Going from TTC to NTNP

MrsAttard · Mar 21st, 2012, 21:58 PM

Any thoughts on how to do this? I mean, we've been TTC for a year and half, and due to some issues, I think we're going to have to back off for a while. I just don't know how! I know when I ovulate, and I'm taking extra vitamins and stuff, so I don't know how to un-know! I don't know how to relax and just 'let it happen'! Anyone else gone from TTC to NTNP? Suggestions?

wishnhoping · Mar 22nd, 2012, 08:46 AM

We are in the same boat...we've been actively TTC since September 2011 and due to DH's health issues we are going to NTNP. I personally am just going to stop using opks and tracking my cycle and just BD when we feel like it without pressure. I have a general sense of when I ovulate but Im trying to push it ot the back of my mind. You cant UNknow what you already know just acknowledge it but dont put any pressure for anything to happen. Good luck! i know itll be tough for both of us

KitKaboodle · Mar 22nd, 2012, 10:04 AM

Me and my SO were TTC for mnths! And then I was pregnant and had a MC in 2010. Its taken me a year and half to get back to this point.....And I decided...I can't work so hard for something....and stress my self out...just to lose it all over again....So this time...we're not really trying as hard.....but we don't do the normal pull out method (TMI SORRY!!) this way....I don't stress myself out!! after a 40lb weight loss....here's to hoping!!

Cheska · Mar 22nd, 2012, 12:06 PM

Thanks for your post I'm wanting to do the same. I hate how much I know now

ladycherry · Mar 25th, 2012, 11:30 AM

I'm the same, off contraception since Dec 10, actively tried until about last may but have now backed off.

But how is it possible when you know the time you are likely to be ovulating? I wish I was ignorant to it all!

I've found that sex has definately become a bit 'baby making' and if I'm honest we just don't have enough of it.

I want to get the passion back and just f**k like the old days! My OH just seems a bit uninterested in sex these days, I don't want it to become an issue but to me it is a bit.

So my aim is to get some fun back in the bedroom somehow and try not to know what 'date' I'm on.

Need to delete that fertility friend app.....

MrsAttard · Mar 25th, 2012, 16:33 PM

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Originally Posted by ladycherry

I'm the same, off contraception since Dec 10, actively tried until about last may but have now backed off.

But how is it possible when you know the time you are likely to be ovulating? I wish I was ignorant to it all!

I've found that sex has definately become a bit 'baby making' and if I'm honest we just don't have enough of it.

I want to get the passion back and just f**k like the old days! My OH just seems a bit uninterested in sex these days, I don't want it to become an issue but to me it is a bit.

So my aim is to get some fun back in the bedroom somehow and try not to know what 'date' I'm on.

Need to delete that fertility friend app.....

I totally know what you mean! DH and I don't have sex enough either, though I think it's mostly due to his meds anyway. He just had an SA done and I'm betting it'll say his testosterone is low too. I don't know that we had 'old days' with lots of sex, but it would be nice not to think "do I need to put me legs up for 15 min now? or can I just go clean up?" I think I might need to get rid of my app too, I just can't being myself to it. It's also helping me plan vacation around my period! lol

moose31 · Mar 27th, 2012, 16:41 PM

hey !! so glad i found this thread! AF showed her head today. I felt like she was coming yesterday and decided if she shows I am not actively ttc for a while...Started TTC April of last year. Not sure how to do this full heartedly b/c i know i will be counting days subconciously

hopefully can get in to see OB/GYN in the next couple months

pluck15 · Mar 28th, 2012, 18:18 PM

I want to try NTNP for the next couple of months also since all you really hear is "relax and don't stress". We were actively trying before. So my plan is to leave it up to DH. Since he's rather clueless about all of the timing and dates, and fertile period and all that. He just knows when he feels like DTD. So that way there is no chance of me pressuring him or asking him every other day. He gets to decide when, and I just won't say no! Hopefully that'll keep the fun in it and the stress out!

