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Old Aug 16th, 2017, 17:02 PM   1
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NTNP but still nervous/excited/worried!

My SO and I very recently (2 days before O day) decided on the NTNP plan. We are both open to the idea of pregnancy, but now that we've "done the deed", the possibility that it could be now is slightly nerve wracking. I'm 35 with 2 DDs (just turning 10 & 13). SO is not the dad, but has been parenting them with me for almost 2 years and loves the idea of another little one. He doesn't have any of his own.
So here's my neurotic, possibly pregnant brain:
"I'm 35! What the hell am I thinking? My kids are essentially teenagers and I'm doing this again?!"
"I got preggers first try with my other 2. What if this is the month for this one? Already?!"
"Again, I'm 35! Chances of miscarriage and disease go way up!"
"I haven't been to to gym in 2 years. Pregnancy will kill me!"
"I know this is the first month and we're not really TRYING, but man, I hope that stick has 2 lines at the end of the month!"
So, mostly, I'm going insane and just want someone to tell me I'm not 😂😂😂

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Old Aug 16th, 2017, 19:07 PM   2
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You're not insane! First of all, you aren't old Second of all, it's normal to have mixed feelings about this type of thing!

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Old Aug 21st, 2017, 20:57 PM   3
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We're ntnp our 3rd. We went through fertility treatments with our 2nd so we're like "wth is the point in preventing?". There are days I question our decision, but I think that's totally normal. 35 is not old btw.

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Old Aug 27th, 2017, 05:33 AM   4
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We are also officially NTNP. I came off the pill on 14th July. I've had my first real period.

I think I ovulated the night before last or last night (I had the dull aches on the left both nights) We've DTD multiple times this week.

I don't know about you girls, but this 'not trying' thing isn't really true. I've become obsessed with it he he. I can't help but google every possible 'symptom' that is clearly only in my head!

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Old Aug 30th, 2017, 15:04 PM   5
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Ive just turned 33 and hoping for another baby, I don't feel old but I know the risks go up a little.
I've been with my guy for 2 years and he's been with me and my DD too so we're in a similar boat

It is scary and sometimes I think "oh my God, is this a good idea!" but then I know it's just a normal worry to have about a big life changing decision.

I'm currently waiting to O, or have AF or be pregnant! Last time I came off the pill I got pregnant first month but this time I think my body is a bit different.

Good luck TTC

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Old Feb 22nd, 2018, 13:25 PM   6
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LOL I understand your concerns. I've had 2 kids in my 30's and didn't have any issues. Right now there is a chance im pregnant with my 4th and it's scares me and excites me. We have a 3 yr old and 7 month old so we would really have our hands full. My step mom got pregnant at 42 with my sister and she had an uneventful pregnancy. Good luck to you!

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