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Old Jun 25th, 2018, 13:45 PM   11
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I can totally relate to you all I've been broody since my LO turned 3 and he'll be 10 in a few months It's not the same overwhelming broodiness that I had for about 5 years but I still do hope deep down that I'll be blessed with another baby.

MY DH is completely adamant he doesn't want anymore, we planned to only have one and he found the baby / toddler stage so unbelievably tough (was a SAHD) that he doesn't give an inch! He enjoys parenthood much more now our son is older although he still finds the sense of responsibility hard at times. He can't understand at all why I would want to rock the boat or make life tough again

I've not been on any contraception for about 3 years and rely on the pull out method, every month without fail I wonder if perhaps I have fallen pregnant but at nearly 37 I know my age is starting to work against me. I do wonder too whether I'm almost at an age where I wouldn't want to have any more, I think if it doesn't happen within the next year or two that I will be able to let it go. At the moment I'll be 43 and him 45 when our son turns 16 and I can't really wrap my head around the notion of being in my 50s if we had another by the time they reach 16.

I'm definitely more at peace than I used to be, I love my LO so dearly and am so very grateful to have him in our lives and I also love my husband and know I need to respect his wishes. But we're both very big believers in what's meant to be so if I am lucky enough to be blessed with another child I know my husband will come around eventually.

I've just found out a childhood friend is pregnant with their second and it did stop me in my tracks, I'm so happy for them but I can't help but think why can't it be me, why can't my husband see the benefits like I do. Having children is the hardest job in the world but also the most rewarding, momentous and joyful experience and I know if I did it all again now I'd make sure to enjoy every second without the same worries that you have with your first. I also think about our future and feel that the difficulties we'd face in the short term would be totally outweighed by the benefits of having a larger family when they're all grown up.

I don't know, I just wish there was a way to turn off the feelings but ultimately you can't help how you feel. It's definitely a massive challenge for a relationship when you both want something so fundamentally different from life but my love for my family unit and my husband outweighs the desires I have and I would never do anything to jeopardise that.

Wishing you ladies lots of luck and hope you find peace with whatever your destiny is


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