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Old Oct 12th, 2013, 20:39 PM   11
DobbyForever
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I have a saying I tell my students. If you habe to ask if you can do something then something inside of you is telling you it's not right so the answer is probably no.

However, this sounds like societal pressure. Date, get married, have stable jobs, buy a white pocket fence house, and then have babies. 21st century, do what you want and forget everyone else. It's you and OH who decide if you are ready.

But back to my original point, having a baby is amazing. You want to feel comfortable and enjoy sharing that news. If you feel guilty about it then maybe you should be more NTNP than hardcore TTC



 
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Old Oct 12th, 2013, 20:45 PM   12
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As for family. I love my mom. She is my best friend. Everything I do is to make her proud.

When I was 21, I got pregnant. My oh at the time was an abusive drunk, but I wanted to keep the baby. My best friend called me a selfish b looking for attention, my mom yelled at me and we didn't talk for a week. Then, she called me. Even though everyone else still wouldn't even acknowledge my existence my mom flew to my house, stayed with me for a few days, and told me I was her daughter. Nothing would keep her from loving me or being there for me. Even now. She thinks I settled with DH, I'm too young to have a baby, and blah blah... But at the end of her rant, she says she supports me, will love her grandchild, but not be a built in babysitter haha

There might be a falling out, but it shouldn't last



 
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