StephiiBaby · Apr 4th, 2012, 16:38 PM

Im thinking of trying this too, except ive just spent loads of money on a cbfm and test sticks

so i dont wanna of wasted my money. I cant help but know when im ov due to awful pains :/ x

fides · Apr 4th, 2012, 19:37 PM

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Originally Posted by MrsAttard

Any thoughts on how to do this? I mean, we've been TTC for a year and half, and due to some issues, I think we're going to have to back off for a while. I just don't know how! I know when I ovulate, and I'm taking extra vitamins and stuff, so I don't know how to un-know! I don't know how to relax and just 'let it happen'! Anyone else gone from TTC to NTNP? Suggestions?

yes, we tried and tried, then decided not to try the cycle we got pregnant.

hide the opk's, don't temp, don't count days (or try not to), and try not to check mucus. if u have an app tracking it, yeah, maybe time 2 turn that off.

finally, if u still know when you might be, just don't tell your DH when u think you are ovulating. then, let him initiate any marital embraces and don't worry about staying in bed with legs up. that's about as ntnp as i can think of, lol!

good luck, and enjoy not stressing over ttc!

Mar 21st, 2012, 21:58 PM	#1
MrsAttard On a break (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: New York, NY Posts: 314	Going from TTC to NTNP Any thoughts on how to do this? I mean, we've been TTC for a year and half, and due to some issues, I think we're going to have to back off for a while. I just don't know how! I know when I ovulate, and I'm taking extra vitamins and stuff, so I don't know how to un-know! I don't know how to relax and just 'let it happen'! Anyone else gone from TTC to NTNP? Suggestions?

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Mar 22nd, 2012, 08:46 AM	#2
wishnhoping Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Maryland Posts: 1,318	We are in the same boat...we've been actively TTC since September 2011 and due to DH's health issues we are going to NTNP. I personally am just going to stop using opks and tracking my cycle and just BD when we feel like it without pressure. I have a general sense of when I ovulate but Im trying to push it ot the back of my mind. You cant UNknow what you already know just acknowledge it but dont put any pressure for anything to happen. Good luck! i know itll be tough for both of us

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Mar 22nd, 2012, 10:04 AM	#3
KitKaboodle Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Georgia, USA Posts: 610	Me and my SO were TTC for mnths! And then I was pregnant and had a MC in 2010. Its taken me a year and half to get back to this point.....And I decided...I can't work so hard for something....and stress my self out...just to lose it all over again....So this time...we're not really trying as hard.....but we don't do the normal pull out method (TMI SORRY!!) this way....I don't stress myself out!! after a 40lb weight loss....here's to hoping!!

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Mar 22nd, 2012, 12:06 PM	#4
Cheska Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 678	Thanks for your post I'm wanting to do the same. I hate how much I know now

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Mar 25th, 2012, 11:30 AM	#5
ladycherry Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 18	I'm the same, off contraception since Dec 10, actively tried until about last may but have now backed off. But how is it possible when you know the time you are likely to be ovulating? I wish I was ignorant to it all! I've found that sex has definately become a bit 'baby making' and if I'm honest we just don't have enough of it. I want to get the passion back and just f**k like the old days! My OH just seems a bit uninterested in sex these days, I don't want it to become an issue but to me it is a bit. So my aim is to get some fun back in the bedroom somehow and try not to know what 'date' I'm on. Need to delete that fertility friend app.....

Status: Offline

Mar 27th, 2012, 16:41 PM	#7
moose31 Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: NH Posts: 755	hey !! so glad i found this thread! AF showed her head today. I felt like she was coming yesterday and decided if she shows I am not actively ttc for a while...Started TTC April of last year. Not sure how to do this full heartedly b/c i know i will be counting days subconciously hopefully can get in to see OB/GYN in the next couple months

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Mar 28th, 2012, 18:18 PM	#8
pluck15 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: California, US Posts: 346	I want to try NTNP for the next couple of months also since all you really hear is "relax and don't stress". We were actively trying before. So my plan is to leave it up to DH. Since he's rather clueless about all of the timing and dates, and fertile period and all that. He just knows when he feels like DTD. So that way there is no chance of me pressuring him or asking him every other day. He gets to decide when, and I just won't say no! Hopefully that'll keep the fun in it and the stress out!

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Apr 4th, 2012, 16:38 PM	#9
StephiiBaby On a break (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Blackpool, uk Posts: 166	Im thinking of trying this too, except ive just spent loads of money on a cbfm and test sticks so i dont wanna of wasted my money. I cant help but know when im ov due to awful pains :/ x

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