am I too young to have a baby?

jayne1991 · Mar 18th, 2012, 17:54 PM

Hi everyone, I'm currently 20 but will be 21 by the time I have a baby as I am turning 21 in a couple of months. I came off the contraceptive injection a couple of months ago now and me and my partner aren't using anything, we are just seeing what happens. However I worry wether I am too young to have a baby?
I am currently studying a 2 year course to become a teaching assistant and my partner (who is 22) is undertaking an apprenticeship at bentley motors, we both live together at my mum and dads and we are recently engaged and saving to buy a house next year (2013). I was just wondering wether I was in a good situation to bring a baby into the world or not?
I believe it is the best time as my course is only once a week in the evening so I have plenty of time (apart from doing my assignments) but I would also get loads of support from my mum who is a housewife.
Let me know what you think

thanks

mum2jaydon · Mar 19th, 2012, 06:01 AM

hi, no your not too young, its probably the perfect time, i had my son 12 days after turning 21 and i was in college at the time, i managed to finish college, me and my partner were also saving for a house and he works for his dad, well now we have a nice house and a perfect lil family

good luck to you xx

tinkerbelle93 · Mar 19th, 2012, 06:05 AM

I don't think it really depends on your age.. more on you as a person, your situation, relationship etc. etc.

Sounds as though it could be a good time for a baby.. although if I were you I might prefer to finish off my course first? And buy a house first? Since you're doing all that soon then it'd just mean waiting a teeny bit longer.

It's up to you though (: xx

mmlovepink · Mar 19th, 2012, 06:50 AM

Youre definitely not too young. I'm 21 and OH is 24, even my mum thinks it time for us to start having kids lol. It just depends on you as a person. Some of the worst mums are significantly older than us. Age doesn't really play a part once you reach 18ish, you've matured enough and understand responsibilities at this point. Good luck xx

jayne1991 · Mar 19th, 2012, 08:55 AM

thanks, i really appreciate your opinions, thought i was worryin over nothing

xxx

MrsBroodyPant · Mar 19th, 2012, 09:22 AM

If I was you I would wait until 2013 when u have your house and finished college. But thats just me :-) x

zilla · Mar 19th, 2012, 14:28 PM

age is just a number! I'm 22 (will be 23 when/if it happens) & we feel ready.
Good luck xx

jessandaj · Mar 19th, 2012, 14:32 PM

No your not as long as that is what you want see me and my husband got married when i was 17 and well we started trying pretty much right away because its what we wanted i knew inside that i was ready to be a mother and he was ready to be a father and if your in the right situation like we were which you sound like you are then i think having a baby is fine, i always wanted to be a at home mother though but thats not for everyone and since your getting a education to be a teacher im guessing you do want to be working

nugget80 · Mar 20th, 2012, 06:59 AM

no as i was same age as you when i had my first. however if you feel the need to even ask that question then perhaps deep down you are not ready?!

catnip7500 · Mar 20th, 2012, 07:16 AM

I was 19 when my first was born and 21 when my second came along. I was also married and in the military. Being a mother is more about maturity and life circumstances than your age. Best wishes hon

Mar 18th, 2012, 17:54 PM	#1
jayne1991 Waiting To Try (WTT) New BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: cheshire Posts: 8	am I too young to have a baby? Hi everyone, I'm currently 20 but will be 21 by the time I have a baby as I am turning 21 in a couple of months. I came off the contraceptive injection a couple of months ago now and me and my partner aren't using anything, we are just seeing what happens. However I worry wether I am too young to have a baby? I am currently studying a 2 year course to become a teaching assistant and my partner (who is 22) is undertaking an apprenticeship at bentley motors, we both live together at my mum and dads and we are recently engaged and saving to buy a house next year (2013). I was just wondering wether I was in a good situation to bring a baby into the world or not? I believe it is the best time as my course is only once a week in the evening so I have plenty of time (apart from doing my assignments) but I would also get loads of support from my mum who is a housewife. Let me know what you think thanks

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Mar 19th, 2012, 06:01 AM	#2
mum2jaydon Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: bristol uk Posts: 212	hi, no your not too young, its probably the perfect time, i had my son 12 days after turning 21 and i was in college at the time, i managed to finish college, me and my partner were also saving for a house and he works for his dad, well now we have a nice house and a perfect lil family good luck to you xx

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Mar 19th, 2012, 06:05 AM	#3
tinkerbelle93 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: UK Posts: 1,941	I don't think it really depends on your age.. more on you as a person, your situation, relationship etc. etc. Sounds as though it could be a good time for a baby.. although if I were you I might prefer to finish off my course first? And buy a house first? Since you're doing all that soon then it'd just mean waiting a teeny bit longer. It's up to you though (: xx

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mmlovepink Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: london Posts: 673	Youre definitely not too young. I'm 21 and OH is 24, even my mum thinks it time for us to start having kids lol. It just depends on you as a person. Some of the worst mums are significantly older than us. Age doesn't really play a part once you reach 18ish, you've matured enough and understand responsibilities at this point. Good luck xx

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Mar 19th, 2012, 08:55 AM	#5
jayne1991 Waiting To Try (WTT) New BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: cheshire Posts: 8	thanks, i really appreciate your opinions, thought i was worryin over nothing xxx

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Mar 19th, 2012, 09:22 AM	#6
MrsBroodyPant On a break (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 2,971	If I was you I would wait until 2013 when u have your house and finished college. But thats just me :-) x

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Mar 19th, 2012, 14:28 PM	#7
zilla Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: UK Posts: 1,149	age is just a number! I'm 22 (will be 23 when/if it happens) & we feel ready. Good luck xx

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Mar 19th, 2012, 14:32 PM	#8
jessandaj Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: missouri Posts: 1,781	No your not as long as that is what you want see me and my husband got married when i was 17 and well we started trying pretty much right away because its what we wanted i knew inside that i was ready to be a mother and he was ready to be a father and if your in the right situation like we were which you sound like you are then i think having a baby is fine, i always wanted to be a at home mother though but thats not for everyone and since your getting a education to be a teacher im guessing you do want to be working

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nugget80 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: hertfordshire Posts: 1,801	no as i was same age as you when i had my first. however if you feel the need to even ask that question then perhaps deep down you are not ready?!

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catnip7500 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Guam until 2015 Posts: 21	I was 19 when my first was born and 21 when my second came along. I was also married and in the military. Being a mother is more about maturity and life circumstances than your age. Best wishes hon

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