

I couldent stand in the dining room ironing wearing her but she will be worn if I'm in the kitchen cooking.

My LO prefers being worn to being held. At church on Sunday she started getting tired and being wiggly and couldent make her mind up about where she wanted to be but when I put her in the carrier you could see her physically relax and even though she dident go to sleep she chilled right out.

I tried again today with my friends helped but there was no chance of her calming so I put her in the pram instead. Funny how she's a lazy little madam and asks to go in her pram or be carried rather than walk but she just doesn't like being worn. If I had stuck with it when she was younger I think she'd be fine but just too late now She will go in a basic hip carrier but it kills my neck now and she won't do it in the Mei Tai yet!

I think all newborns like being worn. But sometimes they protest if they are in a uncomfortable carrier/position or if the mom is nervous about it (babies can sense that). Older babies may not prefer it.

Mine hates it too and is so stressful for me to wear him when he is flailing and screaming. Hard to justify buying another carrier to try when he does that. i wanna carry him in one so bad too it makes me all frustrated. i think some just dont like the constraints.