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Old Jul 25th, 2011, 01:19 AM   #1
mommy2lilmen
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so, a text from the hubby


tonight i text my hubby on his way to work, as a nightly tradition we do.
I mentioned I had to remove my FRER from the bathroom cupboard because one of the older boys seen it.
he asked which one. I said who.
I then proceeded to say that i often wonder what it would be like had I needed to use the test and what the result would of been and how it would of been for us for the result.
he answerd that he often wondered to.
I replied to that, good or OMFG wonder?
He replies, good wonder.
I reply, so if I was, which Im not, you think it be good?
He replies Well if it happens, we would embrace it. Would still like to wait a bit like we have talked, but if it did happen, we/I would love it and embrace it.
I replied that Im glad to hear that, and it makes me feel better.

See we are doing the pull out/calendar method, no condoms and no bp. We got my tubes untied 3 years ago, and have 2 babies since. We are wanting one more but not sure when the best time would be.
What should I take from that? Should I take it as that he is ok if it happens now, but would rather wait...or should I read between the lines and take the hint and wait?
I cry alot, I want to be pregnatn again. I want to TTC for a girl. and I miss being pregnant.
I feel selfish and would like to just have sex as normal, know my schedule and if a slip up happens, it happens. I dont know. I would feel guilty that I should use condoms. But its up to him to, correct?
Ugh, im confused

I woudl like to try in the spring tho. But I also would love to just let it happen whenever.
We dont have a big enough vehicle for another, should that matter? we have an 8 seater right now and we are a family of 8. We dont have the room for another in the house, or should that matter?
What should I think of DH text? What would you think?


 
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Old Jul 25th, 2011, 01:33 AM   #2
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From what i have found out about my DH when he says some thing he means just that no hidden between the lines just plane and simpel.


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Old Jul 25th, 2011, 01:34 AM   #3
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From what i have found out about my DH when he says some thing he means just that no hidden between the lines just plane and simpel.
Mine to, he says for me to stop trying to read between the lines and accept things. so what should I do, what would you do if you were told that?


 
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Old Jul 25th, 2011, 05:58 AM   #4
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Iwould be realy hoping it ment we could try but not go in to over kill with the need to bd now as it is o day and just go with when we wanted to.

It is a bit of a 50/50 i think you need to sit down proper and talk it out.


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Old Jul 25th, 2011, 13:08 PM   #5
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Iwould be realy hoping it ment we could try but not go in to over kill with the need to bd now as it is o day and just go with when we wanted to.

It is a bit of a 50/50 i think you need to sit down proper and talk it out.
Ty..I will have talk with him this weekend as my older boys would be at a visit with their dad.


 
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Old Jul 25th, 2011, 18:42 PM   #6
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It sounds to me as though he would be happy whenever it happens but would just prefer for it to happen later. I would keep with NTNPing and just let nature take it's course. I know you want to be PG again and you will, probably sooner rather than later with your fertility. Try not to rush it, that will only cause more stress on your relationship than either one of you needs.


 
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Old Jul 25th, 2011, 18:59 PM   #7
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It sounds to me as though he would be happy whenever it happens but would just prefer for it to happen later. I would keep with NTNPing and just let nature take it's course. I know you want to be PG again and you will, probably sooner rather than later with your fertility. Try not to rush it, that will only cause more stress on your relationship than either one of you needs.
thank you.
Now to only guarantee a girl baby hehe.
I may try the shettles or sway method. with a slight diet change, vitamins, etc. will see.


 
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Old Jul 26th, 2011, 01:35 AM   #8
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I think that is why my DH won't say yes to ttc as we have 2 boys and would love a girl but he dosnt think there is a chance that we would get a girl.


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Old Jul 26th, 2011, 04:39 AM   #9
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I think that is why my DH won't say yes to ttc as we have 2 boys and would love a girl but he dosnt think there is a chance that we would get a girl.
Lol I have 6 I should give up hope.


 
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Old Jul 26th, 2011, 05:43 AM   #10
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you neve know you could get a girl next time. there is 11 grandsons on DH side and 2 of each on my side so i think we would get another boy


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